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Would you let a “slave” clean your house for free?

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Roxietrees · 29/04/2025 19:34

Just had a discussion with my friend who is a dominatrix for a living. She tells me some men just want to come and do her dishes while they pay her for it! Some, she says, clean the windows and clean her house top to bottom, while they pay for the privilege! No sex, no touching, no kinky stuff even. She says she might have to give them the “odd whip” to keep them inline 🤣 but that’s it. She makes £120 an hour. My mind is blown. Would you let someone who has a “slave” kink come and do your housework? It’d be a bit annoying having to put some sort of rubber outfit on and I’d feel a bit weird whipping them…but, I mean if I’m going to make 120 quid an hour for someone to clean my house..it almost seems worth it!

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BacktoBeginnersFran · 30/04/2025 11:55

Sounds great! How do I get this?

But I'd assume there's more to it, and I doubt I'd be comfortable with whatever that is.

TweetingHurricane · 30/04/2025 12:01

Some men are so fucking weird. And no I wouldn’t want these types knowing where I live

MissDoubleU · 30/04/2025 12:20

Wait until you hear about financial domination! Men who make themselves “cash slaves” to their mistress. She doesnt even have to see them, let alone show her own body. Just demands they send her more money and they do.

Ihateboris · 30/04/2025 12:38

User3452424 · 30/04/2025 11:17

Findom (financial domination) is even better! Those are men who literally have a kink on giving money to women. Obviously made easier and safer through online platforms. Some men are so far into the kink they take up loans or have to declare bankruptcy.

I know a woman who did this. Unfortunately it went tits up when the wife found out and the punter said the escort was scamming him. If something is too good to be true...

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/04/2025 13:58

MissDoubleU · 30/04/2025 12:20

Wait until you hear about financial domination! Men who make themselves “cash slaves” to their mistress. She doesnt even have to see them, let alone show her own body. Just demands they send her more money and they do.

There’s an awful lot of work involved to reach this point, though. Just as the most successful Insta influencers didn’t just get successful from Week 1 by posting a few photos and then sitting back to watch the followers and cash roll in. Successful FinDoms will have invested thousands of hours into creating a persona, playing a role, building a following, making content, messaging, developing relationships with a small number of followers etc before they eventually hit jackpot. That’s why they’re so in demand: there aren’t many people with the time, energy, patience or resources to dedicate to the build up.

A good friend was a dominatrix. She used it as a flexible platform to earn decent money whilst doing her OU degree to be able to do something else: she’s a quirky character, it appealed to a particular side of her personality but found it exhausting - always having to be “on” with customers and playing the best role possible and following up afterwards with what they wanted, because they aren’t going to become repeat customers or spread positive word of mouth if not.

OhLucinda · 30/04/2025 14:35

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/04/2025 13:58

There’s an awful lot of work involved to reach this point, though. Just as the most successful Insta influencers didn’t just get successful from Week 1 by posting a few photos and then sitting back to watch the followers and cash roll in. Successful FinDoms will have invested thousands of hours into creating a persona, playing a role, building a following, making content, messaging, developing relationships with a small number of followers etc before they eventually hit jackpot. That’s why they’re so in demand: there aren’t many people with the time, energy, patience or resources to dedicate to the build up.

A good friend was a dominatrix. She used it as a flexible platform to earn decent money whilst doing her OU degree to be able to do something else: she’s a quirky character, it appealed to a particular side of her personality but found it exhausting - always having to be “on” with customers and playing the best role possible and following up afterwards with what they wanted, because they aren’t going to become repeat customers or spread positive word of mouth if not.

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Presumably the more physically attractive (in the conventional sense) you are the better as well. Not that many people have this naturally and it usually requires time and money to keep this up to a standard too.

Planesmistakenforstars · 30/04/2025 15:13

Your friend saying there's no sex involved is the same as escorts who offer a "girlfriend experience" saying there's no sex involved. They are lying, because for whatever reason they want to maintain a sanitised veneer on it.

Ihateboris · 30/04/2025 15:15

Planesmistakenforstars · 30/04/2025 15:13

Your friend saying there's no sex involved is the same as escorts who offer a "girlfriend experience" saying there's no sex involved. They are lying, because for whatever reason they want to maintain a sanitised veneer on it.

Yep, completely agree with this. However you want to describe it, it's prostitution.

TulipCat · 30/04/2025 15:20

Good God no. I wouldn't want kinky men knowing every detail of my home. Plus the potential for boundaries to be crossed is massive. It only takes one to react badly....

MissDoubleU · 30/04/2025 16:17

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/04/2025 13:58

There’s an awful lot of work involved to reach this point, though. Just as the most successful Insta influencers didn’t just get successful from Week 1 by posting a few photos and then sitting back to watch the followers and cash roll in. Successful FinDoms will have invested thousands of hours into creating a persona, playing a role, building a following, making content, messaging, developing relationships with a small number of followers etc before they eventually hit jackpot. That’s why they’re so in demand: there aren’t many people with the time, energy, patience or resources to dedicate to the build up.

