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Sleeping with 101 men in a day

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dorabora · 03/11/2024 07:35

This 23 year old has recently done this, and uploaded the content to only fans. She has received alot of hate on TikTok but the men who took part have barely been mentioned.

apple.news/Aqkq-kLDpTIOog_cxaObeIg

What do you think ?

OP posts:
MaidOfAle · 03/11/2024 09:59

dorabora · 03/11/2024 08:18

It is very worrying as a pp said that men think of women as a toy and a laugh. I think to myself what would my husband think if one of our daughters did this ? But what would he think if one of his best mates said they had joined a queue to have sex with a woman ? Would he think it's funny?
I think men can separate sex and women can't they

Many men divide the world into "my women" and "other women" and don't care how they treat "other women“. The cognitive dissonance required to maintain this mental fiction is remarkable, considering that this is the supposedly-rational sex we are talking about.

FoxLoxInSox · 03/11/2024 10:00

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 08:36

I'm going to be contrary here.

From a moral and traditionally christian-informed world view, I find it morally outrageous.

But this is a secular and increasingly irreligious society where morals are increasingly defined by who is hurt.

From that perspective all people involved have consented. This is a woman from a two parent family. She's young, white, beautiful, intelligent enough to get to university, business minded and as such sits within and occupies an extremely privileged sphere of reality. With all that privilege and all those gifted life tokens, she has chosen this.

I mean she understands the psychology of sexual kink and if she wants to inspire and fulfill it, why not? In a post modern world, sex outside of marriage is more about pleasure than family. Is sex outside the confines of marriage more wrong if it involves more partners?

I would say not. If consent and pleasure is (joyfully) given, and (joyfully) taken, what other parameters are we judging it adversely by?

This is really nuanced and thought-provoking.

CleverShark · 03/11/2024 10:00

It's lucrative for her and not illegal so..

I wouldn't assume she has a mental illness or is doing this because some kind of potential trauma.

People like money and people have different ideas of what is 'easy money'.

Some women working in the sex industry are motivated by that, and also some have sexual fetishes that they're indulging.

Many, many don't but some do.

SerafinasGoose · 03/11/2024 10:00

I don't believe her for an instant.

Kazzy5055 · 03/11/2024 10:01

I think it's not something to boast about and don't know why it's newsworthy to be honest. People have sex everyday and don't advertise the fact. The woman and men all must have some sort of bad mental health going on. If she wants to shag that many men then let her get on with it but don't put it on public display!

kirinm · 03/11/2024 10:02

MoreCardassianThanKardashian · 03/11/2024 09:58

@Itsmeamandaberry I wrote that when I thought this was about Bonnie Blue. Is it Bonnie Blue or the girl in this article that's been proved not to be the mum? Interesting either way isn't it.

It's not Bonnie Blue. Apparently they used to be friends but aren't any longer.

OneOfThoseOldFashionedWomen · 03/11/2024 10:04

OonaStubbs · 03/11/2024 09:46

No. It's grim but saying that is ridiculous.

50 men on trial for the rape of Gisèle, (there were more but can't identify them) most lived within 60KM of her village.

There were FIFTY men within THIRTY SEVEN MILES willing to RAPE an unconscious woman.

So no, I don't think what I said is ridiculous.

Edited to say quote is wrong and now can't remove it.

happydappy2 · 03/11/2024 10:05

Isn't this a form of self harm? Surely not to be celebrated....

Jesslovesengineering · 03/11/2024 10:08

I just wonder why anyone would GAF. I'm old enough to remember Annabel Chong (1995) who, depending on which report you believe, had sex with 251 men / had sex with 70 men 251 times in a 10-hour period. Sorry Lily squirrel, you literally did too little, too late, to get your slagbadge.

Pilliowformyknees · 03/11/2024 10:11

Disgusting
I hope her father and mother never find out

Absolutely disgusting, she tars us all as only useful for sex

Laptoppie · 03/11/2024 10:11

Jesslovesengineering · 03/11/2024 10:08

I just wonder why anyone would GAF. I'm old enough to remember Annabel Chong (1995) who, depending on which report you believe, had sex with 251 men / had sex with 70 men 251 times in a 10-hour period. Sorry Lily squirrel, you literally did too little, too late, to get your slagbadge.

It does affect other women though, and the rise of the Internet and online porn has changed things immeasurable since the 1990s

Llhaaf · 03/11/2024 10:13

She’s obviously going for shock factor and believes that this is what men want to hear and see. The more men that she can expose herself to (figuratively) the more money she makes. The 101 or the 1000, gives these men who pay for her content the idea that their fantasy could become reality….and makes her more money.

It’s rather immature, but then she’s 23. She thinks that’s what men are all about. For many that might be true. A lot of men are indeed dirty sleaze bags, who would dip their cock just about anywhere. And these come in all ages. Being able to attract this type of man however isn’t the win she thinks it is though.

There are decent men too. Men who really wouldn’t want to be number 87 🤮. And at only 23 she has probably made herself quite unappealing to decent men.

Roll on twenty years, when she perhaps wants something different from life, she’ll just be another washed up porn actress, who decent men don’t want anything to do with, making her more likely to meet grotty men, who by their nature are more likely to cheat, regardless of her talents in the bedroom.

