What fairly normal things do you not let your DC do?

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I won't let my DC have candles, my 14 yo is not impressed. I also don't let them go on fairground rides, though I'm OK with permanent rides at theme parks. Are there things you don't let your DC do, that their friends seem to do?

Agree, people want to keep their child "safe" so they don't let them out of the house and instead plonk them in front of a tablet/smartphone/tv to stave off the resulting inevitable boredom.
And then people wonder why kids are narcissistic, listless, anxious and traumatised by the heavy diet of frenetic, shallow, violent and sometimes pornographic slop they are being fed for hours a day via tiktok and the like.

Mine is 3 but exactly the same here. She has a tablet which she almost never asks for. Watched cbebbies and some Disney+. Loves McDonald’s and chocolate. Drinks squash at home and normally water in her bottle out.

I don't think I have any hard and fast rules tbh. DD is 6. She's had one sleepover at our house and that was because we were also babysitting the child so my friend could do an overnight shift. We phased out iPad last year after noticing an impact on behaviour and now she never asks for it so it's just not mentioned.

No fizzy drinks. But I don't think that's unusual for a 6 year old.

She also certainly won't be having a phone when she's 8,9,10 or 11. Even 12. I will delay it as long as is possible

They could have TVs in their bedrooms - if they bought their own. They were desperate for Saturday jobs and saved up.
No fizzy drinks except on birthdays and Christmas (they don't like them much now they're adults). Only water or diluted fruit juice.
Son had to buy his own car as I knew he'd have an accident if we bought him one (like a lot of boys - sorry to be sexist here, but figures bear it out).
No candles.
But - lots of sleepover parties. At one sleepover my daughter went to, the parents allowed a really scary adult film so my daughter left the room and read a book - very proud of her!). All their friends spent lots of time at our house because I was a SAH mum and did lots of baking and the kids ate like gannets!
I'd have allowed trampolines with safety nets, but no candles!

The broccoli is the nicest thing in Nando’s IMO!

I find it pretty miserable but don't love Nando's, dc do though.

Thankfully DD has never liked squash and loves water with occasional apple juice so never had to face that battle.

Someone up thread said no swimming in the sea unless further than waist height. Some of my happiest memories are jumping off rocks or decks in the sea with my kids and swimming out to where the buoys/boats are. This is often on holiday in the med which is generally flat but we also swim out in the UK.

Some thinks I'm not against :
No phones until secondary
No screens at the table
No TVs in bedroom
No food upstairs
No piercing til secondary

But a lot of the rest sounds pretty intense. I have a 15 year old now and I would much rather she tries alcohol at home than out with her friends. For her 16th birthday, I would rather serve some beer, low alcohol cocktails than have people smuggling in bottles of vodka.

I gave the eldest a phone at 10 because they started working home from school. No whatsapp though

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Pierced ears are not chavvy!! Are you a time traveller from the 1950s!? Princess Catherine has pierced ears as do Dd2s extremely posh friends.

There is a lot of I don’t let on this thread particularly with younger children which is fine when they are younger but as they get older is counter productive. As a parent to teenagers it is not about control or letting or stopping it is about teaching and boundaries and making sure they are prepared for the adult world

some are sensible safety (although best to say it is about safety) others are but fail to take into account differences of height and weight and some I can see are about trying to protect the child but knowledge is power

take phone so many gcse resources are app based or certainly internet based - DD is currently forever printing off past papers. Leaving the phone/ipad on charge downstairs for teens is good. Banning the completely counter productive

My DD 28 was MOH at weekend so hair covered in hairspray. Leant over a candle and set her hair alight!. luckily she only has a tiny burn.
I dont think i allwed dc to have candles in their rooms

No tattoos.
No sleepovers,
No electric scooters.

Very relaxed with everything else like phones, screen time, sugar (in moderation), new toys, makeup, clothes etc.

Never allowed/encouraged fizzy drinks until they were old enough to ask for them. No sugary drinks kept in the house they only got them if out/at a party.

No sugary breakfast cereals. Only ever bought as a treat if we were on holiday.

Pierced ears are not chavvy!!

young dc with pierced ears are considered chavvy.

No under age drinking.

I'm with you on the fairgrounds. Not just the rides but the whole place. Seedy, dodgy, dangerous, horrible places with an undercurrent of menace and crime. My eldest two did go once or twice as slightly older teens, it was so hard to say rationalise why I should say no, even my DH thought I was being mad. But I was never comfortable with it and I avoided them like the plague when they were little. I don't know that my third DC has ever been, although he could have gone when he was at uni and I'd not know.

Still little…so subject to change.

tv on the tv only (not on my phone or iPad)
no YouTube
no peppa pig (she was allowed but we decided against)
no sticky sweets - chocolate on rare occasions
no scooter on the pavement until she is extremely competent (practice in park)
no touching dogs

What is that to you though? Because it is perfectly legal under the Licensing Act 2003 for me and my 16 year old to go for dinner and both have a glass of wine.

it is illegal to serve an under 5 a drink at home but a 15 year old having a glass of Buck’s Fizz at Christmas is perfectly legal

Mine was 6 foot 6" by 14. He wouldnt have been able to fit in the car on a booster seat 😂

I don't drink alcohol, nor does my husband. Would be insane to let my children drink it.

I find it quite sad to not have any playdates. Mine loved having friends over at least once a week.

I've always very believed in picking battles so mine have done a lot of things mentioned on the thread.

We've never had a trampoline.
My elder girls weren't allowed to go to Brownies or Guides as the local packs attitude to safeguarding and basic care were way below the standard I'd be happy with (I chaired a volunteer led holiday playscheme and met the leaders at a couple of local events so it's not because they're volunteers, they were just very poor).

Compared to their peers my elder kids weren't allowed to do loads of "normal" things with mobiles - no phones in bedrooms, I checked them regularly, they weren't allowed age inappropriate apps.
Thankfully the parents of younger kids friends are more similar now.

I was allowed to pierce my ears just before I went to senior school. I think that's about right. I really don't like to see small children with earrings, especially on boys with very short, severe haircuts. My two boys had theirs done around 15/16. But they both had longish, skater/surfer dude hair at the time, and wore small sleepers so it looked quite cool, not like a scene from This Is England.

We did have a trampoline but it had a really good safety net. But then my son managed to fly off a swing and land on his head anyway.

Luckily we never needed to have the motorbike conversation but that would have been a hard no from me. I always told them to cycle on the pavement and if the police pulled them for it, send them to me and I'd happily justify it. I'd rather they had a hundred fines for pavement cycling than go under the wheels of a lorry on the road.

If anyone wants to harangue me for that, let's examine the stats of people killing pedestrians with their bicyles, versus drivers killing cyclists on the road.

Mine are now in their 20s and have turned out well.

They had no x box, PlayStation or whatever and just played reasonably suitable games on the home computer and later on their laptops.

No screens at meals, in restaurants etc.

We hadn’t a TV at home (and still don’t).

No Macdonalds or similar. They didn’t think much to them when they had them at parties, though.

Otherwise, a certain amount of benign neglect can be quite a good thing.