Things I haven’t said out loud this week. Christmas edition

[YorkieTheRabbit]

We know you’re dropping hints and not very subtle ones either. No we haven’t seen you for sometime, I’m sure you do enjoy coming for a meal.
No we aren’t planning on inviting you over Christmas, if we can do a quick present swap, fine but no more.
I’m sick of catering for your family, coming to us for a meal doesn’t mean you don’t need to eat all day before you get here.
You all turn up, absolutely starving, the last time you came it was beyond ridiculous

You could always TRY INVITING US for once, even for a takeaway.

No, DD’s boyfriend. You don’t get to eat me out of house and home for seven days and then tell me, while you eat a magnificent Christmas turkey dinner, that we’re having duck next year AT MY HOUSE which you will be in charge of.

Haha if they arrive late I still count them as Sent & don’t care if they only sent them after receiving mine. They made the effort albeit belatedly & after a prompt.

It’s 3 strikes and you’re out with me. 3 successive years of no card and they’re off the list! More than generous I feel …

Same here. I've got one of those Christmas card address books, with columns for years. No ticks for three years, and you're out!

Yup … you’ve got to be brutal in life sometimes 😂

People who say they ‘can’t’ cook, almost always mean they just CBA, in my experience anyway. I always want to say, ‘Oh, dear, can’t you read?’ Since anyone of normal intelligence can surely follow a simple recipe - if they can be bothered.

I love handcream - so much so that you've bought me 5 tubes of it. To my darling step daughter, who knows me so well - not!!

Just in case anyone was wondering whether I got a soupmaker.
MIL actually got me a beautiful Osprey bag, sorry MIL (and hello if you are stalking me on here as I have suspected for some time).
Either way I got a lovely present and had a very nice Christmas

She's utterly obnoxious

if i send you money and card then seriously fucking LOOK FOR IT and then SAY THANK YOU.
also - the world doesn't really give a shit about if you're here or travelling.

I know this was our first Christmas being separated, but you buying me a present from the kids would have been nice.

When they realised I hadn't got anything to open they wrapped up random things from the house for me because they knew we'd been shopping for you and you had lots of nice things to open from them and I had nothing.

Same for your mum. There's no hard feelings anywhere, so I don't understand it.

But I'm glad the kids are more like me than you. That's the best gift.

17 years I've been cooking Xmas dinner for you. You turn up empty handed, don't even move your plate, offer to help, help clean up or lift one fucking finger.
You turn up at 8am for breakfast stay all day eat like a king and take home loads of food.
You could at least offer to bring dessert.

I have to cook for everyone else and to be perfectly honest a vegan who doesn't like vegetables is not fucking easy to cater for.

Hurrah for a Christmas happy ending. Well done Hopping's DMIL.

Don't you dare tell me this time of year is hard for you when you made all the choices that led to you not being with any of your children, your family or with me and my family. All of these things are your doing. Take some fucking responsibility for your own actions. Own it. Accountability is not a dirty word.

@troppibambini6
Please don't do it any more.

@Neveranynamesleft you're right. I'm not doing it again each year he gets worse.

Most days lately I ve found somewhere quiet to go off alone and have a cry.

I m not coping and I wish I was back at work.

Also ex partner you are not a fun guy who likes a drink anymore. You are a (barely) functioning alcoholic who uses Christmas to drink even more than usual and you are not welcome in my house.

It's actually sad to remember who you used to be 40 years ago at school. You look ten years older than your true age and I m sick of feeling guilty or sad when I drive past the pub you haunt and you are hanging onto a lamp post smoking.

I m sorry I don't care but alcoholics are selfish and I spent too much of my youth and our kids childhood helping you out.

One of the other siblings pointed out that I get loud & pushy when talking to you. It's totally true, and I'm embarrassed about it. It could just possibly have something to do with the fact that you make a big deal about disliking me, blank me as much as you can, and sneer when you feel forced into an event with us both present.

Still, I feel bad about letting my indignation show like that. Blank and sneer all you like going forward; I will be nothing but sickly sweet from now on. Super-sickly. Enjoy!

What the hell? He's hosting Christmas at your house, without asking you?

Who's buying the food??

Ha! No idea. He’s American and I’m sure spending Xmas with us rather than his family is not easy for him - not sure it was anything more than an excited, flippant comment, but Jeeeezzz, the timing was off 😂

Wake up. Wise up. Stop making excuses for her. She didn't bother to come for Christmas Day AGAIN this year.

She would have come if she wanted to.

When will you see that she just suits herself all year round and Christmas is no different?

It is my sister s choice to work with drug addicts in a homeless shelter. Nobody forced her.
Just because I work in a home counties school where the kids don't stab you in the corridors doesn't mean I don't work bloody hard and do a "worthy" job.

I can't say this to my mum who s in her 80s because I don't want to upset her.

Everyone in the family seems to have forgotten the terrible jobs I ve had (3 or 4 part time cleaning jobs at one point when I was younger) and I sucked it up (not just with Henry the hoover) and thought of the money.

Thank fuck that’s over.

You really think those gifts are suitable for you DIL who has had a really shit year because of your DS(back on track now TG) and more than likely how he was brought up because his siblings are exactly the same.

SC you should be ashamed of yourselves and I'm not doing Christmas for you lot anymore. Not my circus not my monkeys.

No I don't want to spend NYE with people who blatantly hate me and told you they do.

I’m sick of hosting and skivving and getting stressed. I just need you all to piss off now and leave me in peace to nurse my UTI in the comfort of my own bed.

yes yes I know I am all you have and I’m mum and I love you all dearly but I’m struggling and you are all oblivious.

fingers crossed you all go to other peoples houses for New year then I can have peace and quiet.