Adult nudity around children

[Anothermummyinlondon]

I was molested by my father so I don’t really know what the norms are. At what age did you stop being nude around your children? Was/is your DH allowed to bath/shower with your DC (esp girl children) and if so until what age?

I know I carry trauma from my childhood and might worry about things that others find completely normal so I am asking here. Also any suggestions for working through this would be appreciated. DD is 2 and I’ve realised I worry lots about her (even though I trust DH completely). We’re not walking around nude or anything, but for example just DD being there whilst we get dressed. Or her taking a shower with him, would you allow that?

Even with my female friends, we walk about naked. My children see me naked. I have seen my mother naked many times and she’s in her mid sixties. Not my dad tho. It depends on the family and the individual.

We have always been a no nudity family. I grew up the same. It's just not something I'm comfortable with.
All the changing rooms locally are cubicles only. I hate going to somewhere new where it's just one big open space.

I’m in the bath and my 23 year old son just came home and popped into the bathroom to say ‘hi’ before he went out again. This is very unremarkable and normal in our house.

Couldn’t agree more. They could even end up being laughed at and called a little prude for saying they minded, which is what happened to me.

Right. He couldn't shout through the door, or wait until you'd finished? I value privacy, but then again I grew up in a big family and always wanted a bit of space.

That's sad.

It's nice to find other people on this thread who aren't comfortable with nudity in their families. On previous threads I've been ridiculed for saying I wasn't and made to feel like the most awful prude.

Everybody's different.

For boys to see real-world people and bodies and not do all their learning off porn, obviously.

Who cares. Whatever works in their families.

I think its a bit weird tbh, there are families where nudity is almost actively encouraged and I almost think it gives a bit of an odd "cool girl pick me" vibe. Its not like we live in a hot country. Most od those occasions where you just need to "nip downstairs" to pick up eg some clean knickers could probably very easily accommodate throwing on a T-shirt or wrapping yourself in a towel.

It's a discussion. We're just sharing thoughts. I actually don't think anyone has been judgemental on either side.

I think the naked house and non naked house are good descriptions. Neither are right or wrong.

You're definitely not alone. I've experienced the same thing.

If the teens were bothered about nudity in the naked houses then they wouldn’t be happily wandering around naked themselves.

Both my teens just don’t bat an eyelid. My 14yo DS just came into my bedroom completely naked to tell me he’s run out of toothpaste!