What fairly normal things do you not let your DC do?

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I won't let my DC have candles, my 14 yo is not impressed. I also don't let them go on fairground rides, though I'm OK with permanent rides at theme parks. Are there things you don't let your DC do, that their friends seem to do?

So what about
skiing
rugby
cricket
fencing (the sport)
sailing
cycling
rock climbing
etc

Do parents ban all these things ?

Agree
or we’d be banning most sports as well as modes of transport

Did you take her to a suitable piercing studio or just opt for Claire’s

Ha ha no judgment there! 😂

this issue isnt the sport, its the safety.

A fully supervised single child on a safe trampoline is far less likely to injure themself than an unsupervised child on a bike.

But how many kids, hand on heart, are fully and properly supervised for every single second they are on a garden trampoline? Not one single incident of the parent scrolling, or grabbing a drink or changing the baby's nappy etc? How many?

And the sports you mention are actual sports, not backyard "running off energy" so totally different. I did sport Trampolining as a teen and the safety (even then back in the 80's) was drummed into us. Again, totally different to a backyard tramp bought from argos and used by untrained parents to tire out their kids.

No pop.

Fuck judgement. Take your kid to a reputable piercing studio. Go through Claire’s and get undeniably judged for putting your child through the worst available. Silly person.

Yoghurts they’re full of sugar & just not healthy. Instant I get plain natural Greek yogurt. The full fat 1 not the low fat. We have that with fruit. Yes I know fruit has Natural sugars. But at least it has some nutrition and fibre in.

I was allowed the odd alcoholic drink from 13 for special occasions. The kids I was at school with whose parents never let them. Were hanging around outside off licenses begging people to get them alcohol. I wasn’t

I looked for a studio that would pierce my DD's when they wanted it done (they were 10) and no studio would do it. They all refused to pierce under 18's and I understand why with liability etc.

Major cities may have places that do it, but small market towns in the Midlands (or at least, the one I live in) dont!

Chew gum. Both DD had their hair long more often than short...either way, gum in hair is a bloody nightmare, so that's my rule.

And no animal prints. Makes me think of trophy hunting and I feel sick inside.

And yet children and adults can be seriously injured doing all of those sports and activities, supervised or not.
so
do parents ban all those

Wearing leather
eating animals …..are they the same ?

Well if you think its ok to let your kid ski, rock climb or fence with no supervision then I guess that is up to you.

Posted before finishing!

But you wouldnt let your kids ski or rock climb etc with no supervision would you? No decent parent would. So I ask again, do you supervise your child 100% of the time in a fully focussed way when they are on their garden trampoline? Because if you dont, why not?

I read an article recently where lots of young adults, who were digital natives and had smartphones all throughout teen years, were saying they will never give their teens smartphones as they saw some really inappropriate stuff, the adults had no idea, and kids in the playground just sat in silence throughout Secondary school. The tides will turn on kids and smartphones I think (hopefully)!

Yeah seems completely normal to me. Not sure why anyone would give squash.

Can we impose that rule on all women? Or enforce an equal male / female ratio of skin tight sports wear. Funny how men aren't jumping at the chance to wear skin tight clothing that shows their arse at all times.

The male lycra louts round here do.

I'm with you, and I thought Claires was the classy choice! Had mine done at about 8 not only in a market town in the midlands but on an actual market stall, by a man whose main thing was trophy engraving and key cutting, who happened to have a piercing gun. They're absolutely fine 30 years later (although i wouldn't recommend that...)

Mine won’t be doing sleepovers or holidays with friends (until they are 15/16) and even then I’d expect to know the family very well. I don’t take mine to trampoline parks. We don’t do farm petting zoos either because a friend of mines child got seriously sick from petting a lamb. My kids don’t seem to care or mind and are happy to look at farm animals from a distance 😆 and we are a grape free house! Lol!

My husband cycles and sorry but the cycling posse would disagree with this 😆😆

Not to watch porn until they had had sex. Obviously I couldn't police it but I just explained that it would ruin the real thing for them.

Also no vaping, smoking, drugs or snuff. It terrifies me about all their friends who rub a snuff type substance on their gums. I talked to them a lot about drugs and all the different types and their effects. I don't think they ever have as they have never smelt of it or had the paraphernalia - also they've talked about it being awkward resisting the peer pressure - many of their friends started vaping/weed at 13. We also knew in a friends of friends way a lovely local girl who died from an ectasy overdose at 18.

This was me at uni. I’d been allowed to drink and party within boundaries from age 15-18 so when I went to uni I was pretty sensible about all the booze and parties. You could spot the kids a mile away that had never partied. They went WILD and got into some really stupid situations 😬

But the playdates and sleepovers tend to peter out in secondary school,it's primary that it goes on a lot I find.I am lucky in that I was always willing to host sleepover so my daughter never stayed with strangers.

I don’t think you’re silly at all.
when my dc was a baby, toddler, then pre school, I didn’t introduce anything I didn’t deem necessary as a food.
Time enough for that once they start asking questions about what their friends eat, or maybe they’ll ask about an advert on tv for an untried food/drink.
Just because others say to you that you should let them, DONT - stick to your guns.
I know they’ll get to learn about all kinds of stuff later on, but in the meantime you’ll have given them a good few crap free years.

It's not the issue of leather or eating animals (we do both), but I just hated the idea of trophy hunting wild, endangered animals and the look of those prints turned me off. Just a thing I feel, nothing terribly rational about it.