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What do you think looks, or is, trashy? In terms of appearance AND character?

242 replies

BlahPottery · 05/04/2025 11:05

Interested in reading a wide range of opinions. Not intended as a goady thread - I've posted to widen my own perspective.

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lnks · 05/04/2025 11:28

BlahPottery · 05/04/2025 11:25

This isn't meant to be about women's appearance and character- rather culture and society as a whole!

You literally said ‘looks’ in your thread title, and also mentioned immorality.

MummytoE · 05/04/2025 11:29

lnks · 05/04/2025 11:28

You literally said ‘looks’ in your thread title, and also mentioned immorality.

She didn't say anything about a person's looks

BlahPottery · 05/04/2025 11:29

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 05/04/2025 11:26

Just looks and sounds like a derogatory and snobby thread designed to bash people who don't look - or act - like you think they should

Perhaps I should have used the word 'scumm' as that is what I perceive the word trashy to mean.

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BlahPottery · 05/04/2025 11:30

How do I change the thread title?

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BlahPottery · 05/04/2025 11:31

lnks · 05/04/2025 11:28

You literally said ‘looks’ in your thread title, and also mentioned immorality.

You do realise this actually includes men?

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AnneLovesGilbert · 05/04/2025 11:31

Horrible thread. Why would you post it?

lnks · 05/04/2025 11:31

MummytoE · 05/04/2025 11:29

She didn't say anything about a person's looks

She said ‘looks’ and ‘appearance’ in her thread title

BlahPottery · 05/04/2025 11:32

Body modifications - split tongue, amputations, etc

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MummytoE · 05/04/2025 11:32

BlahPottery · 05/04/2025 11:29

Perhaps I should have used the word 'scumm' as that is what I perceive the word trashy to mean.

Oh my ...that's not an advisable change lol

Nousernamesleftatall · 05/04/2025 11:33

‘Men (and women) with a history multiple partners/spouses.
Father's who choose not to abandon their DC’

The irony op, the irony.

lnks · 05/04/2025 11:33

BlahPottery · 05/04/2025 11:31

You do realise this actually includes men?

What’s that got to do with anything? You shouldn’t be judging anyone based on their appearance. And using the word ‘scum’ is just awful. You’re not a very nice person

BlahPottery · 05/04/2025 11:33

lnks · 05/04/2025 11:31

She said ‘looks’ and ‘appearance’ in her thread title

Yeah, I did.

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BlahPottery · 05/04/2025 11:35

Nousernamesleftatall · 05/04/2025 11:33

‘Men (and women) with a history multiple partners/spouses.
Father's who choose not to abandon their DC’

The irony op, the irony.

Please explain the irony.

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lnks · 05/04/2025 11:37

I would argue if anyone was ‘trashy’ or immoral its people who start threads like these. It’s shows a lack of awareness or intelligence tbh.

Foughtabadgerandwon · 05/04/2025 11:38

lnks · 05/04/2025 11:37

I would argue if anyone was ‘trashy’ or immoral its people who start threads like these. It’s shows a lack of awareness or intelligence tbh.

People judge other people all the time, this is an anonymous forum. It's not like we're going up to them and telling them to their face?

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 05/04/2025 11:39

MummytoE · 05/04/2025 11:29

She didn't say anything about a person's looks

She literally did. It's in the thread title! What is trashy in terms of appearance or looks! THAT is what the thread title asked! Very rude and unkind thread.

saveforthat · 05/04/2025 11:40

Just ignoring whether this thread should even exist, I would describe those pale coloured scrunch bum leggings as trashy. I can't understand how anyone thinks they are attractive.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 05/04/2025 11:40

lnks · 05/04/2025 11:37

I would argue if anyone was ‘trashy’ or immoral its people who start threads like these. It’s shows a lack of awareness or intelligence tbh.

100% this. The irony in the OP's posts is breathtaking. 🙄

kungfoofighting · 05/04/2025 11:40

Starting threads to invite bitching about people’s looks and character

lnks · 05/04/2025 11:40

Foughtabadgerandwon · 05/04/2025 11:38

People judge other people all the time, this is an anonymous forum. It's not like we're going up to them and telling them to their face?

There will undoubtedly be people who read this thread who fall into the categories the OP has described. These types of threads are only ever designed to make some readers feel like shit.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 05/04/2025 11:40

kungfoofighting · 05/04/2025 11:40

Starting threads to invite bitching about people’s looks and character

💯

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 05/04/2025 11:41

lnks · 05/04/2025 11:37

I would argue if anyone was ‘trashy’ or immoral its people who start threads like these. It’s shows a lack of awareness or intelligence tbh.

100% this too. ^

Foughtabadgerandwon · 05/04/2025 11:43

lnks · 05/04/2025 11:40

There will undoubtedly be people who read this thread who fall into the categories the OP has described. These types of threads are only ever designed to make some readers feel like shit.

I do judge people's choices and especially behaviour though.

Being loud and obnoxious IS trashy.

I don't judge someone for their natural appearance, just what they've chosen to do with it.

And just cause I think fillers and fake tan look shit doesn't mean anyone has to agree. If they feel they make them look amazing that's also a valid opinion.

MummytoE · 05/04/2025 11:46

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 05/04/2025 11:39

She literally did. It's in the thread title! What is trashy in terms of appearance or looks! THAT is what the thread title asked! Very rude and unkind thread.

She literally didn't, you quoted her incorrectly. She said " what do you think looks trashy....? I could say for example I think it LOOKS trashy when someone has 4 kids by 4 partners... Nothing to do with that person's appearance. She does obviously go on to say appearance so it's a moot point

Maitri108 · 05/04/2025 11:47

Foughtabadgerandwon · 05/04/2025 11:43

I do judge people's choices and especially behaviour though.

Being loud and obnoxious IS trashy.

I don't judge someone for their natural appearance, just what they've chosen to do with it.

And just cause I think fillers and fake tan look shit doesn't mean anyone has to agree. If they feel they make them look amazing that's also a valid opinion.

Yet you're not aware of that person's background or character. It's considered wrong to judge on appearance.

Dolly Parton looks 'trashy' yet she's a kind, generous soul and incredibly talented recording artist.

You're going to miss out on so much if you reject on appearance.