What fairly normal things do you not let your DC do?

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I won't let my DC have candles, my 14 yo is not impressed. I also don't let them go on fairground rides, though I'm OK with permanent rides at theme parks. Are there things you don't let your DC do, that their friends seem to do?

What would you do if they got tattoos at 25? And what's so bad about them that they're forbidden so long into adulthood?
Do you supervise hair cuts and clothing choices too?

This thread is rather unhinged lol.

Oldest daughter is a competitive trampolinest since age 9 so is routinely 10ft in the air doing twists.

Phones only once they are going into highschool so only my oldest daughter has a phone just now.

Absolutely no snap chat ever.

You can absolutely tell the children that have been "sheltered" a mile off and in my younger days the ones that had lots of rules rebelled massively as they hit mid teens.

Ive worked really hard not to let my anxiety's judge my decision making.

Likewise here. Plus our park is open on one side to one of the main rivers of the UK, no barriers. Pretty to walk along but you can’t ever let DCs out of your sight.

I never banned alcohol for our children, but I explained that there are alcoholics on our side of the family (not me - and my husband is teetotal) and that no one knew if it was an inherited tendency. Probably overegged it a bit..... one child is teetotal and teetotal other 2 are social drinkers only.

You know all these kids are going to rebel don't you? My parents were very strict with me, but I just did all the things which were banned at home at my friend's house. Maybe that's why so many of you are anti playdate - if they're in sight you can make sure they follow the rules.
They will rebel one day though, trust me.

Our kids are grown now, but they had a total of 1 McDonald's each in their childhood.

With the "I never tolerate rudeness" ones, here's an enigma for you. Certainly, that's a good rule, but I remember a time when my mum and I visited a friend of hers, whose rebellious teenage daughter's catchphrase was "I hate you, mum; I hate everything about you". That girl's mum had heard this so much, that she just shrugged it off. My mum told me it might do me good to say this sometimes; I probably stared open-mouthed. I think she thought that I was too compliant, at times, and that a bit of rebellion might have done me some good.

Mine is 6 and I never allowed squash, he still drinks plenty of water and has milk most days, I have now allowed him to have squash at friends' houses/parties and he doesn't like it! His teeth are very white and he's had no fillings etc. I don't think you'd being silly at all, they don't need squash and if they don't get a taste for it and are happy to drink water surely that's a good thing.

Well yes of course. Its part and parcel of growing up that teenagers will push boundaries, and actually an important part of becoming an adult. if you are too strict then that boundary pushing might be worse. However, if you are too lax then the boundary pushing starts from a lower bar. To me its important to have sensible boundaries and that your children knowingly have to push them, that way they are knowingly making a decision against your wishes. Mine are the usual, and I also have a fear of motorbikes as my best friend died as a passenger on one at 17. My 11 year old knows this.

I never bought my dd a Mr Whippie from the van on the grounds that it's not ice cream. If the ice cream van had real ice cream she'd get one otherwise it was an ice lolly.

I grew up in West of Scotland with glorious ice cream cafes and I Mr Whippie does not meet the bar.

My son was 6 foot tall at age 14, his head was touching the roof (my car is small admittedly) but if I made him sit on a booster seat that would have been really stupid.

for me: no grapes unless cutted up

Mine (7 and 10) aren't allowed coca cola or YouTube or any online versions of games. They both have brick phones because they are allowed out by themselves or with friends, walk to school by themselves etc, but they won't be having smartphones until they are teenagers. Tbh they can probably have coke occasionally once they're teenagers, too.

I actively encourage all physical and social activities, including trampoline play, cycling to school, sleepovers, having friends over and going out.

And I thought I was strict! Not compared to mumsnetters.

I was very compliant. I want my kids to be able to stand up for themselves.

No games consoles but this may change in the future. They’re 13 and 9

Well the whole safety aspect is due to height, not age so that makes sense??

You can tell the majority of posters on this thread have younger children 😂

You can enforce the no squash, no McDonald's, no piercings, no drinking when they're younger and you genuinely believe this will continue.

Wait until they're out and about with their friends, eating KFC/McDonald's/Nandos then out in town the minute they're 18 😬

Mother of a tattooed DS (21) and a heavily pierced DS (19)

I think it’s difficult to enforce food/drink rules once they’re old enough to go out independently and have money to spend, which is way younger than 18.

Yes I agree. The previous poster said she made her child sit on a booster seat in the front up until age 14, which is why I said, that rule would not work with taller children.

I don't think we forbade things. We tried to deal with each situation as it arose and explain our reasoning. Our kids seem to think us pretty strict though.

DD1 went to Uni and almost immediately got a tatoo - I shrugged worried more about money she spent and that she went somewhere reputable. I think she wanted a reaction - but MIL goes gushy at it which I think she now finds annoying. She can cover it if needed - at 18 it's up to her. She fairly sensible otherwise.

They'll make their own choices as adults - but think they are fairly sensible teens.

Here is her rule:

Having read the whole thread I'm stunned that my DD made it into her 20's 😂My only rule was 'talk to me' - she now says she did about most things, I knew she was drinking at parties at 16, took her to get her first tattoo at 18 and she went on the back of a motorbike aged 10, but everything was openly spoken about with me so she was aware of any risks.
So many children these days aren't going to have a childhood to look back on coz their parents were too scared to let them have one, it's such a shame.

There was a family in the village i grew up in....the parents were super strict churchgoers...their daughter went right off the rails and ended up a drug addict.

I've been on threads where posters are tracking teens even young adults - well tracking their phones - and think that's perfectly normal behavior.

So maybe those teens aren't going into KFC/McDonals/Nandos (maybe they get others to get takout or leave phones someplace else).

I'm actually surprised this isn't a more common one. I don't see the need to ask why.