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Things I haven’t said out loud this week. Christmas edition

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YorkieTheRabbit · 28/11/2024 15:57

We know you’re dropping hints and not very subtle ones either. No we haven’t seen you for sometime, I’m sure you do enjoy coming for a meal.
No we aren’t planning on inviting you over Christmas, if we can do a quick present swap, fine but no more.
I’m sick of catering for your family, coming to us for a meal doesn’t mean you don’t need to eat all day before you get here.
You all turn up, absolutely starving, the last time you came it was beyond ridiculous

You could always TRY INVITING US for once, even for a takeaway.

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Fraaahnces · 28/11/2024 23:26

To my cousins:… I will not be driving 1.5hrs each way to pick up and drop off your mum on Xmas day simply because I live closer than you do. I have been in and out of hospital since February with heart failure and haven’t heard a peep from either of you (I know your mum would have been on the phone within seconds of finding out from DH). Yes, she’s old, but the “This could be her last Christmas” messages you tagged me in on SM only serve to remind me that it could be mine too. I’m not wasting a second of it driving, catering, tolerating bigoted conversations or being with anyone other than my lovely DH & kids.

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YorkieTheRabbit · 29/11/2024 09:08

@Fraaahnces Flowers

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Newbie887 · 29/11/2024 09:13

Stop buying the same generic random presents for all the grandkids ages 1-12 because you only see them twice a year and don’t bother talking to them properly when you do see them. If you don’t know what to get my kids then just ask me and buy the link I send not some random half-matching product that you think is better.

also it’s my turn to do the stockings now and I get to put in what they’ve actually asked for from Santa, please can you not give me a full stocking a week before Christmas of stuff they are not interested in esp as they still believe in him and it causes drama on Christmas morning of why he hasn’t bought anything they asked for!!

AyrshireTryer · 29/11/2024 09:17

I din't need to see children back to back against each other to see that they have indeed grown.

JudyJulie · 29/11/2024 09:29

We aren't going to buy any presents for your DC this year, but if you give us the details, we will put an equivalent amount in their savings accounts.

(This is because we get a lengthy list of suggestions every year, buy generously from the list and then never see anything we have bought ever again!)

OAPapparently · 05/12/2024 10:12

I write my name first when signing the Christnas cards because I bloody well wrote them! If it was down to your son/brother you wouldn’t receive one at all, so no, I’m not going to start writing his name first. You are all petty minded and pathetic and I know you like non-blood family members to know their place below all of you in the pecking order, but you can fuck right off!! Your son thankfully isn’t wired the same as you. You are all unhinged.
And you can shove your cheap Poundland tat up your backside!! My kids don’t want or need it. Put the fivers you would have spent on it towards the latest iPad you buy your favourite Grandchild.
No, we won’t be spending any time with you over Christmas. We are compiling a list of excuses already. And no, it’s not because we are jealous of you (far from it) it’s because you are unpleasant, vile bullies.
If I could afford a space rocket, I would put the whole lot of you on it and launch it into space on a one way journey. Just take the hint and fuck right off. We don’t like you!!!

Ah, that feels better.

MaggieBsBoat · 05/12/2024 10:19

I. Do. Not. Want. To. See. Your. Miserable. Faces. At. Christmas. And. Watch. TV.

Its just a day and sharing it with people who make it a competition to see how miserable they can look is NOT my bag.

Thanks!

BrokenBicycles · 05/12/2024 10:35

Please don't buy me anything from Shein.

charlieinthehaystack · 05/12/2024 10:57

no dont bother with gifts or putting up with us we are off to the seaside for 3 days rest where we will eat all the stuff we shouldn't watch the twits in the sea on boxing day then come home. if we dont make most of our visits we wont be able to go soon as partner is going blind and i dont drive so instead of driving round with false smiles and crap noone wants we are doing something we want to do, its been a bad year lots of spite from people who should support us and losing my dream business then sod it you can all put up with it

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 05/12/2024 12:07

I’m back with another one: stop fecking commenting on everything I eat and “warning me” that it’ll make me put on weight. I’m a healthy weight with a nice figure, but even if I wasn’t I’d still be entitled to eat whatever I damn well want.

And no, I don’t want your old size 16 clothes that are “too big” for you now. I’m a size 10 ffs, and you know that, you’re just trying to insult me. Guess what, it’s working.

