2 year old walking the street by herself feel so sick

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I went to the shop with my 6 year old son and my nearly 3 year old daughter was home with her dad. When I was coming home from the shop round the corner I saw loads of people outside my house so I ran home wondering what had happened. My little girl had tried to follow me to the shop but I had gone another way, and got all the way to the end of the street and even crossed the road before a nice couple picked her up and she told them where she lived. I feel so sick and furious with her dad and like a terrible parent. I can’t believe he didn’t notice she had gone. I can’t stop thinking she might have gone with the wrong person. I feel terrible

Of course it’s true dear 😉

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Don't beat yourself up , nothing happened to her and you will make sure it doesn't happen again . These things have happend to others , but telling it on mumsnet is bound to make you feel more awful than you do .

I am well aware of that

I mean for the future as the OP is also talking about keeping her inside and people are talking about baby gates, and op said she can also get through them,
So i suggested this for when they are home!
Thank you for your input though 🌵

Absolutely that.

if she did once, she will do again and maybe give idea to your oldest one. That is also not great as even if they don’t go out, they still can open to anyone.

I would still be shaking too…

If it is reported, you will be fine. It happens. But change the lock :) and have a serious word with your partner on communication around taking/not taking the kids. He needs to be Chrystal clear that he needs to be bothered.

there are baby proof lock by the way where you need to push and turn to open from inside. Toddlers can’t do that so that should stop her (same system than on Calpol bottle). That is a lock key outside so you can close when you go and she won’t be able to open from inside alone.

She’s safe, try not to be so hard on yourself, and I’m sure future communication between the two of you when you go out will be a clearer with regards to who is looking after DD, and getting a secure latch on the door. Lesson learned.
I do understand though. Many years ago when our DS was 2 we were on the beach, we took our eyes off him whilst taking the picnic out of the hamper, I looked up and and he was gone. I’ve never felt so sick and panicked in my life. I had every thought imaginable in that short time… had someone snatched him? had he gone into the sea? The beach was very crowded but he hadn’t got far and we found him quickly. Those short minutes felt like a lifetime though. I feel for you, my blood still runs cold when I think of what could’ve happened.

I'm sorry but if your partner didn't know you hadn't taken her with you and by the sound of it you have done so before your both to blame. You should have made it 100% clear you were not taking her and he should have watched her. It is alright calling him the bad parent but if I left my DS when he was little Id always make sure I know who he is left with and that they'd re aware I'm leaving. As for her door been easily open that is also on both of you. Not just 1 person. You are straight there to blame him but you also say he thought you'd took her and that by the sound of your post she took the route you usually take going to the shop so you do sometimes take her. What was she doing when you.kefy who was spoiling after her prior to you leaving. Because if he thought you'd taken her it sounds more.elike you left her hoping he'd know she was there and now at blaming him. Both are at fault here.

I can imagine the horror you felt, but it really sounds like one of those awful situations that could have happened to anyone and thank goodness, she’s ok.
We all learn from things like this and I’m sure your dh and you will be extra clear about when you’re going out and with whom. You really aren’t alone in things like this happening. I hope you feel better soon.

WTF?

Why should you need to take her everywhere with you?

You need to sort DH out - not taking your DD everywhere. What happens when she's asleep? Her father should be reliable enough so you don't need to do this

My sister, when she was 1 or 2 years old (still toddling), climbed up a ladder in the back garden onto the flat roof of our single story extension. My parents only realised when they heard footsteps above them!!

What on earth do you mean? The father knew the child had been left with him. He’s just back-tracking!

I don’t know what that is. Your insurance requires certain types of lock. Who doesn’t have a Yale lock at shoulder height and a mortise lock?

I would still challenge how a 2 yo would have the strength to to turn a thumb turn lock if that’s what you have got. Think hubby is lying- did he go out and not notice?

You are making a lot of assumptions for someone whose argument is ‘there is a lot we don’t know’!

This post has honestly made me feel panicked. I'm not surprised you're so upset. I would be furious with my DH, you should be able to trust their father!

I once had a knock at the door. My neighbour had found my 2 year old on the grass outside our house. He’d managed to work out how to unlock our door and we hadn’t noticed! No harm done, she was out washing her car and saw him sneak out laughing to himself!

I just remembered something that happened years ago. Dh and I were going out and when we got to the main road which was 100 metres away or so, we spotted our neighbours 2 year old standing at the side of the (very busy) road. I brought her home and her mum just said oh thanks she was probably just watching out for her dad coming home. 😮 She was a nurse and her husband was a school principal so I would have expected them to have a bit of sense, but they were very blasé about stuff like that.

No, we hate shit men.

Nah you seem to just hate men 🤷‍♀️

What the fuck?

No, I hate shit men. Of which there is a surfeit on this forum.

Happened on my street. Two year old got out. Parent thought he was playing inside the house but took a walk. He didn't they far and he hadn't been gone long. But they're curious creatures aren't they.

is there?

You think lots of men are on this forum?

And they’re all shit?

Jeez there need to be consequences for this. You are far far too mentally traumatised for any sexual activity for the next month at least I think!