What fairly normal things do you not let your DC do?

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I won't let my DC have candles, my 14 yo is not impressed. I also don't let them go on fairground rides, though I'm OK with permanent rides at theme parks. Are there things you don't let your DC do, that their friends seem to do?

Some of these are mental
Im clearly a very relaxed parent. My kid has been to loads of trampoline park parties so I’m shocked to hear how many kids aren’t allowed near them. My kid can do loads of cool tricks on them. The no trampoline kids are they not allowed to do cartwheels, flips, anything like that, on grass/ground?!!

also if a 14 yo still fits in a high back booster it’s not car seat safety you need to be worrying about it’s finding a decent endocrinologist to find out wtf your kid is so small

Interesting that you should mention driving instruction. I used to be a driving instructor in a large city, and had a range of pupils from highly privileged teenagers, to rougher families from the council estates. I found that the latter group often learned really quickly (of course, some of them might have had illegal driving experience), but as for the privileged teenagers: for some of them, it was the first time in their lives they'd had to make any decisions for themselves.

Indeed, it does DC good to use public transport. But I'm surprised we haven't had any replies of "I will never let my DC use public transport, too many people with knives".

Oh, yes, no ears pierced before 16 or hair dye too.

But you wouldnt let your kids ski or rock climb etc with no supervision would you? No decent parent would.

Supervising your dc skiing doesn't mean they wont hurt themselves.

I suspect a lot of the no trampoline kids would be allowed to go skiing because skiing is naice and middle class and a trampoline int the garden is council estate 😂👌

also I had a massive one in the garden from age 12 and my mum was a sister in a&e so all these people saying ‘ask anyone who works in a&e!’ Are talking pish

@KindLemur one of my neighbours is a surgeon and they have a trampoline, the GP a few doors down has to 😆

The medical profession is clearly being infiltrated by trampoline-having ruffians !

Sugar free means it’s full of sweeteners instead. Studies have shown links between sweeteners are cardiovascular disease, cancer and poor gut health. Squash is UPF. I wild rather give my child one containing sugar as an occasional treat than regularly drinking sugar free.

Anecdotally most serious injuries ie broken bones for kids in our large group have been skiiing / team sports like hockey and netball. Wouldn’t ban any of these though.

I've thought of one, I didn't use holiday clubs abroad as childcare for my dc when they were very young, didn't like the idea of it.

Ive also never used a babysitter but that's because I have family local but also preferred to use family.

Blimey, a lot of neurotic parenting on here!!

this is definitely gonna be picked up by the DM😂

my kids drank at 16, one had a nose piercing, we had a trampoline, playdates, sleepovers, squash, fizzy drinks, sweets.

im 50 snd i had all of that (but minus the trampoline) and ive turned out to be a well respected woman.

Mine are older these days but I have never allowed kids on a tablet or phone while at a restaurant. I still find it sad/grating to see.

Jesus I’ve read it all now! 😂😂😂😂

Some of these are totally bizarre.

No playdates, no tv, no squash, no sweets, no fizzy drinks (not even lemonade?) What a joyless life some of your kids live with all these draconian, pointless, stupid rules.

I got through the first two pages but some of these made me feel quite sad!

My son is six. He hasn't had squash or fizzy drinks yet. We dont do food from takeaways unless its an actual energency! We only do playdates with his cousins and havent done any sleepovers. We dont allow eating in the car. He can only play outside our house where he can be seen. We dont allow roblox as it made him very agitated when he tried playing. I'm actually fairly relaxed with tv/tablets just not before school.

No playdates, no tv, no squash, no sweets, no fizzy drinks (not even lemonade?) What a joyless life some of your kids live with all these draconian, pointless, stupid rules.

I bet some of the responses are from people who don't even have dc 😆

Poor children.

It was a tattoo/piercing studio I’d used myself and it was the owner and her adult daughter that pierced both ears at the same time. They did yoga breathing with her.

Just trying to understand, so he's not allowed to play with friends at your house?

I allow play dates but not sleepovers. I cant remember the number but child abuse cases are in the high 90% of people you know and trust, it isn’t normally a stranger.

Isaac from the down the road, you have met his mum but have you met the dad, siblings or extended family members who are popping over? Or your cousin / uncle do you 100% trust them not even a little bit of doubt?

This is where the danger lies and while it’s still minimal I don’t want to put my child in that position. Sleepovers allow for changing of clothes, quiet time in the house.

Right now we say no sleepovers, as teenagers it might be allowed after conversations around consent / if you ever feel uncomfortable so x or y and we will come get you. Giving a sign to alert us to come get them without making it a big deal to their friends.

No sweets or squash. DS is 3. He has has sweets probably twice when given by grandad and also a neighbour. I know it’s not sustainable forever but whilst I can keep the door shut on it I will!

Um, is she ever allowed to have bare legs in summer? Shorts or a skirt? Tights in the winter?

Im genuinely baffled by this one 😂

I allow play dates but not sleepovers. I cant remember the number but child abuse cases are in the high 90% of people you know and trust, it isn’t normally a stranger.

it's most likely to be a father or stepfather though...

Absolutely this. Squash is the work of the devil.

I’d rather they ate sugar out of the bowl than drink 6 glasses of artificial sweeteners a day.