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Anything you'd like to say to someone before you spend christmas with them?

121 replies

Dappy777 · 20/12/2024 16:53

Most of us have to bite our tongue over Christmas. Is there someone you dislike but will have to see during Christmas and New Year? Since you can't say it out loud, get it off your chest on MN! I'll start:

  1. To my brother in law. You've got a good heart, and you're a good husband, but jesus you are such a flippin oaf. You hold your knife and fork like a toddler, eat with your mouth open, smack your lips together, burp, fart, pick your nose, and snort with laughter at inappropriate things. This year, please don't take your shoes and socks off and put your smelly size 12 feet on my coffee table. How is it possible to have so little self-awareness?

  2. To my cousin. No, the universe does not revolve around you. Try listening to what the other person is saying instead of waiting impatiently for them to finish. You don't talk to or with people. You talk at them. It's breathtaking. Like all self-centred people you are sooooooo boring. You've never read a book, and don't have any interest in current affairs. In fact, you don't seem interested in anything but yourself. No interest in sport, music, film, science, art...nothing. Just boasting and bigging yourself up. I've never met anyone so incapable of talking objectively. No matter what the subject, you have to bring it back to you.

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Sickofitalltonight · 20/12/2024 16:57

FiL, you are VERY boring. You think that you're intelligent and cultured, but you are neither.

DH, at least try to enjoy yourself. Not liking Christmas isn't edgy and it's boring to be around

MarnieRey · 20/12/2024 17:09

MIL you are toxic, rude and I hate seeing you!

Notmanyleftnow · 20/12/2024 17:16

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Notmanyleftnow · 20/12/2024 17:18

Apologies. Misunderstood the thread intention. I have reported my post to be deleted.

mumonthehill · 20/12/2024 17:20

@Notmanyleftnow it was a beautiful message and wishing you both peace.

ssd · 20/12/2024 17:20

BIL, if you turn up anything other than empty handed I'll eat my hat

CinnamonClovesBrownVelvet · 20/12/2024 17:23

To my wonderful but navel gazing friend

You are cordially invited to our house again to enjoy Christmas with two older children but children non the less.
Do you think you could get beyond yourself for a short while and allow childish things to happen and games like charades!!

Hoppinggreen · 20/12/2024 17:25

MIL, if you have got me a soupmaker I swear I will throw the fucking thing at you. I have told you repeatedly I DO NOT WANT ONE and you making soup every time we call round and mentioning how great soup is in general has not changed that
BIL, you used to be fun but MIL and SIL broke you and now you are a sad shell of who you used to be.
Niece, even your own Dad says you are pretty miserable so maybe try and smile a bit for just 1 day (has been grumpy since birth)

RoseAndRose · 20/12/2024 17:37

DSis (older) - if I am doing something you don't like, just tell me (ideally gently), before you reach boiling point of martyrdom. I know we do things differently, but a) I'm not a mind reader and b) I am no longer 5 years old and you don't need need to talk to me as if I was

DSis (younger) - no, you do not know more about my field of expertise than I do, so please stop a) insisting that something that's wrong is right and b) getting upset and roping in your DH to tell me off for being beastly when I don't agree with you

To me: realise they're not going to change, and I need to do my bit too to break the cycle of repeated patterns of behaviour

lemonyfox · 20/12/2024 17:42

MIL - I love you but you're the most boring woman on the planet and I'm finding it quite tedious that we have to host you every single year. And no I don't want to come to yours for Christmas instead, though I really appreciate your offering to do so, because Christmas for me isn't frozen food heated up, or sitting in a cold house in silence without any background noise.

Aunty - you've gone 50+ years never hosting or contributing to Christmas in any way. You turn up empty handed every time. You can't drive and expect everyone else to ferry you around. You plonk yourself in one spot all day and expect to be waited on. You're nice but dim and the lack of self awareness is really grating on me.

I enjoyed this, it felt quite cathartic!

allmybooksarefromthelibrary · 20/12/2024 17:45

To my parents and MIL - you could get yourself a hot drink yourself you know, or even offer to make everyone one?

Not looking forward to doing the tea/ coffee rounds!

Peanutssuck · 20/12/2024 17:59

Dappy777 · 20/12/2024 16:53

Most of us have to bite our tongue over Christmas. Is there someone you dislike but will have to see during Christmas and New Year? Since you can't say it out loud, get it off your chest on MN! I'll start:

  1. To my brother in law. You've got a good heart, and you're a good husband, but jesus you are such a flippin oaf. You hold your knife and fork like a toddler, eat with your mouth open, smack your lips together, burp, fart, pick your nose, and snort with laughter at inappropriate things. This year, please don't take your shoes and socks off and put your smelly size 12 feet on my coffee table. How is it possible to have so little self-awareness?

