Yes, I think there has to be a change in how we define "disabled."
It is very wearying to read about children who seem to be merely naughty described as "disabled" and adults who are anxious- when the same verb is applied to an autistic child still in nappies; a blind adult; a wheelchair user or someone with MS.
Yesterday, i quoted the case of a 41 year old woman who is a flight attendant. her case was highlighted on the BBC website. She has adhd and this manifests itself as an inability to be organised and get to to work on time. No other symptoms were cited. For this, she is given £400 a month which she says she spends on general household bills...you know, the same bills that we all have.
However, she has been given the tag disabled and therefore anyone who laughs at her nonsensical case is portrayed as a monster who does not want disabled people to have a decent life.
This lady is not disabled and this needs saying more often in cases like this.
The term "disabled" is a very broad one and encompasses much that lots of us would not think of as disabled at all.
It is then used to shut up anyone who points out that anxiety and meltdowns are not disabled behaviour and most certainly do not need paying for.
So, we need to start thinking about the term, disabled, how it has been weaponised by those who are quite clearly not and a willingness as a society to say the definition is now no longer fit for purpose.
It must be galling to have a child who is still in nappies, be a wheelchair user and feel that these other spurious claims are given as much weight as yours. There needs to be another term but I guess the more spurious the claim, the tighter the claims beneficiary might want to hold on to it.