2 year old walking the street by herself feel so sick

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I went to the shop with my 6 year old son and my nearly 3 year old daughter was home with her dad. When I was coming home from the shop round the corner I saw loads of people outside my house so I ran home wondering what had happened. My little girl had tried to follow me to the shop but I had gone another way, and got all the way to the end of the street and even crossed the road before a nice couple picked her up and she told them where she lived. I feel so sick and furious with her dad and like a terrible parent. I can’t believe he didn’t notice she had gone. I can’t stop thinking she might have gone with the wrong person. I feel terrible

No, women on here just hate useless, lying men who take no responsibility for the care or safety of their children.

I don't think people realise how easily this can happen really. My mum was a carer for the council and always left the house really early. One Sunday morning she found a toddler wandering in the street. She wasn't yet talking so couldn't tell my mum where she lived and just kept walking away so mum held her hand and started door knocking . It turned out she was staying with her grandparents and they didn't even know she had gone outside. They thought she was still in bed. She had got out the back door and the side gate wasn't locked.

@IcyHare the dad doesn’t seem bothered that his child had got out. Whether he thought child was with OP or not shouidn’t he have been horrified that the child got out? Wouldn’t he too like the OP be looking at ways they could sort the door so little person can’t go wandering again

You need to get a bolt or chain on the door and keep it on, when you leave make sure the parent who is with the kids bolts the door after you go

Don't bother feeling guilty now just sort out a lock

It does sometimes seem that way looking at some of the threads on here.

My friend and her husband once had an argument while their kids were in the playground and they both stormed off in different directions and both thought the other one was staying in the park with the kids but they both left the playground. Obvious that's a shit show but it does seem to happen to people who are usually decent parents.
She only found out as the kids went to ask some random mum at the park for help and then she asked what school they went to and she happened to know a mum from that school so eventually tracked down someone with my friends number and then called her and said come and get your kids.
She was obviously worried and guilty and humiliated as every WhatsApp group in her school had been notified about what had happened and she was having to explain herself to parents who were worried about her for weeks!

You sound like a man who’s fucked up his own life and comes on here to spread your bitterness around.

Your incredibly crass original post has been deleted by MN.

A man?? You sound a bit weird. There's nothing crass about pointing out that absolutely anyone can find themselves in a position where they didn't notice their toddler wandered off. You can hide from that uncomfortable truth if you like though and pretend it doesn't happen xx

What? I mentioned the case of James Bulger wandering away in the blink of an eye. Nice try though 😂

If anyone sounds bitter you're doing a pretty good job of it yourself by name calling and hurling insults at people you don't even know.

Like I said anybody, absolutely anybody, male or female can find themselves in a position where momentarily they didn't notice their toddler had wandered off. It's not crass, ghoulish or disgusting to point out there have been high profile cases showing how easily it can happen.

The fact you don't want to hear that and also want to censor anybody else from hearing it by getting completely innocuous posts deleted and then bragging about it like a school prefect, is your own rather odd little problem. Now please stop replying to me. I haven't sought out to engage with you. 😉

Precisely, it happens.

It's easier to be on the attack when it's a man involved.

Some of the language used on here is disgusting.

Oh god, yes, even worse. You named the mother who lost her child to torture and murder. Absolutely indefensible given the context.

Now you talk about “censorship” while telling me not to post in reply.

😂 You can't seem to make your mind up what I said anymore lol

I don't know why you find it funny, a lot of us read what you said, and MN deleted it for being against the guidelines.

Your post was disgusting.

Another fantasist.

I know that feeling OP. When my DD2 was the same age I'd gone shopping with DH and my other DD to buy her some PE shorts. My mum was with us to help look after the younger one. At some point we realised younger DD was missing from the shop. We thought my mum was watching her and she thought we were. Fortunately the shop opened into a shopping centre and two lovely ladies were walking with her, trying to find out where her parents were. She'd managed to get quite far away and I too felt like the worst parent ever. I tormented myself with 'what ifs' for ages.

Accidents do happen, but this wasn't an accident, it was negligence on ops partners behalf and the key differences you notice in comparison in reactions between a mother or father in these situations is that women are ( usually sleep deprived from taking on the night duties of babies ) apologetic, guilt ridden and take appropriate action to remedy whatever caused it to happen and then this man gaslighting his partner and absolving his own shitty parenting.

There is a difference and those are the types of fathers/parents I have disdain for.

That's not what I posted at all but carry on making stuff up. I'm sure everyone believes you. 😉

Except it is true, which is why your post got deleted.

I don't care if everyone believes me, I was just sick of seeing you try and gaslight the other poster when multiple people have seen your post with their own eyes.

You don't even have the common decency to stand by your own abhorrent opinion, which just goes to show that you knew it was wrong in the first place.

Shame you're not big enough to admit you were wrong, but I guess there's just a certain type of person who says crappy stuff online and then denies it once the evidence has gone.

You've had your attention now, so I'll just leave you to your online hobby I guess, I just wanted @oldchairman to know they weren't wrong.

When getting my two under five daughters dressed and ready - oldest one needed a good hairbrush, I came down to find a woman in my house with my youngest 2 year old daughter! The shock was horrendous. The woman was from the nursery at the back of the house. The refuse collectors had left the side gate open (back in the day before all collections had to be put on the street).

It happens and there's no point in thinking about what ifs on this.