Comments to threads that make you go FFS

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Op: I’m starting a new role where the dress code is business smart. I’ve only ever worn jeans and T-shirts in previous jobs. Help please
Comment: I’ve always wfh so only wear loungewear

Op: John Doe has died, that’s so sad.
Comment: I’ve never heard of John Doe

Op: Lunch ideas please. I’m unable to eat bread or legumes.
Many many comments: I have beans on toast. Lentil soup is my go to. I love pita & hummus. Just make a sandwich.

On and on and on 😩

Just the ones that are obviously written by people who want to cause hurt/ start a fight. I imagine everyone on the thread sitting round a table in person (large table 😂) and someone being like ‘you sound <insert pejorative>’ or ‘what’s the point of asking us.’ I know some proper agitators IRL but I have never met anyone that rude. Clearly QWERTY snipers are a thing but I will never understand why it makes someone feel good to be an arse-hole, anonymously. What do they get out of it? What’s up with them?

Paragraphs would make it easier to read - said to someone posting about her struggles with mh and bereavement. Yeah, sure, let’s critique the op’s writing style 🙄

Or if the poster did have a garden but states an extension was too expensive you get a tidal wave of:
Why are you only working part time you need to go full time?
Why don’t you have sufficient savings?
Why did you have two DC when you cannot afford a home that is big enough for them?
You need to process you career!
Poster only wanted a few Hinch-style storage tips, not a financial throttling!

Any post that refers to the Mumsnet Chicken. This one included.

Also any long running thread where the majority of replies are invested in the drama being supportive until the OP goes quiet as they are presumably living their life and gets filled with posts of "hope you ok/how's things now OP". They might as well just put next installment please.

Also the ones where they star out the swear words. You can say sht and bllocks.

Solipsistic 'people can do whatever they want' not valuing anything but personal choice. I understand this could go the other way. However.

Example: a poster talking about her relative buying a beautiful period house and stripping out all of the original features, cornicing, fireplaces etc to make it contemporary minimalist style. I gathered this was irreversible rather than just boarding over the fireplaces. She then couldn't sell it and was pressuring the OP to buy the house as she'd asked for first refusal in it's original period state. Anyway. Scores of posters saying 'she can decorate the house how she likes if the features are not listed'. Well yes but why buy and permanently ruin a period property that generations of others would love?

Just because something is allowed and nobody will die doesn't make it the right thing to do. Not respecting surroundings, the environment, etc. this 'we can all do what we like with no more complex thought than that' attitude sometimes seen on here is a bit baffling at times.

It's so ridiculous how many replies like this there are. Can people not read???

🤣🤣 yes and there's usually a suggestion of "can't you just move somewhere bigger?". Like it's that easy to suddenly find the funds for a three bedroom house and the OP had never had that thought occur to them.

I've seen some before kick off because their kids were reading over their shoulder and saw a sweat word. Like that's the PPs responsibility!

In fact I'm I remember years ago someone tried to start a petition or something to make MN ban swearing from the boards. Because won't someone think of the children!

The ones that drive me mad are when people answer polls differently to requested eg,

I really want to buy a lovely new lipstick in fire station red, but DH doesn't like the colour and thinks I'll look like a prostitute. IABU to buy it anyway?

"I voted YABU because make up is just a way to oppress women".

I’m baffled by the number of posters who say they couldn’t read the OP as it wasn’t divided into paragraphs. And then go on to give their opinion anyway…

I also hate this, awful people

"What were the reasons for you choosing this course of action, OP?"

"because she wanted to, obviously!"
Sometimes followed with "and it's a free country!"

There used to be a post like this on about 25% of threads, I swear.

"Ok then... what were the reasons for you WANTING TO choose this course of action?"

Ugh, I hate 'Didn't want to read and run' why does anyone need to know that?

Anything that basically overlays the commenters experience onto the OPs actual issue eg.

OP: I've got a problem with my mum, she just walks into my house and looks through personal papers etc.
Comment: Well, my mum has died so you're lucky you've still got yours.

Or

OP: my PIL give full time childcare to my SIL's DC but won't even drive 10 mins down the road to see my DC.
Comment: Well, I didn't get any free childcare. Grandparents don't have to give childcare so YABU expecting it.

"Sending you an unmumsnetty hug"

What is unmumsnetty even supposed to mean? That we're all hard-faced bitches except for the poster replying?
I hate it.

Haha. I sort of agree. This was me once though. I STILL worry about that OP though, genuinely. I'm absolutely certain that the emotional abuse she was being subjected to was going to become physical abuse and I was really upset about the whole thing. She was so lovely and so confused about what was happening to her and her thread had been running for a few weeks.

'I am disappointed that Labour have removed WFP and introduced more costs to employers'

Response: "When will MN get rid of all these Tory bots"?

OP: Oh no, I’ve made a stupid mistake and don’t know if it can be fixed. I feel awful.

First reply: You shouldn’t have done that.

I agree. It's sticking the boot in when the OP clearly feels shit already. But I guess that's the point for those posters.

'I think Kate looked fantastic at an event today' ON THE ROYALS THREAD

Response: 'Get rid of the lot of them and make Britain a republic'

When OP is asking for advice about a difficult situation and seems in a vulnerable and emotional state...then replies either nitpick spelling/grammar or pretend not to understand OP question because of tiny typo/regional dialect variation along the lines of brought vs bought.

This happens a lot both on here and in real life unfortunately, person states a problem or issue their currently going through.

Reply: Is this really an issue? You do know there are children dying in the Middle East?

I mean, yes we do and it is utterly horrendous but people are still allowed to have their own issues and struggles. However trivial they may be in comparison. Hate that people will use tragedy to sanctimoniously feel good about themselves.

Bringing completely unrelated things into the thread.

I saw a lots of it with Harry and Meghan a while ago. Now it's seems to be trans issues. If they can get it in there, in any way possible they will!