So how do I live in the female gender?

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There are 8834 people in the UK who have a Gender Recognition Certificate.
I am one of them.

To get it, I had to show evidence of transition, surgery etc. Lots of hoops

I also had to swear a Statutory Declaration. I had to go to a Magistrates Court and swear a legal declaration in front of a magistrate. It was all very formal.

I had to swear this:

" have lived as a (insert ‘male’ or ‘female’ as appropriate)
throughout the period of years before the date of this statutory
declaration and I intend to live in that gender until death."

This declaration is legally binding. Apparently if I don't follow this, I can be done for perjury.

So...how do I live as a female and live in that gender until death - I have sworn to do this in front of a magistrate.

I was very surprised that so few trans people have Gender Recognition Certificates.

As an architect I’ve been fighting for more Ladies loos for my entire career.
Im guessing there will be a change to the law and increased provision of gender neutral toilets but it will be a long wait before that gets into our Building Regs.
Everything is a long wait in that area.

Additionally.
It will be only new buildings or those undergoing major refurbishment that will be included in any new requirements. That’s how it works.

Other than legislation of course owners could make provision if they chose to.

How do people know that partner is a good man if they have never met him before.

People thought Ted Bundy looked like a nice chap!

Something I'm not seeing many people addressing is that the logical conclusion of trans women having to use men's toilets is that trans men will have to now use women's toilets. Have any of you seen some trans men? Do you think it's a victory that they will now have to come into womens' toilets?

The ‘transman gotcha’? I’m surprised you say that, @recipientofraspberries, because I’ve seen it coming up all over the place. Maya covered it on X. https://x.com/mforstater/status/1913185937170845780?s=46&t=24c39JwRrH3k0oebVKtWw

I don’t know specific proportions either, but when stonewall took on the case of trans, when gay marriage was legalised and they basically became redundant, they changed the definition to include those previously known as transvestites, a group known to have Autogynephilia, only now we’re not really supposed to acknowledge that.

Weirdly stonewall’s trans umbrella also includes women like me who prefer short hair and man-style clothes.

The whole thing is a nonsense. A dangerous delusional nonsense.

Edited: attached image is under review, but is googleable as stonewall trans umbrella, if you want to see it.

I love this post.

I wish there were more people like you @13J 💐💐

Looks like more legal judgements, OP:

Baroness Falkner said the next stage of litigation may well be tests of the efficacy of GRCs.

Asked about whether she thought GRCs were now "worthless", she replied: "We don't believe they are. We think they're quite important."

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ce84054nqnyo

You can’t live in the female gender im afraid OP as that concept is meaningless. You’re either male or female as a matter of biology and nothing can change that fact.

i’m sorry though that you have been sold a lie that you could genuinely change from male to female.

The second time I met my now partner, I drove 140 miles and stayed at his house for the weekend without telling a single soul where that was.

Still alive, turns out he’s not a murderer. Sure that was a risk, but I didn’t assume I even could have died during that weekend - because I don’t just assume that anyone is dangerous.

Telling someone they’re something they’re not isn’t treating them with respect.

Can I remind you of Graham, aka Isla Bryson, wig n leggings, enrolling on to a Beauty Course, making young women feel uncomfortable practicing on each other.

He'd been married, divorced, raped twice and you can bet one of those young women would have been next but he was removed from the course.

Don't ever underestimate the lengths men will go to, to access women.

Why can't you just do you, live how you want to live. Why do you need to 'live as a woman' and label it, just live your life.

It's not our job to make you feel better that you were born a man but want to be a woman! 🙄

OP, you don’t think that you being beaten up as a boy on the regular for being different has contributed to any of your problems?

You have value and worth as a man, and that’s enough in and of itself.

Which are vanishingly rare (I have personal experience) and people don’t generally parade them for attention or validation (probably much like OP, before the TW with beards and penises became prominent).

They don’t, but the point I continue to make is that I don’t assume I’m at risk or in the company of dangerous people without any evidence to tell me that I am.

Then you’re foolish.

You can be lucky a million times But you only have to be unlucky once

I have a fabulous female friend at work, built like a man, dresses like a man, happily married to a lovely guy, wants kids etc. She wouldn't get a second glance walking into a male toilet but I know one time someone said to her, oh, this is the ladies! . If you come across as a woman, whether you are in jeans and t-shirt or a dress, and I met you in the loos, I'd never think to challenge you. I want to pee, wash my hands and get out. I mostly do clothes shopping online but in a shop, most cubicles are separate and again I would not think to challenge you unless you were being creepy and I'd challenge any man or woman who was being creepy. Do you look do much like a guy even after all that surgery that you think you would be challenged?

My husband also wouldn't murder you. He has an uncanny ability to just put everyone at ease, when they meet him in a normal situation.

But I can understand that if he was walking behind a woman who didn't know him in a dark alley, she may feel nervous because she doesn't know him.

I do not know your partner. I may not get out of a lift if he was the only other person in it, but that doesn't mean I would be completely comfortable in that scenario. Two men I didn't recognise got in our office lift the other day when I was in it alone and it did cross my mind that I could be one of those stories you hear.

Risk management. You can't not live your life but equally, you know there's men who are predators out there so you have to avoid becoming a victim as much as you can.

Why?

And on this occasion, not wrong. Thought there wasn’t a risk, isn’t one.

You’re being quite naïve to the realities of many women.

My neighbour travelled to meet someone she’d met several
times before and ended up being drugged and gang raped by him and his friends.

Not everyone is lucky enough to get away with it, it doesn’t hurt to be cautious, and there are plenty of men out there who happily treat women like shit, and plenty of “decent” men content to sit by and not say a word.

Yes no problem with that

Well done for not being murdered or raped.

It could have gone the other way, easily, because going 140 miles away with no-one knowing where you are to meet anyone you barely know is not particularly safety conscious.

Why?

Because I don’t make negative assumptions about people I don’t know.

Because I don’t believe having male chromosomes automatically means you’re going to kill me in my sleep.

Because I understand entirely that dangerous men exist, having met them, but I don’t believe that means they’re all like that and I should just naturally worry.

Because I don’t believe living in constant fear is something I need to do.

There's a middle ground between living in constant fear and being as flippant about safety as you are.

Don't immediately trust people, but still go about your life.

It's mainly men who hurt women, but I say people because anyone could hurt you, especially if you just immediately trust them because they didn't try to kill you on sight.