Where is my friend? getting worried now

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Friend coming to stay and said she'd be here about 11am so we could have lunch together. Still no sign of her.

Her DP just texted me about 2.45pm and asked if she'd got here safely as she wasn't answering texts and usually drops him a quick text after long drives to let him now she's turned up. He said she left at 9.30am which is right as it's about an hour and a half. I sent her a text about 12.30 along the lines of don't worry about running late I can hold lunch see you in a bit - no reply.

I've looked at her route on google maps - no traffic holdups that I can see. Not yet replied to her DP - will have to say she's not arrived... luckily he's not the type to panic but he will be concerned obviously.

talk me down I'm imagining all sorts of awful things. I wouldn't worry about an hour or even 2 hours at a push but 4 hours late with no communication is concerning especially as I know she left on time and she's usually really reliable give or take 20 minutes

Pleased she is found.

Thankfully she is safe and well.

For anyone coming across this thread, the definition of a missing person is ,

''anyone whose whereabouts cannot be established and where the circumstances are out of character or the context suggests the person may be subject of crime or risk of harm to themselves or another'.

This definitely seems to apply to the friend.

Call the police if this happens to other people you know . There's not a specific time you have to wait and if they've potentially came to harm time is of the essence.

Thank god for that!

I'm glad she's been found safe and well. Hopefully, it'll all make sense after you've spoken to her, please don't feel obliged to update with what happened.

Doesn't anyone find ut bizarre though how he messaged the friend but the missing lady couldn't have called using his phone to ket the missing friend onow quickly rather than a message .

Phew!!! Great news, thanks for updating.

Aside from the seriousness that the outcome could have been - I’ve much enjoyed the 10 pages of detective work and assumptions 🍿

Maybe she’s unwell/shaken/embarrassed?

Depending on what happened she might not feel up to talking on the phone right now. That isn't bizarre or suspicious.

Fair enough

Hope she’s okay and it was something mundane like a sudden onset migraine where she just couldn’t do the phone thing.

It must have been something quite unnerving that happened so she may not feel up to it until later .

Has it not occurred to you that the poor lady may have had a mental health episode and perhaps not up to calling at the moment? Why are you trying to make it something that it isn't and make thinly veiled assumptions that itbis somehow her partners fault?

"Taking her home" suggests that her car can't be driven, so broken down or been in an accident. She's probably upset, stressed or shaken. But physically fine which is good too hear.

Assuming that a person is OK just because their partner has messaged to tell you they are is a bit naive.
Obviously I hope all is well. But I would need to speak to my friend in person before I stopped worrying..

I’d be checking in on her. Glad she’s found but it’s a bit odd that she didn’t call you herself.

What a scary thing for all of you. I hope she is ok.

Same here. There is no “thank god” until you’ve spoken to your friend herself, OP. Most partners would at least say that the friend is ok but doesn’t feel well, or that there was an issue with the car, lost her phone or whatever . There is more to it and I would still worry for my friend/

Yes this is wrong.
With missing people the initial hours are crucial, and the police and search and rescue teams need to be called out asap, they will then take action depending on the circumstances. Eg they prioritise people who are vulnerable in any way, (due to age , emotional state or location), but will also act swiftly when a situation is abnormal eg completely out of character.

Yes that's why I put what I said above but I get criticised. Like he didn't even say oh she broke down etc which wouldn't have been hard to say.

Glad she's OK and on her way home.

Hopefully it was nothing too serious.

As long as she’s safe. I hope you manage to speak to her soon. This is strange.

I'm pleased she's safe and with her partner now OP

Maybe she has had a TIA and unable to understand where she was?