I think you’d be mad. Utterly mad.
it’s like people can not conceive that an asylum seeker might actually be a normal human 🙄 Of course he’s a normal human. He’s probably a lovely man from a lovely family and I’m sure he has the same dreams, hopes and ambitions for his future as anyone else has. But as normal as he is, he is different from someone who has settled status in the UK. And those differences are potentially going to leave the OP heartbroken and out of pocket.
OP, if you’re going to give it a go, you absolutely must discuss what will happen between you if his application is refused and he is returned to his home country. What are you prepared to do? What is he expecting from you? Will his family be pressuring him to marry someone local if he returns? How old is he? If you speak the same language, are you familiar with his culture? How likely is it that he’s got to his age without already being married? Or will his family accept that he’s in a committed, long distance relationship with a woman he won’t be having children with? If he returns, will he be safe? Can you cope with the worry if he has to leave his home and go into hiding? Or, if he’s perfectly safe at home, with no problems, will you be questioning why he felt the need to claim asylum? Can you trust him if he’s capable of that level of deception?
If he has a solicitor (which is highly likely) who finds out he’s dating you, they’ll obviously want to highlight your relationship. Will you be willing to support his claim to have established Article 8 rights in the UK? Will you be ok with a relationship moving at a much faster pace than you’re happy with? Like him moving in before you’re ready, so he can say he’s in a committed relationship? Will you be happy to stand in an appeal hearing and have to answer questions about your relationship? And what happens if you get together, you support his claim and he’s allowed to stay on the basis of your relationship, and then he scarpers the week after his documents come through. Will you be on the phone to the Home Office, expecting them to take immediate action against him?
Are you prepared to accompany him back to his home country if his application and any subsequent appeal is refused? If not, are you prepared to marry him so you can sponsor any application he makes for a visa as a fiancé or spouse to get him back here permanently? Or sponsor his visa application as a visitor if you don’t want to consider marriage? (bearing in mind that he’ll need to demonstrate he’s a genuine visitor and he has no intention of remaining in the UK after his visa expires) And you’d probably have to help work out how to pay for it as well because visa costs and international travel obviously aren’t cheap. Or are you prepared to visit him in his country once or twice a year and maintain a long distance relationship, knowing that it’ll never progress beyond that point unless you move to be with him?
This man comes with more problems than you can possibly imagine unless you’ve been through it before. And the above are questions that you need answers to before you decide to have a relationship with him, not once you’re in the midst of feeling butterflies and thinking that he’s your Prince Charming.