Where is my friend? getting worried now

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Friend coming to stay and said she'd be here about 11am so we could have lunch together. Still no sign of her.

Her DP just texted me about 2.45pm and asked if she'd got here safely as she wasn't answering texts and usually drops him a quick text after long drives to let him now she's turned up. He said she left at 9.30am which is right as it's about an hour and a half. I sent her a text about 12.30 along the lines of don't worry about running late I can hold lunch see you in a bit - no reply.

I've looked at her route on google maps - no traffic holdups that I can see. Not yet replied to her DP - will have to say she's not arrived... luckily he's not the type to panic but he will be concerned obviously.

talk me down I'm imagining all sorts of awful things. I wouldn't worry about an hour or even 2 hours at a push but 4 hours late with no communication is concerning especially as I know she left on time and she's usually really reliable give or take 20 minutes

What a relief! But she does sound like she might be concussed, he'll need to keep a careful eye and possibly take her to A&E.

Like previous posters my car has an app which means both DH and I can see where the car is. I can’t track his phone as it is a work phone and can’t have tracking apps, not an iPhone either. I have an iPhone and DH could use “find my phone” from either of our iPads (yes he knows the PINs for all my devices and me for his apart from work phone). We both tend use “share my location” from WhatsApp if we are on a long drive so we know when to expect each other home.
I realise that some DHs are not nice but it’s not my go to assumption for all men. Not all “tracking” is sinister.

So many suspicious mners

Stress can actually make people feel so tired they sleep, I think it’s the flight or fight response. It seems a normal reaction to me, as long as it was a sleep rather than a bang to the head and passing out.

Yes I know that, but if a car battery was dead that wouldn't be possible hence the good sense to have a power bank at all times.

Make sure the police are notified about the car left on the side of the road.

My father didn't and had the police knocking his door at 3 am, they weren't very happy either.

She would, as long as the breakdown wasn't the result of a dead car battery. But honestly the first thing I do on getting in my car is to plug in the phone to the charger even if it's half or fully charged already. No brainer.

To be honest it doesn't sound that suspicious. It sounds like OP's friend probably has concussion, things like texting a friend or family member and going to sleep instead are in character for a concussion.

If I sent a text like that guaranteed DH (and potentially friend too) would try to call me back, both risking my battery and blocking the line for breakdown call she was expecting. If I didn't accept the call they'd try again, but I'd also be worried that the time spent in composing a message covering the whole situation and 'please don't call or message me' would burn battery too.

Where people upthread have asked why she couldn't charge in the car, we can in our car but only with a cable. If one or other of us have removed it for some reason (I sometimes take it into work and then forget to put it back) then we can't.

Well whether the story is true or not, it's a good lesson for women travelling alone. Always have a fully charged up phone, or a means to charge one up. Always.

I think that's the point.

I don't get the point of turning her phone off to save the battery. Surely in an emergency is the time to use a phone with a low battery?? Send a text to people or make a phone call to the person most likely to answer. Let people know where you are. Then if your phone dies at least people already know where to find you. To turn your phone off and not let anyone know where you are is just stupid.

But minimum battery would mean getting in touch with my partner to tell him where I sm and to assist me would trump any waiting hours for potentially the breakdown to come.

And I'd assume that friend would be calling or texting anyway to see where I am as soon as it got to 11am.

I agree there are some very odd parts of this story. The lack of phone battery. Tyre blowout causing a flat battery meaning the phone can’t be charged OR going to stay with OP with no charger. Breakdown service not attending. Being SO low on battery you can’t text DP or OP. Falling asleep. Having to be found by DP. Still sounding groggy and confused.

It seems unfair to speculate but my instincts would be that this is mental health related.

I think some posters need to calm down a bit on the speculating.

If I say what I think I'll get my post deleted again 🤔

Oh ffs poor woman is clearly having a bad day there's no need to make wild leaps

But it make no sense also not one person stopped to help in all that time

Exactly this would be my concern - a concussion certainly sounds possible and is worth getting checked out if you can say to her DP

To fall asleep with all that going on is odd .I’d be wired and at least text you or her dp. Just so someone knows. Sounds off.

Exactly this would be my concern - a concussion certainly sounds possible and is worth getting checked out if you can say to her DP

Oh just spit it out. What do you think is going on? It’s almost as if you want the DP to be a wrong’un.

These wild leaps are ridiculous. The story certainly sounds reasonable to me, but i agree she should be checked out for concussion.
I managed to run out of battery and hence get lost in a foreign country this summer and i would generally be considered pretty organised. However I don’t normally use google maps ( most of the time i drive where i know where I am going) and I totally underestimated how quickly it drains your battery. I had bought a back up power bank, and it was charged, however when i went for the cable it wouldn’t fit both my phone and the power bank at the same time!
The cable for my in car charger was wasn’t a apple product and my phone wouldn’t recognise it ( it had done last time i used several months earlier)
some of this thread would have had a field day.

My Apple phone charger can’t be used in the car as the end isn’t a USB (which is what my car has). Loads of people don’t carry a charger.
The rest of the story is odd though!