He’s hit me and I don’t know what to do

[ThinkINeedHelp]

I’m crying and I probably won’t make much sense but please try to help me see straight.
Had an awful evening. I know it started as my fault. I was cross as trying to house train two puppies but it’s been a bad day with them today. I was a bit annoyed and swore. I didn’t swear at anyone, it was a case of oh ffs, this is getting ridiculous.

He was angry with me and we argued. It’s eventually ended up with him grabbing my wrists, shoving me against the bedroom wall and then hitting me in the face. My nose hurts, so does my shoulder.

I’m now going to be homeless. I’ve no family, no friends anymore, don’t work and I live in his house. I’m so utterly pathetic.i can’t drive as I’ve had two glasses of wine but come tomorrow I’ll have to leave.
I’ve allowed myself to end up in this position , I’m in my late 50’s and I can’t believe I’ve been so bloody stupid.

That's brilliant, time to reconnect with your step brother 💕

I'm glad you feel confident EX will treat the dogs well
😘

It doesn't matter how long the journey is, what matters is you've taken the first few (HUGE) steps!

let us know how you're getting on ok 😘

Excellent news OP. Well done for taking that step to message him. I am sure that in itself wasn't easy.

This is the perfect outcome for you, i’m so so pleased.

Oh that's so wonderful that you have a place to stay with family!

@ThinkINeedHelp what great news. You are amazing! Remember that. .
I hold my breath at each of your updates as I’m scared you would be torn down and go back.
He would just make your life 100x worse as you had dared to leave him!

Has he tried to make contact yet ?

Thanks everyone.
it was difficult to send the message to my step brother, I kept re writing it. He was so happy I contacted him, when he was young he got in with a bad crowd and got into some trouble. I never judged him and helped where I could, he said it’s time for him to do the same for me.
He’s single, and unless things have changed, a crap cook who generally lived on take aways so when I offered to do a food shop and some cooking he sounded delighted.
I know this isn’t going to solve my problems but I’m making sure I don’t go backwards.

Still not heard anything from the ex I think it will take a couple of days before there’s contact

That's such good news OP. Please don't go back and please consider calling the police. Your ex thinks he's entitled to hit you. I don't know if it's worth getting on the council housing list in your area. You'll be OK.

I’m so pleased, you got away from that dreadful man!
Your brother sounds a lovely man, it’s so nice that you have reconnected.
Hope you and your step brother will have lots to talk about.
You are safe and that is the main thing.Take care, and I’m sure he will love you cooking for him. 🌺

So pleased to hear that you have left and have some family support. What a strong woman you are. I’m sure this will be the start of great things for you.

I’m so pleased that you are staying with your stepbrother OP, you need family at a time like this. You can reconnect and lean on him. I would never turn family or a close friend away in your situation, I’m genuinely happy for you.
One day at a time. And if ex does get in touch, remember, you don’t have to respond. Paddle your own canoe lovely strong lady x

Don’t respond if he does get in touch, start your new life now and don’t look back.

I’m so pleased you have had the courage to leave and contact your brother. I’m glad you’ve updated as I thought about you last night. This is the beginning of your new life, well bloody done

What fantastic news that you've reached out to your step brother. I'm so pleased he's offered to help. It gives you some breathing space to sort stuff out.

I’m so happy for you!

Is there any reason you need to speak to ex? Any bills or anything?

If not, fuck him. Block him or change your number. Leave him confused and without closure. Just what he deserves.

Actually, if there are bills, you could probably just speak to the utility companies.

Stop ✋ don’t call turn off your phone

So pleased that your stepbrother can give a room over your head, while you get sorted. All the best going forward

Well done on getting out. Thank goodness your step brother is there for you.

Wonderful that you've got your brother's support.... fantastic.... you'll be a great help to each other... well done OP....

If you RTFT it was her abusive ex who got the puppies, and OP has no concern about their safety.

Don’t victim blame.

Maybe don't let your ex know where you are if he does get in touch. He does not need to know this.

@BlueyNeedsToFuckOff Hear hear! I didn't want to click on 'React' and then 'Agree' in case you thought I was agreeing with what ButteredRadish wrote.

@ThinkINeedHelp How fantastic that you've contacted your stepbro and that he's offered you a roof over your head. Bet you'll enjoy cooking for him and he will certainly love being looked after. x

That's such good news re your step brother. You've got company and a chance to build your relationship back up with him.

If himself gets in touch, absolutely ignore him. He has nothing to offer you and isn't entitled to be in your life.