He’s hit me and I don’t know what to do

[ThinkINeedHelp]

I’m crying and I probably won’t make much sense but please try to help me see straight.
Had an awful evening. I know it started as my fault. I was cross as trying to house train two puppies but it’s been a bad day with them today. I was a bit annoyed and swore. I didn’t swear at anyone, it was a case of oh ffs, this is getting ridiculous.

He was angry with me and we argued. It’s eventually ended up with him grabbing my wrists, shoving me against the bedroom wall and then hitting me in the face. My nose hurts, so does my shoulder.

I’m now going to be homeless. I’ve no family, no friends anymore, don’t work and I live in his house. I’m so utterly pathetic.i can’t drive as I’ve had two glasses of wine but come tomorrow I’ll have to leave.
I’ve allowed myself to end up in this position , I’m in my late 50’s and I can’t believe I’ve been so bloody stupid.

Good luck!!

Also, excellent reply to the daughter. I'm sure she's doing some thinking.

Had I not posted on here last week, can’t believe it’s only a week, I’d still be there. Things would have just carried on.

I have been so unbelievably fortunate, listening to the advice strangers has helped change my future.
I don’t expect miracles, but hope for a gentle and peaceful rhythm to my life.

As for his daughter, she’s married, works full time and has two children so doubt she will have the time.
The ex will have to pay, just as he told me he would. I’d tell him that there wouldn’t be someone there 24 7 to do everything from sorting out a dog with an upset stomach at 3am to taking him coffee in bed, making him meals, cleaning, washing, ironing etc
But this isn’t my problem anymore

My new life has begun, I’ll have wobbles, worries and things won’t always go to plan but at least it will be my plan, my path, and the people I have around me will be of my choosing now.

The very best of luck in everything you do from here on in OP. You got this !!!

My new life has begun, I’ll have wobbles, worries and things won’t always go to plan but at least it will be my plan, my path, and the people I have around me will be of my choosing now.

You know what that's called @ThinkINeedHelp ? A normal life. And ain't life grand!!

Hi OP, I've only just read through this thread. Can I just say I think you're amazing, and want to wish you all the luck in the world for your new job and your new life. You've definitely got this 💐

It is not your fault! At all.

do you have anyone who can come over?

Good luck 🍀 tomorrow

You should at least try reading all of the OP’s posts. It’s been over a week since the first post.

OP I’m so proud of you - you have shown tremendous courage no matter how frightened and self-doubting you were. I’m really, really pleased to see things are already improving for you. Long may it continue!

Good luck today in your new job.

I just wanted to pop into this thread to tell you how brilliantly you’ve handled the whole situation. He’s a very lucky man, firstly to have had you and secondly that you’ve behaved so maturely around leaving. A lesser person would have trashed his life (you still could and I’m the first to say go to the police). But you do have that card to play should he become aggressive again. I hope his daughter has food for thought and doesn’t try to get involved again, although I think her father was the reason she rang, emotional blackmail and flying monkeys at their best

Good luck today.
A new job is a new chance, and a stepping stone. An exciting adventure…
You have shown such fortitude.

Al the best for today @ThinkINeedHelp

🌻

Thanks everyone, your support and kind messages have helped enormously.

I woke up really early and I’m looking forward to today

Hope today goes well OP!

Good luck!

I’ve been reading your posts @ThinkINeedHelp and just want to congratulate you on everything you’ve achieved in the past week. I think you’re a prime example of “when it’s time, wild horses won’t stop you”. I hope today is everything you hope it will be and wish you every good thing for your life going forward.

Thinking of you and wishing you the best of luck today! To think of where you were just a week ago to now... you have so, so much strength.

Good luck today op!

I am thinking about you this morning & hoping your new job is going well.

Wow, I've just your thread Op and you are so impressive. Your situation seemed so hopeless and bleak at the beginning, but now, you sound like a new woman. I'm so glad you were able to find the courage to contact your step brother, because, well, look at you now.

Hope your first day in the new job goes well and I agree part-time initially is a good idea while you are finding your feet in your brave new world.

Bon Courage!

Good luck today.

I’ve just comes across this thread. Good luck
with everything OP.

Well done! Cheering you on xx

Hope your day is going well. 🌺

Hope today went well at work, although it's always hard trying to take everything in the first couple of days. You'll get there though.

If you're so easily replaceable and someone else could do a better job, well he's free to go out and find them now - mind you if he doesn't go out much, that might be a bit hard, on top of that finding someone who's prepared to wait on him and take his abuse, will be even harder.