Need advice on clothes I want returned to me

[Pjsandpringles]

I was on holiday last month and during my trip I got friendly with someone. When I left the hotel I realised I had left a few items of clothing in my hotel room. I messaged my "friend" to tell her how stupid I had been and also messaged the hotel to arrange to have them sent back to me. She offered to collect them and send them when she got back. I thought this would be easier since they would be in the same country and I'd get them quicker.

It's now a month later and she still hasn't sent them and isn't responding to my messages. Any advice on what I should do?

You should be able to replace them quite cheaply; allsaints don't keep their value, so look on ebay etc for same pieces. Did your acquaintance leave the hotel after you did? Is that why you let her collect them?

Look for her business on companies house. Will be a listed address linked to business if shes registered. Then use that address to contact her. Failing that name and shame and tell her you will be sending messages to her clients or customers if she does not return your property.

The clothes are gone. Get over it.

Did you offer to pay for the postage?

Maybe she thinks you're expecting her to pay.

Bloody hell. How is anyone forget £1000 worth of clothes?

Contacting her employer is the height of twatishness and they will think you are a malicious nutter.

Yes, I can't imagine doing that, but I always check hotel rooms before I leave them.

Depends on the hotel I guess. All the 5* hotels I worked at did send stuff to departed guests. Guest pays for postage if it's a big item or they want it sent by FedEx ore DHL.

Just turn up unannounced and ask for them!

I think you need to stop being so materialistic and get over it it's a loss but you can build it back up

It sounds like a catalogue of errors on your part.

I’m not excusing what your friend has done but realistically how well do you know her? Do you have all of her contact details to commence legal processes? Such as her address? If not, you’ve put yourself in a silly situation. That’s what other posters are trying to get across. Your options are limited cause you have essentially given your things to a stranger. Most people wouldn’t faithfully put £1000 worth of items in the hands of a stranger.

I’m just thinking you could contact the police if you are convinced a theft of £1000 has occurred. I don’t know how the police might respond especially as part of this concerns actions overseas, but they might prompt some action.

Do you think her employers would get involved?

I can tell you for sure mine wouldn’t be giving my details to anyone!

Surely that would be a breach of gdpr , if the employees gave out her address details etc. At most you could send a letter to the place if work, hoping it would get passed to her. Even if you sent it registered/signed for, all that would prove us that it was received by the business, not that it was passed to her, so maybe a non- starter? (Unless passed to her directly by the postman).

Snowmanscarf I was going to suggest the same thing

I would message her today with the following

" Hey I'm still waiting for you to let me know about cost of postage and tracking"
Could you let me know today how much I owe you please?
Incase you are having phone problems, I will email your school and drop a phone call with my details again"
Thanks for helping out again.

You left over £1000 of clothes which you “forgot” and entrusted their return to a stranger you had just met instead the hotel? That’s just weird.

Write to her 'care of her workplace' address requesting she send the clothes by xx date. Ask her how she'd like payment for the cost of postage. Tell her you have proof from the hotel that she has collected them & ask if she has posted them & they've been lost in transit to send you proof of postage. Explain that if you don't receive the package by xx date you will seek legal advice & report it as theft. Send registered mail so you know her place of work has received your letter & it's been passed on to her. You could put on the envelope 'Re: Theft of my personal items' which might prompt questions from her colleagues & might shame her into sending them.

But registered proof just proves the business had received the letter, not that it had been passed to op ( unless she signs for it). The business could just bin it.

I'm in a somewhat similar situation... so it's been interesting reading through the responses. A new "friend" has an item of clothing we were gifted from a job. It's cool and I want it. They said they'd pick mine up (I finished the job earlier) and that it would be a good excuse to meet up again after meeting on the job. I said yes. 6 months later and lots of texting, receiving barely any response. Twice they asked for my address to post it, but then went cold. I've offered to collect it from their house, to pay for postage, to treat to lunch, no response. It's not a high value item, but I really want it and my brain won't let it go! So you have my sympathies.