After watching Gavin and Stacey, do people really [big spoiler for the Christmas special]? Title edited by MNHQ

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I’m trying not to give any spoilers but I did really enjoy Christmas episode. I’ve just watched it now however I want to know has anybody ever been to a wedding where people have stood up and said that person can’t marry that person because is that just something that happens in films or does it ever happen in real life?

Anyway, apart from the odd trailer I've never seen Gavin and Stacey so I watched the last 5 minutes. It wasn't funny.

Is Sonia supposed to be horrible ? It was a cruel thing to do.

Thank you for saying this. It was decades ago and I got together with Mr Right 3 yrs later. As for Mr Wrong, I had a lucky escape but still consider that it's for me to say that and others to agree. Although, it's not something that comes up in conversation unless I'm watching film or tv and say 'it's not like that in real life'.

Because it's in practically every film or programme with a wedding scene?

Once something had been Shown on live tv it's fair game to discuss

Yeah Sonia was meant to be a horrible character and in the end deserved to be dumped at the altar! The actress played it very well!

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Anyway, apart from the odd trailer I've never seen Gavin and Stacey so I watched the last 5 minutes. It wasn't funny.

Is Sonia supposed to be horrible ? It was a cruel thing to do.

If you had watched you would have known from last Xmas special in 2017

She thinks he's fat and needs to lose weight

Didn't like Pam and mick and said not family

Too posh for an air bed on the floor

Telling him not to drink anymore

Thanks both.

Spoilers like that are like when someone reminds you about THE GAME!!!

Fuckers 😁

Fair do!

And just to add to the discussion that the speak now or forever hold your peace lines aren't used in a catholic ceremony so it annoys me when I see it on tv.

I knew I was making a big mistake in the morning when I got married. As I came down the stairs all dressed up I seriously considered backing out - just wasn’t brave enough to do it and cause a scene.
ExDH also knew on the day, that night after the wedding he told me he wasn’t sure he loved me.
My Mum told me later she knew I was marrying for all the wrong reasons (my DF was terminally ill).
We were separated in less than a year. With hindsight I’m ok about going through with it - I couldn’t have bared the fuss walking out on the day - I lost count of the number of people who told me later they wished they had said something at the time - glad they didn’t. Nothing particularly wrong with my Ex - we were just totally incompatible.

*beared

All the people saying - it has to be a legal impediment - I mean I get that’s what they’re asking, but presumably if someone piped up with some other reason at that point the bride/ groom would then get to decide whether they wanted to go ahead or not - that bit is before the couple’s vows isn’t it? So if someone chose that moment to give news of an affair or just say ‘actually mate you shouldn’t do it cos of this’ they can decide based on that info?

Regarding the actual episode - I loved it but I think it was a shitty, cowardly thing to do to someone - even if she’s portrayed as a horror. If someone is a horror then don’t bloody propose to them in the first place, and certainly speak up before you’re at the exchanging vows stage. If you think your mate is in a terrible relationship and shouldn’t go ahead then speak up before their wedding day or, quite literally hold your peace until they inevitably need your support when it all goes tits up.

I may have some skin in the game as someone who wasn’t quite jilted on the day, but near as damn it, I wasn’t actually the evil bridezilla that Sonia was made out to be, but even if I was I don’t think I’d have deserved the absolute hell I was put through - and I do also think the ‘oh she just wanted a big wedding, he couldn’t speak up beforehand he just got swept up but did the right thing in the end’ narrative was used to justify a shitty man making shitty, cowardly decisions in my case.

Still loved the episode though. It’s just something I think every time the stop the wedding trope is used - it’s a bit lazy at this point!

@AliasGrape I totally agree with you and I also really enjoyed it and I'm not a massive fan of the show I think it hasn't aged well. I think this was much better than the last Christmas special but I am pissed off that it was the woman who was made out to be the nasty horrible one when he was a grown man with a mind of his own . I also disliked the way it was very them and us with the friends at the hen party. In my own experience people usually go and mix and chat together.

I don’t think Sonia is particularly evil. I think she is just far more physically attractive than Smithy and comes from a completely different background.
They were unsuitable and as I said upthread the only time I see this sort of relationship is where the Smithy person is wealthy or famous.
I have come across lots of transactional marriages.
Often the woman is young enough to be the man’s daughter. She is from a different country and culture and by marrying the man she gains financial security, and a way out of the sad life she would lead if she had to stay in her country of origin.
Anyways, it’s a comedy, hence the pairing of Smithy and Sonia.
I don’t think many people would have the courage to say something at a wedding along the lines of don’t do it.

Even with the explanation I still think it was cruel. I didn't think it was funny and it hasn't encouraged me to watch anymore ( that might be partly because I don't like James Corden and Matthew Horne looks so odd).

Not seen it happen at the actual altar. But my brother attended a wedding breakfast where the groom confronted the bride about her being unfaithful and then walked out. They didn't go on the honeymoon, she moved back in with her parents and I think the marriage was annulled?

Also, my Aunt & Uncle attended their friend's DD wedding, and it all went smoothly. But only a few days into the honeymoon the groom admitted he'd made a terrible mistake and flew back on his own. He moved back in with his parents and filed for divorce as soon as it was allowed. The bride was devastated but apparently all the warning signs were there but she ignored them.

We don’t know where to look as she started to tell everyone how she had plotted for weeks to jilt him. So yes it was embarrassing