Toddler gave my 12 week old jam!!

[Punok]

Was making jam tarts with the toddler and turned my back for all of 30 seconds to close the fridge - turned back to see the little bugger giving her 12 week old baby brother (sat in his bouncer) a bloody spoonful of strawberry jam!! 🫠

Do I need to do anything?!

Oh this is grandparents for you. When I was a child I wasn't even allowed crisps and now if my mum ever takes my toddler shopping they come back loaded with crisps, chocolate, cakes, comics....the list is endless!

@Jeezitneverends "I agree, my eldest is 27 (also no red book in my area) and the advice was 12-16 weeks, I got her to 14 weeks before starting her on solids"

Yes, not 6 weeks, as @BibbityBobbityToo suggested.

That's probably not alleged. My DM was extremely poorly at birth in the 60s and my DGM was told to give her this by the hospital staff when they were finally discharged.

My nephew was a very hungry baby - 2 full bottles at every feed and still wanting more, at 2 months. DSis started giving him baby cereal from then on.

He’s now 50, perfectly healthy and has never been remotely overweight.

A friends toddler fed my small baby, play dough and stickers. All came out in her poo soon enough with no harm done!

Haha, god bless older siblings! Bet the baby loved it.

Weaning at 3 months was the norm 20 years ago. You probably were. It will be fine

I don't think it was 20 years ago, more like 30. My 31 year old was weaned at 3 months but four years later when I had my 27 year old the advice had changed to six months.

My mum was given this chart in the 70's for one of my siblings. Going by this you are actively behind schedule for not giving your baby cod liver oil and orange juice at 2 months!

111 for eating some jam ??

My sister gave me washing up liquid too drink ,when I was about two and she was four also in the 70 s

My mum did this to my aunt but with a spoon full of English mustard! 😂

Don't worry, baby will be absolutely fine

Even in the early 2000s the advice was 3-4 months.

@anxioussister

My MIL is adamant she started DH on puréed chicken and rice from three weeks. Weirdly insistent about it although FIL maintains he has zero memory of anything ‘unusual like that’

Absolutely standard advice at the time - not sure why you seem to be doubting what she is saying.

Not weaning til 6 months and 'baby led weaning' is quite new.

No it was incase of an allergic reaction

My dd did similar when ds was around 12 weeks. It was milky bar yogurt!

Mine are 23 and 20 (years 😁) and the advice was to wean at 4 months.
With hindsight the younger one would have been better at 6 months but the HVs were full of how baby wouldn't be able to talk if they weren't chewing by 6 months so had to start purees at 4. DD still wasn't really eating at a year, but she could definitely talk. Hasn't really stopped since.

@VivianLea I once drove my friend to the hospital for what turned out to be a piece of chocolate caught under her newborn's fingers. I myself once rang my mum in tears because I thought baby DD had been too close to fireworks. Another friend rang 111 because her baby had been asleep too long!! Yes, in all these examples we were being ridiculous. But in the moment it was frightening, and you have to be a bit of a dick to not realise that it's hard being a mum sometimes

But these sorts of things shouldn’t be frightening in the moment and it shouldn’t be hard being a mum or dad in this regard, and it shouldn’t be normalised. If it was normal everyone would be ‘afflicted’ but they are not. It’s also quite dangerous to perpetuate the narrative that if a woman has a baby common sense and reason departs.

We lived next to an older retired midwife for a while and it was always fascinating to hear her stories. She certainly didn’t have the opinion of ‘nothing wrong with that’ and was fully appreciative that time had moved on with newer evidence dictating things, but the reality really is that none of those babies were actually hurt and all grew into normal adults.
Edited to add the stories were like it being standard for large hungry babies of 14lb to have a bottle containing baby cereal after a breastfeed as standard. Not saying I agree but things were just done differently.

If he does just dab a bit of jam on your nipples 😀

I'm not perpetuating that narrative. It isn't normal. But anxious people exist, and they have children. It's nothing to do with being a woman, either. In my own family actually DC's dad has a problem with anxiety, and it's been an absolute nightmare for me.

My comment was only that if someone is worried enough to post here about something like that, then reminding them that they can keep an eye on the situation and call 111 if they feel worried isn't bad advice. It gives them permission to stop and do nothing.

I remember my DH giving my 12 week a tiny lick of chocolate 😶 he too was delighted

@ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea "Not weaning til 6 months and 'baby led weaning' is quite new"

It depends what you mean by "new". I did both in 1995.

Sorry-1996. Dd was born n 1995.

That accounts for your bubbly personality!

I remember my mum telling me not to give my baby sister, she was about 8m, I was two years older, apple peel from the apple she'd just given her whilst she was sat in her highchair.

What did I do? Gave her the apple peel.

Choking, sister turning blue, mum hysterical (she'd gone outside for some reason and left us in the kitchen), sister upside down with much banging on her back. I was absolutely bollocking for not doing as I was told.

That's my earliest memory.

Tbf, my DSis did continue to choke on everything from fresh air to dust until she was a teenager! But I will never forget that.

A bit of jam won't harm your baby - but scary all the same.