I’m all for women power, but this is really sad, really gross and a potential recipe for a really disappointing future.

kirinm · 03/11/2024 10:14

Pilliowformyknees · 03/11/2024 10:11

Disgusting
I hope her father and mother never find out

Absolutely disgusting, she tars us all as only useful for sex

They know and support her.

ShinyShona · 03/11/2024 10:23

dorabora · 03/11/2024 07:35

This 23 year old has recently done this, and uploaded the content to only fans. She has received alot of hate on TikTok but the men who took part have barely been mentioned.

apple.news/Aqkq-kLDpTIOog_cxaObeIg

What do you think ?

I think she can do what she wants, the 101 men can do what they want and the hate is from people who want to stick their noses into other people's business. It wouldn't be my thing, but I'm fed up of people going around looking for things to judge or be offended by.

ChampaignSupernova · 03/11/2024 10:25

Either its true and she will regret it in a few years time or it's fake and she will regret pretending she did this in a few years time. I cannot see any outcome where she will be genuinely pleased she did this.

Dutchhouse14 · 03/11/2024 10:25

Honestly I think she must have some mental health issues, I'd worry about both her mental and physical health.
I am also disgusted with the men that took part.
I have 3 daughters around the same age and I'd be devastated and do anything to protect them.
I also have a son a similar age and would be absolutely furious if he participated in anything like this.
It objectifys women and I think can damage young people's perceptions of sex and relationships it's sickening and should not be normalised.

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 10:26

You can appreciate something may be objectively harmful even if you didn’t ‘think’ it was at the time.

True. But I'm not sure we can apply this to sex given with consent as it involves submitting of the physical, emotional and mental person in a way that is highly individual. It involves agency and to deprive a person of agency, is seen as equally harmful. Particularly when it comes to a woman wielding her agency, within patriarchal structure it is seen as negative.

Presumably she thinks her actions are positive, and mutually beneficial for all parties involved. She is fulfilling their desires and in return is able to fulfill her objectives. Her world view fits firmly within the current hegemony of the post-modern moral framework. To have a cap put on female sexual expression is harmful to women, results in the commodification and disempowerment of women's bodies and is 'slut shaming'.

Following on logically, it is you, and people like you with your perspective that sexual expression among women must be confined within the boundaries of a conservative norm that is based in patriarchally driven, religious notions of monogamy in which women can become disfranchised, disempowered and the possessions of men and seeks to confine them within those boundaries through shame regarding their sexual agency, that is harmful. She sees herself as freeing women from this paternalistic world view. From a world view in which men have full sexual agency and women are seen as victims if they express theirs in like manner.

She is exposing herself to illness

This does not still make it more harmful than sex with lesser numbers of men in which it takes only one encounter to pick up an illness really. And sex with any stranger is a risk.

She is perpetuating a dangerous narrative that women are merely there to be used

I would counter that many women do this on a lesser scale that contributes to large net effect of women in modern society being increasingly perceived as sex objects and puts huge pressure on young people to enter sexual encounters before they may be individually emotionally and mentally mature. You could argue that no strings, freely available sex, removed from monogamy, removed from family, largely divorced from responsibility over the last few decades has already done this.

In fact, I would argue that because she is doing this within a context that is very clearly removed, defined within fantasy and so far outside the norm as to be extremely blatant, it may, in fact, cause lesser harm (if you believe it us causing that) than the former effect, which is insidious and 'cheered' on much more readily.

IDontHateRainbows · 03/11/2024 10:26

UmbrellaEllaEllaElla · 03/11/2024 09:45

I'm hesitant to believe she actually did this.

I'm willing to believe she had sex 101 times but how many of the men got to the back of the queue again for another go. Not like you'd actually recognize the faces after a while.

HollyKnight · 03/11/2024 10:28

That's 4 hours of her life she'll never get back.

Pusheen467 · 03/11/2024 10:28

Tooffless · 03/11/2024 07:37

I think she must be sore.

This was my first thought too. Ouch.

ACynicalDad · 03/11/2024 10:30

No sure she understands the difference between fame and infamy. And the though of going in after so many other blokes that didn't use condoms is pretty grim to.

Bartcla · 03/11/2024 10:32

She’s a sex worker who had sex and earned money for it, I can’t get worked up about that.

Motcouk · 03/11/2024 10:37

MoreCardassianThanKardashian · 03/11/2024 07:47

I hadn't read that about condoms. That is grim. They do need ID tho...

Grimmer still is the man who wanted to perform oral on her after lots of men had 'slept' with her unprotected!

Oldseagull · 03/11/2024 10:40

I feel a mixture of pity towards her and despair.

I'm starting to feel some elements of 'sexual liberation' were a bit of a con. Can we keep the bits about single mothers and sex before marriage being socially acceptable, and ditch the extreme violent 'porn' and female meat wank puppets bit being financially rewarded and morally encouraged?

BibbityBobbityToo · 03/11/2024 10:42

Disgusting that so many men were willing to be part of this. No decent bloke would touch her with a barge pole as she clearly has severe mental health issues.