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Come and have a laugh at my ex husband of you need cheering up!

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Mydogisamassivetwat · 18/12/2024 12:10

Ds was planning to visit his dad at some point over Christmas. Looking at trains last night, they were absolutely extortionate and for two days, inc 10 hour travel time, it wasn’t worth the price.

Ex h has gone mental. Sent me a text last night saying that as I chose to move so far away from him, it’s my responsibility, and I should bring ds to him for contact. I have to drive him or pay the train fare. He’s going to “take advice” on next steps.

Ds is 22 years old. Yes, twenty-two. Not two. A grown man.

Has his own job, didn’t know when his leave would be until last night so couldn’t plan in advance, and to be honest, he’s a grown arse adult who is working Christmas Day anyway and what he does with his free time and his money is no longer any of my business.

I am wondering on what these next steps will be? Solicitor, perhaps? Or maybe he will go for full custody? I mean, ds lives with his girlfriend now, so I presume it’s her he would take to court, not me? Or perhaps their landlord? Who knows!

Oh and I know I’ll get asked why he still has my contact details. It’s because, every so often, he will do something batshit like this and honestly, I find it hilarious. When ds was 18, he said he was going to court for full custody and was contacting solicitors as ds didn’t want to go to uni, so this is nothing new, the man is just a fucking idiot. I tell him to let me know how it goes and then ignore him.

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Noshowlomo · 18/12/2024 14:06

This thread is wild! They really do exist.
Not me but my friend, she had 3 kids with an absolute loser of a man. He left when she had the first 2, then had their names tattooed on his arms but was too skint to pay her anything.
She got back with him and had a third child. It didn’t last. When youngest was 17 he called her and offered to pay £7 a week child benefit. She said no thanks I think we can manage without it (she had remarried by then to an absolute dream of a man, who loved her kids like his own), and he said “are you saying you are refusing this money that would make her life better” 😂😂 then accused her of never taking her kids on holiday because they only went on uk holidays and said “if it wasn’t for me they’ve never go on a plane”. What he failed to mention that it was his parents who paid for them all to go away, he never paid for a thing, and they only ever took the youngest daughter. Lanky tosser! His kids don’t speak to him now, but none of it is his fault of course.

ItGhoul · 18/12/2024 14:07

Ds is 22 years old

I literally laughed out loud at this

Resitinas · 18/12/2024 14:07

GoldsolesLugs · 18/12/2024 13:15

Your ex sounds like a loony arsehole, but what age was the DS when you moved away from the ex? If he was still a dependent this is a bit of a dick move tbh. It's attempting to sabotage him having a relationship with his dad, and to my mind is on the same moral level as separated parents trash-talking each other to the children.
I'm sure people will ask "So should women not be able to move away from their exes?" and the answer is, morally, no they shouldn't.

Absolute nonsense.

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LostTheMarble · 18/12/2024 14:07

Baili · 18/12/2024 13:51

Have you told him that you are “taking advice” on your next steps (free advice from Mumsnet), but he doesn’t need to know that
i wonder if there is a “Knobsnet” forum for people like him?

i wonder if there is a “Knobsnet” forum for people like him?

Pretty sure they used to call themselves Fathers4Justice. I wonder if he’s on any groups like that, posting about how his cruel ex is keeping his big aged son away from him…

Tracystubbs · 18/12/2024 14:08

Mylovelygreendress · 18/12/2024 13:54

My exh stopped me in the street once and berated me about DS’s hair . DS was 34 at the time .
He also berated me for “ allowing “ DD to fall pregnant at age 22 .

My ex had a shit fit and did exactly the same when ds had a baby with his long term girlfriend

Ds is not his son,he's fuck all to do with ex but ex had tried to make it his business

This is the same ex that left me with his two children,has never paid a penny and left me to abuse a 14 year old girl and he got her pregnant

But no,I'm the disgusting one for 'allowing' my 24 year old son to have a baby in a long term loving relationship

For the record,'his' children are delighted for ds and are a fantastic aunt and uncle to the baby

There are no limits with this type of dickhead

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Barney16 · 18/12/2024 14:08

My ex, very seriously, told me that he wouldn't agree to selling our marital home because he needed it for his "young people", they were mid to early twenties at the time and two lived with partners and one was at uni.

nouveaunomduplume · 18/12/2024 14:08

Mydogisamassivetwat · 18/12/2024 12:43

Oh God, there is more than one of him!

