He’s hit me and I don’t know what to do

[ThinkINeedHelp]

I’m crying and I probably won’t make much sense but please try to help me see straight.
Had an awful evening. I know it started as my fault. I was cross as trying to house train two puppies but it’s been a bad day with them today. I was a bit annoyed and swore. I didn’t swear at anyone, it was a case of oh ffs, this is getting ridiculous.

He was angry with me and we argued. It’s eventually ended up with him grabbing my wrists, shoving me against the bedroom wall and then hitting me in the face. My nose hurts, so does my shoulder.

I’m now going to be homeless. I’ve no family, no friends anymore, don’t work and I live in his house. I’m so utterly pathetic.i can’t drive as I’ve had two glasses of wine but come tomorrow I’ll have to leave.
I’ve allowed myself to end up in this position , I’m in my late 50’s and I can’t believe I’ve been so bloody stupid.

Well done. Stay safe.

Hope you took his bank card to buy anything you need. What an arsehole. I honestly think I'd have killed him in your place.

I have been rooting for you from the sidelines.
Well done, agree with others, report it all asap.
Call WA.

Well done op. You deserve so much better.
You need a little place of your own to call home. One that you can relax in and not have to walk on eggshells.
My aunt had to start again due to dv. She was in her 60s . Nothing in her name. She now rents a small house . Nothing flash but she has made it cosy. And she just budgets her benefits very well. She had also been convinced to not work. I think it was a way of making sure she didnt have money.

Mumsnet at its finest, the woman has escaped some serious abuse and you are worried about the puppies. What was she supposed to do take them with her limiting her options further?

Well done! Keep that phone off and don’t let him get in your head when it goes back on. You can’t trust a word that comes out of his mouth, even if he does try for an Oscar win with an ill change performance.

Agree. Not her puppies not her problem.

With someone who cares about them more than he does his own partner.

Well done, well done, well done!

Being on your own and starting over looks scary but it’s way better than living in fear and isolation.
Take one day at a time and ring all the helplines pp have offered.
wishing you a happy peaceful life to come x

OP well done, you are an inspiration

Been following this thread and so happy to hear you're out, well well done!! Stick to your guns and stay out, your new life begins today! :)

I know others worrying about the pups seems unreasonable, but I think it comes from a worry that his anger might turn to them instead, it's sadly a possibility. If you feel able to report eventually it wouldn't just be for you, but any other woman he gets involved with in future, and more immediately, the pups too. I posted the dogs trust freedom project already, for those escaping your situation, but that's a consideration for another day. https://www.dogstrustfreedom.org.uk/ Don't go back yourself though, whatever you do ❤️ You're now free to make your own choices, so do what is best for you from now on :)

But right now, you're free! Well done, I wish you so well OP, I am extremely proud of and pleased for you :) Enjoy the rest of your life, it won't be easy to start with but you've taken the first, most difficult step, you must be so strong. Keep going.

Call the police and show them this thread.

Goodness gracious me! I did not think that would happen. Absolutely gold star A+ result from you, @ThinkINeedHelp . You have been so incredibly strong.

I wish you peace.

This is brilliant news. I wish you all the very best for a wonderful future. 💐

Just read the whole thread. OP you’re brilliant! Well done 👏🏻 cheering you on from over here. Now you’re out, you can have space to think and your future will be so much brighter without that waste of space in it. Don’t worry about particulars. Things will work out for you

Thank goodness you're out. Here is to your new life x

@ThinkINeedHelpwell done. It must have taken a huge amount of courage to leave.
Good luck to you! Hope he has a stroke while you’re gone.

Been reading and keeping everything crossed. Well done OP! You’ve got this, one foot in front of the other, you will make it.

Well done for getting out OP, you’ve been so brave to make that first step.
Do not go back whatever do.
Contact women’s aid tomorrow for help

You have shown such strength.

Wishing you peace and happiness in your new life

Well done, you found tremendous strength to get out of there. I can only imagine how scary it was. Wishing you all the best for a peaceful future. Please let us know how you are getting on xx

Amazing OP, hope you are getting some good rest!

Op thank goodness. Please when you’re able to update us to so we know you’re safe. Never, ever go back. Good luck with your freedom.

So relieved for you. Stay strong - not easy I'm sure, but this is the start of a better life.

Don't forget the links others gave you earlier up thread. Also, don't be afraid of posting on here for support, suggestions and chatting things through with others on this forum.

Well done!!! 🤗🤗😘

it will all be OK!

you are a million times better off than you were last night.

I know it's hard, but TRY not to believe all the shit he told you about what people & the police would think/say. That was all just to try & control you.

I hope you sleep really well tonight at the hotel xx