A good friend was a dominatrix. She used it as a flexible platform to earn decent money whilst doing her OU degree to be able to do something else: she’s a quirky character, it appealed to a particular side of her personality but found it exhausting - always having to be “on” with customers and playing the best role possible and following up afterwards with what they wanted, because they aren’t going to become repeat customers or spread positive word of mouth if not.

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I absolutely agree, I also have good friends in the industry. That wasn’t to reflect the work of the women as a whole - more to reflect how little some of those specific men ask for in exchange for having their dom control their finances.

BottleBlondeMachiavelli · 30/04/2025 16:37

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/04/2025 13:58

There’s an awful lot of work involved to reach this point, though. Just as the most successful Insta influencers didn’t just get successful from Week 1 by posting a few photos and then sitting back to watch the followers and cash roll in. Successful FinDoms will have invested thousands of hours into creating a persona, playing a role, building a following, making content, messaging, developing relationships with a small number of followers etc before they eventually hit jackpot. That’s why they’re so in demand: there aren’t many people with the time, energy, patience or resources to dedicate to the build up.

A good friend was a dominatrix. She used it as a flexible platform to earn decent money whilst doing her OU degree to be able to do something else: she’s a quirky character, it appealed to a particular side of her personality but found it exhausting - always having to be “on” with customers and playing the best role possible and following up afterwards with what they wanted, because they aren’t going to become repeat customers or spread positive word of mouth if not.

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Why don’t we ever get AMAs about things like this? It’s so exotic to most of us.

OhLucinda · 30/04/2025 17:44

BottleBlondeMachiavelli · 30/04/2025 16:37

Why don’t we ever get AMAs about things like this? It’s so exotic to most of us.

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There was an AMA not so long ago about a submissive wife who was dominated by her husband. It didn’t go down very well.

UnctuousUnicorns · 30/04/2025 18:00

BottleBlondeMachiavelli · 30/04/2025 16:37

Why don’t we ever get AMAs about things like this? It’s so exotic to most of us.

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Exotic my arse. It's sleazy and exploitative both ways.

BottleBlondeMachiavelli · 30/04/2025 18:09

UnctuousUnicorns · 30/04/2025 18:00

Exotic my arse. It's sleazy and exploitative both ways.

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Well yes OFC, but it’s much more unusual than what we often see over there. I imagine all the nastiness would be covered.

BottleBlondeMachiavelli · 30/04/2025 18:10

OhLucinda · 30/04/2025 17:44

There was an AMA not so long ago about a submissive wife who was dominated by her husband. It didn’t go down very well.

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Oh so DV with marketing? Yuck.

CurlewKate · 30/04/2025 18:10

Euuuuuuhhhg

UnctuousUnicorns · 30/04/2025 18:11

BottleBlondeMachiavelli · 30/04/2025 18:09

Well yes OFC, but it’s much more unusual than what we often see over there. I imagine all the nastiness would be covered.

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I see, I misunderstood your tone. 👍

Missey85 · 30/04/2025 18:11

I knew a woman who was a sex worker and she had a client that would bring her designer shoes to wear just so he could smell them! 😆

IcedLattei · 30/04/2025 18:24

Kink on Mumsnet is not often well-received.

HarpSnail · 30/04/2025 18:30

IcedLattei · 30/04/2025 18:24

Kink on Mumsnet is not often well-received.

Let’s see — is there a reason why women’s kink tends not to involve paying for the privilege of cleaning a house from top to bottom while being whipped? Is there a reason why scrubbing floors in your Marigolds tends not to feature much in women’s sexual fantasies?

CalicoPusscat · 30/04/2025 18:43

Well as long as they didn't slap me

Mickeychampionwhatgoodami · 30/04/2025 18:51

MissDoubleU · 30/04/2025 12:20

Wait until you hear about financial domination! Men who make themselves “cash slaves” to their mistress. She doesnt even have to see them, let alone show her own body. Just demands they send her more money and they do.

🤯🤯 just why would you?

BottleBlondeMachiavelli · 30/04/2025 18:51

UnctuousUnicorns · 30/04/2025 18:11

I see, I misunderstood your tone. 👍

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NP. I think I’ve mislaid my tone somewhere, TBH.

Mickeychampionwhatgoodami · 30/04/2025 18:52

HarpSnail · 30/04/2025 18:30

Let’s see — is there a reason why women’s kink tends not to involve paying for the privilege of cleaning a house from top to bottom while being whipped? Is there a reason why scrubbing floors in your Marigolds tends not to feature much in women’s sexual fantasies?

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Probably for a lot of women it's just another day cleaning up after kids and family.

BottleBlondeMachiavelli · 30/04/2025 18:53

CalicoPusscat · 30/04/2025 18:43

Well as long as they didn't slap me

Or flip, kill you and throw you into Clifton Gorge. See the Old Bailey today. That was all very friendly, holidays and kinky sex, until it wasn’t. I wish people would at least use hotels.