He’s hit me and I don’t know what to do

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I’m crying and I probably won’t make much sense but please try to help me see straight.
Had an awful evening. I know it started as my fault. I was cross as trying to house train two puppies but it’s been a bad day with them today. I was a bit annoyed and swore. I didn’t swear at anyone, it was a case of oh ffs, this is getting ridiculous.

He was angry with me and we argued. It’s eventually ended up with him grabbing my wrists, shoving me against the bedroom wall and then hitting me in the face. My nose hurts, so does my shoulder.

I’m now going to be homeless. I’ve no family, no friends anymore, don’t work and I live in his house. I’m so utterly pathetic.i can’t drive as I’ve had two glasses of wine but come tomorrow I’ll have to leave.
I’ve allowed myself to end up in this position , I’m in my late 50’s and I can’t believe I’ve been so bloody stupid.

Could your step brother go back to the house to help you get some more of your things?

“aren’t you going to speak, surely I deserve better than to be ignored after all these years”

This perfectly sums up the selfishness of the twat.

Not

"I just want to make sure you're somewhere safe"
Or

"I accept I can't make up for what I've done, but I would love one more conversation if you feel you can"
Or

"I have no right to know where you are but I just want you to know that I will do whatever you need to facilitate your next steps"

Nope

Me me me me. I want. I deserve. What about me?

Well done on getting out of the trap he set up for you! He has ground your confidence down so low, but now it’s time to be free of his abuse. I would not get your step brother to engage with this abusive man. He has absolutely no right to be asking questions after he assaulted you multiple times and was verbally demeaning and abusive. You don’t need to ever speak with him again. Get police to go there if you need anything else you left at the prison/home. They will take your situation seriously. Congratulations on getting your life back on track.

Good for you going no contact - I also agree that your brother shouldn’t contact/go round to house.
Don’t look back!

Just had a thought, make sure your messages don't show that you've read them.

Well today is turning out to be a wonderful day!
I have a job! Only part time, money isn’t great but it’s a job.
My step brother introduced me to his next door neighbours last night , weather being lovely, they were in their garden too, they’re early 30’s I’d guess.
Today I get back from my walk and the woman is watering her front garden, we got chatting and she asked me in for coffee.

During our conversation I told her I was looking for a job and it turns out that there is a part time position where she works, it’s her day off today. She phoned her boss, I spoke to him and he asked if I could go and see him within the hour as he would be heading out. Off I went, nervously, he was lovely showed me round, asked me some questions , I explained my situation and after that, he offered me the job.
To be totally honest, I think part time will be good at first, give me chance to get back into work mode, plus he did tell me I could pick up extra hours.

I went shopping in a bit of a daze. Can’t wait to tell my step brother my news, really feels like I’ve got something to celebrate.

Wonderful news! Well done!

Fantastic news! Operation new life is go!

This thread just gets better! You go OP!
When you have kind and decent people around you, life just changes.
Well done!

That's wonderful news, well done you! The universe is rewarding you for your bravery.

You have done so well, it's brought tears to my eyes. Don't look back, you're already on the path to a much better life.

Bloody brilliant well done you!

Bloody hell, check you out ! Well done

Just a thought - I would send the ff off and don't contact me again message.
If I wanted to go back to the house and collect my stuff I would contact the police for a safe guarded entry and exit.
Are you absolutely sure he doesn't have any sort of tracker on your phone? It's in your name, on your account and no shared anything? Just to avoid him turning up on your stepbrothers doorstep. Have you contacted your bank to do a change of address and make sure that any essential mail doesn't go where he can open it?

What wonderful news! OP you are so damn strong and together. Please know that all the horrible things your ex said about you are all lies. You are free. You should be very proud of yourself.

Thanks everyone.
My bank stuff is all online but be updating my details, I’d not thought to do it so I’m grateful for the reminder.
My phone was bought outright, no contract, I opened it brand new from the box and there’s no tracking on it. He didn’t need to put anything on my car as I never went anywhere.

I haven’t replied to him, I’m trying to decide if I want anything from the house.
My step brother had suggested a couple of his friends would accompany me if I wanted to go.

I told him about all the support I’d had from you fabulous people, he thinks your brilliant.
I know if I’d not posted on here, I’d still be with him, things would have gone back to normal, until the next time, I’ll never be able to tell you how grateful I am for giving me the courage to walk out of the door x

I hope you passed on that we think he's great too.

It's all coming together for you, lovely to see.

So happy for you..... you deserve a great life. And you'll have it.

Your head must be spinning. Somewhere to lay your head, a job and freedom. I'm so happy for you.

I love this for you. I also think a problem shared is a problem halved. You told Mumsnet and it halved because you escaped. You told your brother and it was halved because you had a place to live, you told the neighbours and it was halved because you had a job.

Every single time an abused person speaks out their abuser loses a little more of their power, and they gain a little bit more of their life back.

I absolutely cannot wait for you to find out what the future holds for you. I’m sure it will be exactly what you need.

Somehow I missed this update until now.... FAN BLOODY TASTIC !!!! What a difference a couple of days makes !!!!!

So often I start reading a thread like yours thinking I hope OP has the courage to escape, so it’s amazing to read your updates that you’ve not only done it, but you’ve already got yourself a job! Your stepbrother sounds like a wonderful human being too. Have fun celebrating your good news with him tonight!

What an amazing amount you've achieved in such a short time. A total rebirth. Congratulations on having the strength to reclaim yourself, you deserve all the happiness.

OP it's great to hear that things are working out for you. It's brightened my day. Shout out to your brother for stepping up, and have a fabulous life from now on!

What an amazing update! Your life is changing before your very eyes, OP! You deserve every piece of happiness! 💐💪🏻

OP! So wonderful to see your update. You’re already thriving and only a couple of days have passed, imagine what your life is going to look like in 6 months! 🎉🎉🎉