Comments to threads that make you go FFS

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Op: I’m starting a new role where the dress code is business smart. I’ve only ever worn jeans and T-shirts in previous jobs. Help please
Comment: I’ve always wfh so only wear loungewear

Op: John Doe has died, that’s so sad.
Comment: I’ve never heard of John Doe

Op: Lunch ideas please. I’m unable to eat bread or legumes.
Many many comments: I have beans on toast. Lentil soup is my go to. I love pita & hummus. Just make a sandwich.

On and on and on 😩

Drip feeds. OP: My DH refuses to get out of bed in the morning ever to make me breakfast, and I do it all the time for him, AIBU?

Everyone: No, but is there a reason?

OP: he has had both his legs amputated two weeks ago and the house hasn't been updated so he can't move'

Everyone: Oh.

MN need to disable the quote Op option
It's so annoying!!

When OP has explained why she did something outside the norm (i.e. visiting extended family after Christmas Day because she was working right up to Christmas Eve) and gets responses like "that's just odd, most people meet up before Christmas, why would you do that, so weird" etc. So obtuse.

And the "oh just be kind and do it" when OP has complained about CFs demanding lifts at inconvenient times or chauvinistic partners who expect the woman to do all the cooking despite also working FT hours.

Or the Mothers Superior who respond to OP asking for advice on juggling holiday childcare and drop off with a FT job "just go PT or give up working, they're only little once, you're damaging them etc". NOT what was asked and don't you think we'd all be PT or non working if we didn't need to financially support ourselves and our families!?!

Similarly "just hand in your notice and not go back" in response to OP's work problem. Most of us can't afford to walk out on a job without another one lined up.

"We practise gentle parenting and never told our little darling no, he doesn't get invited to playdates or parties. He hits other children and snatches toys off them" Two posts in out comes the "do you think he could be ND" Or "my husband doesn't treat me well, i have to do all the childcare and housework whilst he plays on his xbox or watches porn" Do you think he might be ND ?

I do know what you mean. I still remember a thread where the OP had been physically assaulted by her husband for the first time, she posted a photo of her facial injuries and you could feel her shock and upset coming off the screen. The replies were incredible towards her with the support they offered. I think it must have been nearly 10 years ago but I still think about her (can even remember her UN) and hope she's ok.

Usually I think you can tell a difference between the posters who genuinely care and are empathetic and those that are treating it like an episode of EastEnders.

You sound like the former.

Op: DH has been really moody all week and has just shouted at DD for having a messy room

I bet there is far more to this and you must leave him NOW and CALL THE POLICE. You are failing your DS by staying in an abusive relationship. GET OFF MN AND LEAVE NOW

My biggest one is people posting on AIBU and getting really annoyed and arguing their point when people say yes, in fact you are. Don't post on AIBU if you just want your opinion ratified!

Anyone who comments on spelling, grammar, paragraph’s etc.

Didn’t want to read and run.

Bullies - I commented on a thread about 3 months ago, another poster disagreed with me. This poster then followed what felt like every single comment I made for about two weeks and made rude comment or snipey remark, despite my comment not being much different too many others. It was horrible. In the end I asked why they were doing it and it stopped. So weird.

OP: It’s my birthday today (32) and I’m feeling down because DH didn’t get me a present or card and has gone out with his mates after work.

Reply: Are you sure you’re 32 and not 12? Most grown adults don’t make a fuss about their birthdays. Why not just celebrate on a different day instead?

OP- Person is definitely NOT ND.
MN- they must be ND.

OP- my 55 year old MIL did this annoying thing.
MN- sounds like dementia.

Just like the threads that feature any relative over the age of 50 being a PITA.

Replies: Do you think they could have dementia?

Quoting the op then writing "didn't want to read and run" !!! RUDE !!!! And then posting a huge reply.

I had that once. It commented on a thread with a personal experience (it wasn't my thread) and a poster then challenged me on the basis of a thread I'd started a few weeks before and it wasn't even relevant. I had to change my name as I assumed she'd been following me around MN. SO SO weird. I thought it was rare but if it's happened to you too, maybe it's quite common?

😂

In style and beauty OP posts pic of inoffensive dress from Next, thinking of getting this for <insert occassion>

Everyone: no, that's too plain/cheap/wrong colour/horrible material/frumpy ....and then posts links to things that cost £500+

The, clearly exaggerated/made up, drip feeds when replies to a thread aren’t going the way the OP expected/wanted.

Or the deliberately inflammatory opening post designed to goad, that is never followed up by the OP but runs to pages with posters arguing with each other.

Or the dramatic (made up) OPs that take off with PPs really invested in the OPs (made up) situation that then run to a second/third thread with the OP starting thread number whatever stating ‘Oh I can’t believe it’s going in to thread 47, it’s just little old me blah blah blah’ (or worse when another poster breathlessly starts thread number seven on behalf of the OP ‘in case the last thread got filled up before you noticed OP’)

OP:- My car/washing machine/fridge etc has broken. I'm on a low income and have no savings, I have £2 left in the bank until pay day and no family to ask. I don't know what to do

Reply:- Can you take out a loan/ask family for the money/go without a holiday/Botox/designer wardrobe this year?.....

😁😁

Don't forget "take in ironing " or "become a childminder"

‘My, just turned, 18 year old son has an issue that I really want to help him with him. How best can I do that’

OMG he’s a grown man let him sort it out himself. Do you always infantilise adults? In fact throw him out to fend for himself now and never speak of him again, it’s the only sensible way to treat them.

P: We had and electrician round last week and he had food in his beard!

Reply: Oh, I know an electrician with a beard - their initials aren't SG are they?

Yeah there are probably only 1 or 2 bearded electricians in the country 🙄

@TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers Oh I can’t believe it’s going in to thread 47, it’s just little old me blah blah blah’ (or worse when another poster breathlessly starts thread number seven on behalf of the OP ‘in case the last thread got filled up before you noticed OP’).

This. And it always depends into bloody poets corner. Although having said that I'm not adverse to a made up tread if they amuse me but hate it when they overegg it. Usually involves a solicitors letter or something about an hour after that argument detailed at length in the OP took place 🤔.

There are loads of them kicking about. They seem to enjoy stalking posters as much as they do posting their shite. Name change, do it often.

Op: "My husband is a massive dick head and does nothing round the house."

Reply: "Have you considered he might be neurodivergent?"

There are a few instances where OP has posted on AIBU and everyone has concluded yes.
OP comes back and eats humble pie and concedes they were or says what they will do/have changed as a result

....and then there continues a 5 page pile on with posters not reading updates and OP periodically repeating themselves!