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Come and have a laugh at my ex husband of you need cheering up!

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Mydogisamassivetwat · 18/12/2024 12:10

Ds was planning to visit his dad at some point over Christmas. Looking at trains last night, they were absolutely extortionate and for two days, inc 10 hour travel time, it wasn’t worth the price.

Ex h has gone mental. Sent me a text last night saying that as I chose to move so far away from him, it’s my responsibility, and I should bring ds to him for contact. I have to drive him or pay the train fare. He’s going to “take advice” on next steps.

Ds is 22 years old. Yes, twenty-two. Not two. A grown man.

Has his own job, didn’t know when his leave would be until last night so couldn’t plan in advance, and to be honest, he’s a grown arse adult who is working Christmas Day anyway and what he does with his free time and his money is no longer any of my business.

I am wondering on what these next steps will be? Solicitor, perhaps? Or maybe he will go for full custody? I mean, ds lives with his girlfriend now, so I presume it’s her he would take to court, not me? Or perhaps their landlord? Who knows!

Oh and I know I’ll get asked why he still has my contact details. It’s because, every so often, he will do something batshit like this and honestly, I find it hilarious. When ds was 18, he said he was going to court for full custody and was contacting solicitors as ds didn’t want to go to uni, so this is nothing new, the man is just a fucking idiot. I tell him to let me know how it goes and then ignore him.

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IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 18/12/2024 14:36

Please reply and tell him he'll need to take your son's girlfriend to court to agree a custody arrangement!

Crazybaby123 · 18/12/2024 14:37

The thing is, if he wasnt such a massive twat maybe you would have been inclined to help out with the costs if everyone was struggling. But with this behaviour why on earth would you even want to engage on any levels

MagnoliaGirlie · 18/12/2024 14:38

potplant · 18/12/2024 12:49

His GF has custody now, so she should be facilitating contact 😂

Ex once messaged me to tell me to give mine a light lunch and then give them nothing else for the rest of the day as they were going to dinner later that day for his mum’s birthday and he didn’t want me to spoil their appetite.

They were 16/17 at the time and at that age when they could easily polish off a roast dinner then empty the fridge ‘for snacks’.

His first Xmas day, he also messaged on Xmas eve to ask me what he should feed them. (Secondary school age).

Oh my God! What did you answer him, if you don't mind me asking?

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DottieMoon · 18/12/2024 14:41

Mydogisamassivetwat · 18/12/2024 14:28

Oh, thank fuck.

His girlfriend will be relieved not to lose custody of him.

This thread has made giggle 😂

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 18/12/2024 14:42

cherrytree12345 · 18/12/2024 14:17

As your DS is over 18 your ex cannot go to Family Court for an order

Thank god you were here to share that invaluable legal advice!

Petrasings · 18/12/2024 14:44

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 18/12/2024 14:42

Thank god you were here to share that invaluable legal advice!

Yeah an absolute treasure trove of invaluable information from the finest legal minds 😄

Headabovetheparapets · 18/12/2024 14:46

Oh @Mydogisamassivetwat THANKYOU🥰 I really needed that laugh.
I’ve just gone from ‘oh that sound’s difficult’ to ‘22 & lives with his girlfriend’ & spat my coffee🤣🤣
& @NCForSomeThings the phrase ‘bombastic faux legal’ describes it perfectly 👏🤗
I know we should say block & ignore but would love to hear what his next moves will be, kind of imagining EX lining up all his cuddly toys on his bed to hold a court session!!🤣

2025willbemytime · 18/12/2024 14:48

It's funny but it's sad too. He could offer to pay. Sore point as my now ex is being crap with our kids and what is worse is he is treating one of them worse than the others, sex related. Twat.

Pipsquiggle · 18/12/2024 14:48

Thanks for sharing @Mydogisamassivetwat

This has made me chuckle and I love your 'let me know how it goes' stock response.

Hope you all have a great Christmas

TaupeOP · 18/12/2024 14:49

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Bollindger · 18/12/2024 14:52

Does the girlfriend know she is sleeping with a minor.... Lol.
Dare you to buy them a Christmas Eve box, with pjs and a movie.....

CalicoPusscat · 18/12/2024 14:54

What a wally

80smonster · 18/12/2024 14:55

Yes - please make sure you update us all on the custody hearing.

Craics90 · 18/12/2024 14:57

@Mydogisamassivetwat Please let us know how the next steps go. And if the girlfriend does agree to 50/50, will he be asking her for receipts to prove where her maintenance money has went, too? 🤣

Ps. my dog is also a massive twat

Silvers11 · 18/12/2024 14:58

This thread is brilliant. So, so making me laugh 😂😂

MagnoliaGirlie · 18/12/2024 15:02

Mydogisamassivetwat · 18/12/2024 13:45

Yes, that was exactly it. He would do things like text me that he’d “lost” ds at the airport and was calling the police, or they were in some far flung city and he couldn’t find ds in a playground, I would panic, obviously, and try to call him a hundred times and he wouldn’t pick up. Then he would use that call log to show his family that I was deranged or stalking him. Ds was always fine. It was just to frighten me.

After seeing the therapist, who made me see it for what he was, the next time I got a text saying “we’re at X place and I can’t find ds, I’ll have to call the police”, I sent the “okay, let me know how it goes” text (after a massive glass of vodka to keep my nerve with My friend assuring me it was bullshit to make me scared), and he never, ever pulled that stunt again.

So it worked.

Fucking hell! That's so deranged of hlm! That would have really, really played with my I head, that, it's horrible! Well done you for rising above him!

MessyNeate · 18/12/2024 15:03

😂

I remember my sons now ex girlfriends mother threatening to report me to social services if I didn't come and collect my son.

He was 22 at the time. 😂

GivingitToGod · 18/12/2024 15:05

Wouldn't want to share a laugh at someone else's expense, irrespective of their shortcomings.

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 18/12/2024 15:08

GivingitToGod · 18/12/2024 15:05

Wouldn't want to share a laugh at someone else's expense, irrespective of their shortcomings.

Congratulations on being a significantly better person than everyone else on this thread. You must feel so proud of yourself.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 18/12/2024 15:09

Haven't read your op yet, just to let you know I've got myself a slice of Jamaica ginger cake and I'm about to have a lovely read and giggle 🥰

LostTheMarble · 18/12/2024 15:09

GivingitToGod · 18/12/2024 15:05

Wouldn't want to share a laugh at someone else's expense, irrespective of their shortcomings.

Well if one doesn’t want to be seen as a clown, don’t create a circus.

Dweetfidilove · 18/12/2024 15:10

Are you sure it's your dog that's a massive twat?

This is too funny 😅😅😅

MumOfOneAllAlone · 18/12/2024 15:10

MumOfOneAllAlone · 18/12/2024 15:09

Haven't read your op yet, just to let you know I've got myself a slice of Jamaica ginger cake and I'm about to have a lovely read and giggle 🥰

Your post has not disappointed 😄😄

mathanxiety · 18/12/2024 15:11

LostittoBostik · 18/12/2024 12:28

Very astute. Absolutely a power dynamic.

Interesting his immediate response is to try to drag you in rather than work on his relationship with his son directly

My exH in a nutshell. Sadly he was a lawyer so made good on nine years of threats to haul me to court after divorce.

OP, I love your response.

MagnoliaGirlie · 18/12/2024 15:12

cherrytree12345 · 18/12/2024 14:17

As your DS is over 18 your ex cannot go to Family Court for an order

That's the point OP is making...