Inconsequential things people say that ^really^ disproportionately and irrationally piss you off.

[JanetSaysYouGotTidyHair]

My mum jokingly calls me a "tight arse" and it really, really makes me want to throw things. I'm not a tight arse. I love Iceland Food Warehouse. I love charity shops. I love Savers. I love vinted. I love a bargain. None of this makes me a tight arse.

Another one is concerning my home office which is in a converted outhouse in my garden. It make me absolutely murderous when people ask "Isn't it cold?" like I didn't employ a professional builder, didn't get it fully insulated, didn't get good heating installed.

Both of these things happened today. And my period unexpectedly arrived. I want to throw things and hurt people.

Tell me what other completely inane, inconsequential things people say that make you want to throw things and hurt people.

I also hate "cheeky" something. Why is it cheeky? Just enjoy your cake or wine or gin or whatever.

And "bad boys" used in the context of shoes: "I bought these bad boys today" where "bad boys" are new trainers.

"At the end of the day"..

My mother says she hates bad language so says "oh sugar" and "follocks" - just say it!!! (though she does turn the air blue when she loses her temper).

"With regards to" enrages me.

“She/he/they turned around & said” drives me potty! My friend’s Dad had the best answer to that - “ What are they a fuckin’ ballet dancer?”!! 🤣🤣🤣

GinToBegin or starting a sentence with “Look” - sounds so rude!

I used to be guilty of it myself but now try really hard not to make self deprecating comments like “ Oh I’m hopeless with anything technical” or “ Oh dear, I’m having one of those days” as I hear so many women, particularly middle aged, putting themselves down all the time. Once you realise the extent of it, it’s quite shocking & also depressing. I know that’s a bit off thread as it doesn’t piss me off exactly.

DH says “ I’m not telling you what to do” when actually he often is!
“ Perfect” is another one when for example all you are doing is giving a customer a receipt! Seems to be a younger person thing.

People who refer to cancer being a battle.

I have a friend who writes “ Hiya” as 2 separate words in messages & I really can’t stand it!

I agree with "has anyone...[done a commonplace thing]? and have to hold myself back from making a snippy reply, but even worse, in my book, is the self absorbed, "Am I the only one who...?"

Where 99% of the time the answer is, "No. That's clearly a very normal thing that millions of people do/think/say."

And the other 1% of the time the answer is, "That is actually very odd, and I'm not sure why you'd want to admit to it in public."

"You look great, you've lost weight".

Not all weight loss is intentional or wanted. Stop analysing other people's bodies, it's weird and kind of pervy.

chillycat I’m absolutely with you on this! I immediately vow to not share that post!

For those of you wondering if people say stupid things about physical illnesses and disabilities, yes they do!

If anyone else asks whether I have "tried turmeric" for my arthritis I could punch their lights out (if I had enough strength).

Yes, I'm sure that my daily 11 tablets and fortnightly injections could be replaced by a turmeric shot (they have them in M&S and Sainsbury's don't you know). I am sure that I wouldn't have had to be retired 20 years early on medical grounds and spend 90% of my life at home.

Oh yes, yoga is also good for arthritis. No shit sherlock but I haven't been able to get in and out of the bath for 12 years so definitely can't get down on the floor.

And breathe ..

OMG this. (Fellow arthritis sufferer here.) And I'm guessing they've also asked if you've tried that all-healing panacea of 'going for a walk' as well? 🙄

I get/appreciate that people want to say something helpful, but some of what they come out really demonstrates that they don't get it.

Or dementia, come to that.

Worse still "I've emptied the dishwasher FOR YOU"
Which implies dishwasher emptying is my job.
DH said it once.
Never again

Them: "You're looking well"
Me: amazing what an inch thickness of expensive foundation can do.

This is something I have to fight really hard against too, @RabbitsRock. I used to say that I put myself down to save others the bother of doing it, but thanks to therapy, I have realised how damaging that was. I still do it too often, but at least I am aware of doing it, and try to avoid it.

They say similarly stupid things about mental illnesses too, @Havingashittyarthritisday. I have depression - I've had it since I was a teenager, and I will have it all my life. It is under control at the moment, thanks to a combination of antidepressants, and it makes me want to spit fire whenever I see a post (usually on FB) suggesting that people with depression don't need medication - we just need to get outside and have a walk in nature.

If I come off my antidepressants I will soon slide back into a very dark place, where I am convinced the world would be better off without me, and where I am having suicidal thoughts or, at best, dreams of just not waking up tomorrow.

This in spades. My Sister was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer at a very late stage , so there was no treatment she could be given (except palliative). On hearing this,one of my colleagues said 'oh she isn't going to fight it then?' as if it was my sisters fault that she was dying. Have me the rage then and still does.😡

Oh and also „here comes trouble“ always said to a woman.

Oh silence is always a good response. That and also asking them to repeat it and explain it.

Some more:

”an everything shower” - so, a shower then
“main character energy/syndrome” - never heard until v recently and now everywhere
”do better” usually uttered by some blue haired non binary idiot

I would happily serve time not to ever be told again..."OMG PEEPS RUN DON'T WALK TO.." (Aldi, Home Bargains etc usually)
Wtaf is that all about? Point 1 I do not run anywhere (except I might break into a power walk for the ice cream man)
Point 2 if I wanted it that bad I would already have it ..
It really is like nails on a blackboard when I see this stuff or someone says it.

Yes especially those Aldi biscoff etc mini eggs that all the FB pages seem to be pushing at the moment that are absolutely disgusting!