Anonymous hurtful and extremely personal attack on facebook

[Yorkiedoodle]

Afternoon!
3 years ago I recommended I solicitor to someone who had put up a post asking for experiences on a mums Facebook group. Regrettably as the separation was fresh I also said something along the lines of “I hope she’s good!”

Today, I receive a notification from an anonymous poster. They have written some very personal things about me, accusing me of cheating, trying to take him for every penny (and not being happy with what I got) weaponising my daughter (we have her 50/50). Using my new partner’s money to go on holiday, as well as other things. None of which are true but she’s put so much detail in that it’s wild. TBF we have just come home from Malaysia (which my partner and I split equally).
The group admin have ignore my requests to tell me who is throwing these accusations around and I am extremely upset.
i have an extremely happy life since my separation, i enjoy my job, love to travel and my daughter seems to be doing really well at school and with extra curricular pursuits. Why would someone come after me like this, three years later.

Social media innit? Full of idiots. Ignore.Ignore.Ignore.

I think you left out some details. How does your first point connect to your second?

I'd guess it's someone connected to your ex.

It's pixels on a screen.

Can you tell I was really stressed out when I wrote this. The first point is just what I had written on social media that she used (three years later) to jump on me to write all these things. Her messages were written as a reply to me suggesting my solicitor.

I mean, who cares what some anonymous poster says?
I'd either ignore completely, or reply saying "can confirm solicitor was great and my daughter and I are very happy now"

If it’s anonymous how do you know it’s a she?

How would this person know all these personal details about you?

To me, this doesn’t sound at all connected to your solicitor’s recommendation and everything to do with someone in your life who has an axe to grind.

one of her messages said “you give other single mums, like myself, a bad name”.

But I thought you said the attacks were anonymous? If you know who it is block them.

It is most definitely someone who knows me or my ex husband. They have freely admitted they watch all my social media. I have an active Instagram account, I love photography. I have now privatised my account.

They have used an account that had the user name of “ anonymous”.
But the details used suggest they definitely know me or my ex husband.

So it’s your ex’s mum, sister or new girlfriend?

It is too eloquent to be his mother or sister. His girlfriend doesn’t have a child (but the single mum thing could be a red herring). So I assume it’s one of his friends that I don’t know.

Well that’s not at all confusing…

It could be anybody! Honestly just ignore it.

Delete your original FB post.

You are giving this too much brain space. Block them. Report the message to the group admin as personal attack if you want, but be aware that it may just fuel them to kick off more. Trolls are rampant on FB, it's 90% trolling these days. Don't give it the power to ruin your lovely life.

That wasn't really clear, the group has an anonymous function go to their real name and block them. If you are being harassed or stalked you can report them to the police. You can also report to Facebook and not go through group admins,

So report them to Facebook and they'll take the account down.

My friend used a different name (an obvious spoof) and someone reported her to FB.

They asked her to scan a copy of her passport to prove her spoof name was real 🤣

Or just ignore, no-one else on the thread is going to give it another thought, especially if you don't reply.

Well it must be your ex or someone connected to him? If I were you I'd leave the group if the admin allows horrible personal attacks and lies to be spread by anonymous posters and not be taken down or blocked?

Thank you everyone. I know I shouldn’t give it a moments thought but I’d really like to defend myself to the real person. I’m pretty shaken.

What do you want to achieve by "defending yourself"?

I guess I just can’t stand when someone’s got their facts wrong. I shall let it go and move on.

Yes I think leaving the group is a sensible idea, I mean you shouldn't have to