2 year old walking the street by herself feel so sick

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I went to the shop with my 6 year old son and my nearly 3 year old daughter was home with her dad. When I was coming home from the shop round the corner I saw loads of people outside my house so I ran home wondering what had happened. My little girl had tried to follow me to the shop but I had gone another way, and got all the way to the end of the street and even crossed the road before a nice couple picked her up and she told them where she lived. I feel so sick and furious with her dad and like a terrible parent. I can’t believe he didn’t notice she had gone. I can’t stop thinking she might have gone with the wrong person. I feel terrible

@H0210zero for the love of god read the OP posts before posting.

Yes it would have been helpful if she had included all the details in her OP, but she was probably very shocked still when she first posted.

And apparently lots of posters can't read and comprehend anyway.

Thank you! @IcyHare has been nothing but nasty and rude. Don’t know what her problem is

Both times the family dog had followed us (two different GS) and were there to bodyguard and snarled at our rescuers.

Off-topic, but ❤❤❤ your childhood dog.

@IcyHare MRA klaxon gone off again I see. Your attempts at windups are getting boring now. Off you trot to name change and try again eh?

Sorry, were you there? You don’t even know what you’re talking about

Really glad she is okay OP. I'd be very upset if I were you.
I once went with my DC to a national trust place with a lake and found an 18 month old wandering along the edge by herself with no adults in sight. We weren't far from a gated play area so I walked her over there to see if any of the adults may know her.. it turns out she was with her grandmother and she hadn't noticed she was missing .., I mentioned that I found her by the lake and grandmother was so relaxed about it and said "there you are!- I'm just watching her while her mum is at work"- I didn't even get a thank you.. I found it very strange..

I'm sorry it happened, but I'm sure we'd all be lying if we hadn't done similar - assumed child was with other parent.

I suggest get a chain for your door and don't explain how it works. Put it above your lock so it's hard to reach.

Young enough to still have the wool over your eyes. Give it twenty years and you'll be joining us with "LTB".

Calling women "cows" is misogynist.

It’s rich you telling others not to be a cow when you’re the biggest cow in this thread 😂

Kids aren't fragile vases to be carried around carefully without damage though. My job as a parent isn't to keep my kids glued to me all the time, otherwise I'd keep him at home. It's to balance up the risks and opportunities for learning and navigate the choices.
If my child was a bolter I'd have had him on reins or whatever, but he wasn't and once trained, he wouldn't go near the kerb.
Maybe I didn't always get things right but I'm happy with my decisions there.

Oh yes it was.

Why are you adamant that the OP is at fault here.

Oh wait, you are the partner here aren't you?

So what happens if you or your husband need to go out at night? Do you have to stay up until they are back to let them in? I can't imagine living with a front door that's so awkward.

No and I’ve never experienced them trying to open the door in the middle of the night

How is OP to blame if she told her DH that she was leaving her 2 year old with him?

Are you saying that she shouldn't have trusted him and that she should have taken her child with her?

Maybe look at getting a deadlock fitted to the door then maybe that can be locked from inside or outside with key. It's lucky nothing has happened previously really.

I had nearly the same thing happen, took eldest on school run, 3 year old at home with dad. He managed to unlock the Yale latch and walk to the school. In his pyjamas no shoes, across a 3 lane main road that has lights. Literally the exact route of the school run. Which is 7 mins. Some mums found him and called the police and another mum ran to my house and got (my now Ex) husband. He was sat on the toilet and hadn’t even noticed. Youngest was fine and the police said “you wouldn’t believe how often this happens”. I was mortified and of course nursery had to tell SS who closed it quickly because they saw it was an unfortunate accident. I never forgave Ex tho that’s not the only reason he’s an Ex.

I did this when I was about 3, walked out of the house, up the road, crossed over a busy B road to the shop, crossed back and walked home. I was just about to go again when my mum spotted me and went bananas ... It has also happened to my friend's son at my house (we were in the garden and another friend had left the gate open). No harm done and no social services involvement/interest either time. It does happen, thankfully your DD is fine and hopefully your DH has had enough of a scare to be more careful.

years ago I 'lost' my 3 year old nephew whilst babysitting him and his 5 year old sister in their house. I was engrossed in teaching a game of cards to his sister while he quietly slid open the patio doors leading to garden and garage and went out.

I was panic stricken when i realised he had disappeared and ran round like a headless chicken before ringing my sister at work who suggested a couple of places he could hide (she was remarkably calm) I found him sat inside their family car in the garage pretending to drive - my relief was palpable! His sister hugged me too in happy relief, telling me she loved me, ha ha!

He could so easily have wandered up the road but thankfully hadn't. Young toddlers can be so quick to move, you literally have to have eyes in the back of your head with them. All you can do is secure the access doors and try to keep an eye on them as much as possible, but no use blaming whoever is minding them, everyone is human.

When she was barely 3, I was once startled by dh bringing dd2 home one afternoon, when I’d thought she’d been playing quietly in her room, as she often did. We were living on a large construction camp in the Middle East, over 100 prefab houses, a large office complex, a road with a fair amount of traffic in and out. Such were the doors, that they were fairly easy to open from the inside.

Dd had walked for probably at least 8 minutes to get to dh’s office - thank goodness he was there, not out on site.

TBH given that she’d probably only been to his office once before, I was astonished that she had remembered the way through a maze of corridors to his office.

Dh, to give him credit, did not berate me at all. Such things do occasionally happen no matter how careful you think you are. I had certainly always considered myself an ultra-careful parent.

You can get a bolt fitted at the top of the door, easier, quicker and more cost effective

Oh come on people! Things happen, I was in a busy high street a couple of years back and there was a 3 year old child running around grabbing every woman with a burka that was around, he was clearly looking for his mum. Not one person took any notice so I approached him and he put his little hand in mine so trustingly that I almost cried. I took him into the nearest Sainsbury’s and the security guard paged all the other security guards on the high street who located the mum and told her where he was. She rushed in pushing a baby in a buggy and was so distraught that you couldn’t be angry with her. I can imagine she felt bad for months. Please give this family a break.
OP don’t beat yourself or your hubby up but do put a child lock on your front door pronto.