AnnaDelvorkina · 05/12/2024 15:00

We cannot afford to come ‘home’ for Christmas and DH rarely gets out of bed and even more rarely showers so I don’t think he would be up to the journey either.

AnnaDelvorkina · 05/12/2024 15:02

And to the DC, we have no money to buy you presents and your DF is too depressed to decorate (I will do what I can, had an operation so not very mobile again yet, DC can help too.) We also don’t have any money to extend our food budget but I will do whatever I can to make sure we have some festivities, somehow.

evtheria · 05/12/2024 15:02

I do not want to go to the Christmas market. I hate those* Christmas markets.

*not against them as a whole, just shitty ones

turkeyboots · 05/12/2024 15:07

I don't care you told your friends you would be at my house for Christmas. You aren't invited or welcome.

HoppityBun · 05/12/2024 15:08

olderbutwiser · 28/11/2024 18:24

“Oh that’s disappointing, I really like getting Christmas Cards and I will be sending them”

I know I know, expensive and old fashioned, and if you aren’t sending them that’s your choice. But don’t assume I agree with you about them.

Yes!

rockingbird · 05/12/2024 15:09

I have no desire to meet up with you at Christmas because we are sisters!! You've always been a nasty cow and my teens also think so too. They would be baffled if we had to spend a minute with you over the festive season!! Off you fuck.

Thanks 🤩 I feel better for that!!

HoppityBun · 05/12/2024 15:19

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 28/11/2024 22:28

@BubblePerm

I Hope it gets better for you soon. 💐

Yeah, me too @BubblePerm xx

HoppityBun · 05/12/2024 15:25

AnnaDelvorkina · 05/12/2024 15:02

And to the DC, we have no money to buy you presents and your DF is too depressed to decorate (I will do what I can, had an operation so not very mobile again yet, DC can help too.) We also don’t have any money to extend our food budget but I will do whatever I can to make sure we have some festivities, somehow.

Oh @AnnaDelvorkina i hope that Christmas brings you all a little cheer and that in 2025 things start to get better xx

Hoppinggreen · 05/12/2024 15:28

If I open my present from you on xmas Day and its the soup maker that I have said clearly and repeatedly that I don't want despite you only serving soup from your soupmaker when we visit while telling us how easy and great it is I WILL throw it at you

Moonlamp · 05/12/2024 15:29

I'm not coming to the office Christmas do because I don't want to.

I genuinely can't think of a worse way to spend my free time than wasting all day on a shit team building activity followed by trailing around a city centre 3hrs away from where I live in the cold, freezing rain while the team argues about where to stumble into next.

Also, I can't be around a certain colleague if she's drunk. She's fucking unbearable sober.

ARichtGoodDram · 05/12/2024 15:34

You can think that everyone chipping in for Christmas dinner is "weird, bizarre and maybe even a bit rude" as much as you like relatives new partner. If you don't want to come then don't.

This is what we do, as your partners mum has explained, as in our family expecting the same people (the only ones with space) to host 20+ people every single year, 15 and counting, at their expense would be rude. We tried other ways - bringing a dish, doing a bit of the supping etc - over the years and this works for us all. We all chip in with the cost as well as the prep, the cooking, the set up and the clean up. It's not simply being hosted.

If it doesn't work for you then it was an invitation not an obligation and no one will kind of you don't come.

PiddleOfPuppies · 05/12/2024 15:36

You have opted to spend every Christmas on a "winter sun" holiday every year since 2016 (and opted to work it for the extra cash every year prior to that), so no, you don't get to have an opinion on any part of the Christmas gathering because you can't afford to go this year. You made your priorities perfectly clear.

Mymanyellow · 05/12/2024 15:40

Wrap your own fucking presents I’m not ‘good at it’

IveGotToGoToMeDads · 05/12/2024 15:47

Don't buy me lush bath bombs like you do every year. I only use the shower.

No it is not a good idea to invite terminally ill Grandad over for dinner. He's breathless, double incontinent and he has never spent a christmas with us when he was well. So WHY NOW?

themadhatterwithtea · 05/12/2024 15:56

Dear friend. I am not coming to yours Christmas eve. I have DH and DC at home and you know that. I am also not coming to yours NYE either for the same reason. And don't you dare ask me about the 14th & 15th, which I know is coming.

Dear DH. I will buy what the F I like for DC for Christmas. We can afford it. You are tight. ps I always spend a fortune on them and tell you 'it only cost a small amount'. (said half heartedly)