He’s hit me and I don’t know what to do

[ThinkINeedHelp]

I’m crying and I probably won’t make much sense but please try to help me see straight.
Had an awful evening. I know it started as my fault. I was cross as trying to house train two puppies but it’s been a bad day with them today. I was a bit annoyed and swore. I didn’t swear at anyone, it was a case of oh ffs, this is getting ridiculous.

He was angry with me and we argued. It’s eventually ended up with him grabbing my wrists, shoving me against the bedroom wall and then hitting me in the face. My nose hurts, so does my shoulder.

I’m now going to be homeless. I’ve no family, no friends anymore, don’t work and I live in his house. I’m so utterly pathetic.i can’t drive as I’ve had two glasses of wine but come tomorrow I’ll have to leave.
I’ve allowed myself to end up in this position , I’m in my late 50’s and I can’t believe I’ve been so bloody stupid.

Hope your first day went well! Been thinking about you 💐

As he says he can replace OP I do hope he finds a live-in help who charges £25 an hour and won’t clean up dog poo in the middle of the night.
The sheer arrogance of this man. And stupidity.

£25 an hour? That's cheap

Sorry it is what it is was quoted recently but it was for very basic stuff!!!

Wanted to pop back on quickly just to let everyone know that I have had a great first day! Thanks for all your well wishes. Will come back later to give a better update x

@ThinkINeedHelp so pleased to hear that! Was thinking about you today!🤩

I’m so happy for you OP.
I can’t wait to hear all about your day .
If nobody has told you today , your doing incredible xx

Great news, have a lovely evening and I look forward to reading about it!

First day was a really nice experience. The job is pretty straightforward and everyone has been friendly.
My new neighbour goes to a yoga class with a couple of others from work and they’ve asked if I’d like to go next week, I said yes.
They’re also taking about trying an art class and asked if I’d fancy it, now I cannot stress enough just how appalling my drawing abilities are but it seems that that’s half the fun. So I might just give it a whirl.

The downside of today, this morning there were three missed calls from a with held number. This afternoon another two plus a voicemail, the ex.
He can’t understand what is going on, why won’t I speak to him etc.
I ended up sending a text basically I told him that, I assumed me walking out should have told him all he needed to know. I will no longer put up with his abuse and that I do not want him to contact me again.
I’ve ordered a new SIM card this evening.

That’s amazing OP, sounds like you’ve really landed on your feet, being met by such nice people. Good for you , you deserve it!

What a wonderful turn around OP, I'm delighted for you. I bet it's made you step brother really happy to have you around too. It's so lovely that he could help you and you've reconnected.

What a great update. I'm so pleased for you that your first day went well. They sound like a nice bunch of people too.

Please try not to let him put a downside on anything you are achieving. Change your number & continue to move on. You are amazing x

I really enjoy your updates OP.

A wonderful update OP. Once you've changed your number and continue on the path forward.

You are handling everything so well.

i hope you enjoy the yoga and the art. I started yoga a month ago and it’s surprising how quickly I felt a difference and that I could do things. A couple of the poses I find really hard but I started by setting a 10 second target.

The thing with art for people our age, there were those in the class at school that were naturally good and then there was me, I never got anything on the wall etc always assumed I was awful but after about 30 years of assuming I was rubbish there was no point doing it I had a go, I’m right, I’m not very good, but I really enjoy the process of not being very good. So when I go on holiday now I will take a sketch book and paints. So go, have fun, also look up brush party events you could do that with your neighbours too just make sure you keep the paint water and your glass of wine separate.

Another great update so happy for you!

The withheld numbers on your phone could be the police trying to contact you if he’s reported you missing. Have you spoken to the police at all?
He's following the script nicely, next step is threatening suicide, he won’t do it.

OP you said you blocked him

maybe you didn’t ?

either way, I wouldn’t respond to him for your own safety

Blocked his number. Not the one on withheld he was calling off.

Or maybe he bought a new SIM because he couldn’t think of any other way to continue the harassment?

If he contacts you again or tries to OP you could point out he doesn’t have to understand just accept that you’re done and after another request to not contact you again if he does try you will inform the the police.

But yes he might start on the “I will kill myself without you” so a new SIM a much better idea.

We all know what’s going on he thought he had a free housemaid and nurse he could treat how he liked forever. And he wants that back. And he is prepared to continue to abuse and manipulate until he gets what he wants and thinks he deserves.

And it works with a lot, what he hasn’t calculated is OP having a great step brother, found a fun kind and inviting new neighbour, found a job in minutes, had the intelligence to grab what was necessary and the bravery to walk away.

He is hoping OP is crying herself to sleep in her car every night. Ho hum.

Op, the difference between your first posts and your latest, is wonderful to see.
You sound like a new person ❤️.

lovely to read how you are rebuilding your life.

You've sent a message saying you've left. His daughter has spoken to you and you've said you are safe. Unless one of your neighbours heard the abuse and have told the police they think he buried you under the patio it would not be the police. If it was the police they could track your car and check on you, those withheld numbers are not the police.

Do make sure your gp and dentist, if you have one, get your new phone number.

Great update OP. Yeah, a new number is the way to go. So glad your job is good, and it looks like you're making friends already. Couldn't be a better result. The only way is up.