  2. To my cousin. No, the universe does not revolve around you. Try listening to what the other person is saying instead of waiting impatiently for them to finish. You don't talk to or with people. You talk at them. It's breathtaking. Like all self-centred people you are sooooooo boring. You've never read a book, and don't have any interest in current affairs. In fact, you don't seem interested in anything but yourself. No interest in sport, music, film, science, art...nothing. Just boasting and bigging yourself up. I've never met anyone so incapable of talking objectively. No matter what the subject, you have to bring it back to you.

Your number 1 and number 2 are my ex. Thankfully I will no longer have this problem on Xmas day 🤣

To my DIL. Please try not to make everything about you this Xmas. Many women before you have had children....you're not a Saint and you're not the first ever woman to become a mother. In fact, it would be REALLY nice if you actually put said children DOWN for an hour and helped me in the kitchen, instead of making my poor put upon son do it, and run around after you all day. You lazy freeloading c**t

Eyesopenwideawake · 20/12/2024 18:05

To my dear friend. I've known you for 15 years and have heard all your stories about everyone from Orson Welles to Princess Diana and Paul McCartney a million times. When we can prise you away from your past you are witty, interesting and fun so let's leave it behind this year. Please.

RettyPriddle · 20/12/2024 18:09

Everyone: yes I did choose all the kids’ presents. Next year could you all choose the presents you give, yourselves…. and organise buying them yourselves instead of asking me to choose, buy and collect them and you’ll ‘just give me the money’

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 20/12/2024 18:12

I hate you. If you can't speak to me without being a nasty rude dickhead don't bother. I hate Christmas because of you

BlackeyedSusan · 20/12/2024 18:13

It's really grim seeing food in your beard...

OriginalUsername2 · 20/12/2024 18:13

Everyone please fuck off out of the kitchen.

buybuysellsell · 20/12/2024 18:17

BIL. Listening to your constant belching and farting is going to be the low point of Christmas for me.

DH. Stop mooning around like a misery guts as if something awful is happening. It's only a week and then you can get back to sitting in your office and listening to the radio.

DC. Please please please please please just behave. Please, for the love of God, stop squabbling and screaming all the live long day. I am sick of it.

rainbowbee · 20/12/2024 18:21

Could you for once in your life fucking knock on the bedroom door and not just barge in and then act upset when I don't like it.

Stop droning on and on and on about your children. They're right here and I can see, hear and smell them. Also, making them say thank you for their presents would be nice manners.

It's my holiday from work. I don't have to get up at 6 am so I'm not going to and you can get stuffed with that competitive early rising rubbish and smart 'good afternoon' comments.

Stop criticising my hair.

Cathartic!

emmax1980 · 20/12/2024 18:24

No thank God, my mum isn't coming this year or any year.

Imperrysmum · 20/12/2024 18:24

Loving this thread 😂 ive managed to cut everyone out of my life that I dont like so I have nothing to contribute but enjoying reading the replies

ginasevern · 20/12/2024 18:24

@Hoppinggreen

"MIL, if you have got me a soupmaker I swear I will throw the fucking thing at you. I have told you repeatedly I DO NOT WANT ONE and you making soup every time we call round and mentioning how great soup is in general has not changed that
BIL, you used to be fun but MIL and SIL broke you and now you are a sad shell of who you used to be."

Was it the soup that finally broke him?

FeelingSad2024 · 20/12/2024 18:34

To my own parents- If you fail to turn up for Boxing Day for the 3rd time (not on consecutive years I might add, but two within the last four years), after we have bought food and wine to cater for you, and I finally have an afternoon off work after working Xmas Day and Boxing Day morning, be prepared to never be invited to ours on Christmas ever again

To my nephews- please please just behave and don't run around PILs house screaming like feral children, please don't run past MIL and hit her and laugh like its funny (and if you do I will tell you off because no one else will), please don't take all your clothes off because the running around makes you too hot, please don't then start a physical fight with each other, break each others presents and then throw an tantrum when asked to get your shoes on to go home and get carried out over a shoulder screaming for the whole street to hear (they are not small children but both upper primary school aged who should know better)

Showerflowers · 20/12/2024 18:36

To my FIL.

You sometimes used to really grate on my last nerve. But I miss you. I wish you could be yourself once again and drive us all mad with your daft jokes and moaning. We want your mince pie bake offs with MIL. I want to pop out to see you in your greenhouse and sneak a whisky with you. We just simply miss you so much. We know Alzheimer's has almost taken you completely from us now, but we are still here making sure you're ok, the same way you always looked after us. We love you and we hope you can feel it.

I'd tell him myself right now but MIL gets too upset.

Ohhhthedrama · 20/12/2024 18:36

Can it be something nice?
To my husband: Thank you for doing everything this Christmas. For buying all the gifts and taking a day off to wrap them all. Thank you for the beautiful tree and all the decorations. I'm sorry I've been so fucking difficult. I have a Dr appointment early, Jan, and I'm not leaving until I get HRT.