Ds and his girlfriend lived with us for a year, as we are fortunate to have a little annexe/studio type thing, until they moved into their own place a few months ago. That was the last time he waded in. He didn’t think it was appropriate that ds was sharing a room with his girlfriend (both 21 years old), and that he would be contacting social services as ds has two younger siblings in the house. I told him to let me know how it goes….

Well, I laughed. Please send him this thread so he knows people all over the country think he's hilarious.

On a related note, my parents did their level best to stop me and DP sleeping in the same room. A bit tricky for them since by then I had a postgraduate degree and had emigrated with DP to work in a different country. They finally gave up when DP and I were ... 28.

ChristmasRoses · 18/12/2024 14:09

Thank you thank you thank you OP. I have written that response down and it will be my go to from now on! Happy Christmas!

biscuitandcake · 18/12/2024 14:11

The twist 😁

You should have followed mumsnet tradition however by leaving out his age entirely in your first post and only dripfeeding it after at least 3 pages of posters assuming you were talking about a much younger child.

It is very funny though! Do you think he will actually seek legal advice? Oh to be that solicitor...

Hellskitchen24 · 18/12/2024 14:16

That’s hilarious. Some 22 year old men are probably married with kids of their own.

notacooldad · 18/12/2024 14:16

So why aren't you facilitating contact then?
Oh wait!! 😂😂

cherrytree12345 · 18/12/2024 14:17

As your DS is over 18 your ex cannot go to Family Court for an order

Petrasings · 18/12/2024 14:18

Yes please thank your ex from me too! I have just had a major bereavement and he has helped me realise there are reasons to live - and honestly he is the gift that keeps giving ☺️

Exs are not the only ones. My MIL bought my dd a newborn bunny comforter - it was beautiful - but she was 10 years old !!!! 10! She swallowed down a giggle and managed to keep a straight face as she thanked granny! There’s my girl!!!!! 🥰

Cherrysoup · 18/12/2024 14:18

cherrytree12345 · 18/12/2024 14:17

As your DS is over 18 your ex cannot go to Family Court for an order

You think?!

OMG, this thread has distracted me from my marking!

Stormyweatheroutthere · 18/12/2024 14:19

I left dh and remarried. Had another dc.. 4 years had passed since I divorced and we still didn't have dc order sorted. Exh had my new baby added to the contact order as obviously the dc should all be at his together.... He was so deluded...

Blogswife · 18/12/2024 14:19

This is so funny ! I love your response and plan to use it myself !

motelhotel · 18/12/2024 14:20

🤣 cheered me up that

recipientofraspberries · 18/12/2024 14:25

Hahaha fantastic. You must have been quaking in your boots, OP!

Toomanyemails · 18/12/2024 14:26

Haha read the start assuming he was maybe 14-16, thought "well that is a shame, could you not have helped DS plan, and it's not really fair for him to pay" but 22😂why wont ExH pay? Or travel to visit his son?

Pasithean · 18/12/2024 14:27

Easy , as soon as he pays his back maintenance, you will book the ticket.

slightlydistrac · 18/12/2024 14:28

"Knobsnet"😂

Love it!

Mydogisamassivetwat · 18/12/2024 14:28

cherrytree12345 · 18/12/2024 14:17

As your DS is over 18 your ex cannot go to Family Court for an order

Oh, thank fuck.

His girlfriend will be relieved not to lose custody of him.

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DowntonCrabbie · 18/12/2024 14:28

GoldsolesLugs · 18/12/2024 13:15

Your ex sounds like a loony arsehole, but what age was the DS when you moved away from the ex? If he was still a dependent this is a bit of a dick move tbh. It's attempting to sabotage him having a relationship with his dad, and to my mind is on the same moral level as separated parents trash-talking each other to the children.
I'm sure people will ask "So should women not be able to move away from their exes?" and the answer is, morally, no they shouldn't.

Lol
Let us know how that goes.....

MozartsMeatballs · 18/12/2024 14:29

Oh wow OP that's hilarious - thanks for the laugh 😂

Not quite in your ExH's league but mine once shouted down the phone at me for not supplying a moses basket for the baby - DD3 was 12mths old at the time.

He also tried the maintenance spreadsheet request. Told him to jog on.

I love your therapist's suggestion, and will definitely be using that in future.

Panama2 · 18/12/2024 14:35

This is brilliant and I am pinching that response as well. I could really have done with these last few weeks.

just a thought your ex does k ow how old his son is? 😂

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