How do you “have lived as a (insert ‘male’ or ‘female’ as appropriate)
throughout the period of years ”
this is where the whole idea falls down. What is definition of living as female? You can’t live as female…you are simply female.
the things thst TW just don’t seem to get, and TM too probably but they’re less vocal, is women don’t know how to “live as female”. The whole reason we get semantics game is this notion is nonsense. Women don’t wake up each morning and have a thought to “live” as a female..we just wake up, do what we do, and go to bed. People who need to think about performing female so they can demonstrate it, are not female. They’re male. Play acting. Mimicking all the god forsaken stereotypes of gender. They are playing feminine. Not female. The difference is gender vs sex.
most women don’t think about being female until our biology comes into play…during sex possibly though I don’t remember it as conscious thing , but then all the crap stuff like periods, peri, thrush, endless uti, PCOS, etc…when being a women is a bloody nightmare we’d happily switch off. Or we are reminded we are female when we are treated with the brunt of chauvinism or patriarchy or misogyny…or just plain old unconcpscious bias…not having a voice of authority, being pay penalised because we have had children (yep the gender pay gap still exists and it turns into a bigger pension pay gap) we know we’re female when we are told to calm down, modulate our voice, not be bossy, not be so timid, not be so agressive, be more confident, smile, cheer up …we know we’re women when our men expect us to pick up the domestic minuscia of life..be a walking diary, shopping list, travel agent, carer, medical advisor, and psychologist all becuase we were conditioned by society who determine thst females must be kind and not tell perosn to grow up and adult themselves. We know we’re female when we’re told our discomfort and modesty is unimportant compared with the feelings of a man who wants to take his photo in a women’s space to prove or validate he’s a woman, We know we’re female when we’re told to not go out because there’s been a rapist random attacking, that we got sexually assaulted becuase we drank, wore too short skirt or god forbid, in eyes of one judge, because we wanted to wear red knickers to please ourselves. We know we’re women when we have our hands on our keys in our pockets at night, when we walk the long way cos it’s well lit and busy, when we still (even in 2025) do not feel comfortable eating or drinking alone in public in an evening. And some women know they’re female because they can’t wear what they want, they must cover they’re bodies in shrouds, they can’t go to school, or train as nurses, or go anywhere without their male chaperone, or even work, or call a doctor because there aren’t female ones. And some girls know it when they’re sold as child brides at age of 9 to men old enough to be their grandfather and die in childbirth. We know we’re female when the statistic say we can’t run as fast, jump as high, punch as hard, lift as much weight. We know we’re female when we dies younger when married vs when we are single, compared to our men who live longer married than single.
so did all of those get included in your checklist of “living as a female” when that was checked…or was it just your name, pronouns, your clothes, your hair, your boobs, and your neovaginia channel ?
being female is not a life style choice. Nor is it a sexy game. Many women experienced huge gender dysmorphia at puberty and wanted to get off the aging process and keep our flat chest, rid ourselves of periods and most of all hide form the unrelenting male gaze. But we had to accept the whole deal: the pain, and pleasures that come with our biology. I know my life would have been richer, less troubled, less abused, less exhausting and healthier if I’d been a man. Being female is not about feelings. It is not a choice. It just is. It’s not a bloody game. And it certainly isn’t a checklist.