Come and have a laugh at my ex husband of you need cheering up!

[Mydogisamassivetwat]

Ds was planning to visit his dad at some point over Christmas. Looking at trains last night, they were absolutely extortionate and for two days, inc 10 hour travel time, it wasn’t worth the price.

Ex h has gone mental. Sent me a text last night saying that as I chose to move so far away from him, it’s my responsibility, and I should bring ds to him for contact. I have to drive him or pay the train fare. He’s going to “take advice” on next steps.

Ds is 22 years old. Yes, twenty-two. Not two. A grown man.

Has his own job, didn’t know when his leave would be until last night so couldn’t plan in advance, and to be honest, he’s a grown arse adult who is working Christmas Day anyway and what he does with his free time and his money is no longer any of my business.

I am wondering on what these next steps will be? Solicitor, perhaps? Or maybe he will go for full custody? I mean, ds lives with his girlfriend now, so I presume it’s her he would take to court, not me? Or perhaps their landlord? Who knows!

Oh and I know I’ll get asked why he still has my contact details. It’s because, every so often, he will do something batshit like this and honestly, I find it hilarious. When ds was 18, he said he was going to court for full custody and was contacting solicitors as ds didn’t want to go to uni, so this is nothing new, the man is just a fucking idiot. I tell him to let me know how it goes and then ignore him.

how does your DS feel about not seeing his dad over christmas? fact he was looking into it indicates he did want to see him

Exactly! People pay good money to see stand up comedy whereas @Mydogisamassivetwat is getting it for free!!!

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so DS came to conclusion his dad was a massive twat

but still was intending to visit for a few nights over the festive period?

Could you say his car seat is now a little snug so you can't drive him safely?

His stepmother isn’t the easiest person to get along with, so ds wasn’t really that fussed. He just thought he could get the train up quickly on his rest days. He wasn’t devastated, but they’ve only seen each other a few times a year since ds was about 16 anyway, so he’s used to it.

Have you told him that you are “taking advice” on your next steps (free advice from Mumsnet), but he doesn’t need to know that
i wonder if there is a “Knobsnet” forum for people like him?

Honestly! What sort of a mother are you allowing a 22 year old to drive a car!!!Haven’t you seen those ^https://www.halfords.com/bikes/kids-bikes/apollo-sparkle-kids-bike---12in-wheel-193982.html^

though of course since he is a boy you would have to get it in blue.

I think "let me know how that goes" is far too much effort. The "thumbs up" emoji was invented for just such an exchange!

Thanks for sharing this OP - it's given me a good giggle today! Thank goodness you live a 2 hour drive away from him!

My exh stopped me in the street once and berated me about DS’s hair . DS was 34 at the time .
He also berated me for “ allowing “ DD to fall pregnant at age 22 .

Tell him you're going to sue him just for the giggles.

Maybe the ex can go halfies in a new car seat

Sat in the hairdressers having a good snigger.
Just hilarious that these men exist

Amazing op 😂

Yeah, he’s a dick but he’s still his dad. He’s never done anything awful to ds, he’s just a massive idiot. he’s popped to see him for a couple of days over Christmas the last few of years as when his dad worked abroad until last year, that’s the one time he’d ne in the country. They only tend to see each other Christmas, ds birthday, ex h birthday.

Sorry that was a reply to a PP but quote didn’t work.

surprising he was even planning on going up there over the festive period for a few nights, bringing his girlfriend and an insane amount of travelling golden what you describe of his dad!

Went for custody when the DS was 18! 😂😂😂

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My ex asked me for 10 years when the school holidays were and I would always reply look at the school website. He was gobsmacked that the school website really had a calendar with term dates and that I hadn’t been keeping them secret from him all that time. That’s when he started texting ds directly about his availability over half term and organising a few extra days.

He was texting me recently and was gobsmacked when I said that he should ask ds tomorrow because he’s at the pub right now. Ds turned 18 months ago.

I came on to tell you not to be so bloody horrible reading the title, but then I read your post! 😁

Oh op. I wouldn’t be able to resist - how do you find that kind of RESTRAINT!!

I might insist on a contact centre
Can you share the cost of a new pushchair
Can we work towards a sleepover

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The possibilities are endless and very amusing!

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@Mydogisamassivetwat im currently going through a bereavement and your thread has made me laugh

Honestly what a fucking daft idiotic knob your ex is.

😁 Your son is a smart and funny young man.

Oh his girlfriend wasn’t going. They both do the same job but have different shift patterns over Christmas.

The price and the travel time put him off. Never really looked into trains getting there before, he didn’t realise how much longer it too than driving. Wasn’t worth it for what would have been one night, less than 48 hours there.

His dad is a stupid prick, he knows what a dick he can be; but it’s nothing you’d cut a parent out of your life for.

Absolutely brilliant. What a freakin tool that man is. I really, really hope he contacts a solicitor. And that he let's you know how it goes.

Just trying to imagine a reboot of this classic movie with a big, strapping 20-something lad in the middle!
The best gift has been ‘okay, let me know how that goes’ because I will be using that…. a lot!