Equivalent to a Teddy for a 36 year old?

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I have had a fairly tough year and really benefit from a weighted blanket on top of my duvet when I go to bed. I’m single, and wondered if there’s anything else on the market that could help me feel safe, snuggly and cocooned when I go to bed? Last night I ended up looking up teddys but thought perhaps there’s something else I could go for. Thanks ❤️‍🩹

You can get weighted cuddly toys too.

I have a hot beaded teddy bear- put it in the microwave and it's lovely for bed.

I was also going to suggest a warmie - cross between a weighted teddy and a hot water bottle!

But I’m also in the pregnancy pillow fan club. Wonderful things. I’m hoping to one day kick DH out of bed to have room for a giant U shape one.

Get whatever makes you feel best OP.

Get a teddy! About 15 years ago I bought myself a big fluffy pig for valentines day when my shitty ex boyfriend didn't get me anything. I'm now 40 and I still sleep cuddling it every night even tho I'm married (to someone else!) I've even packed him and taken him with me when staying overnight somewhere else. He's very tatty now tho!

I'm happily married but I often need my teddy to help me go to sleep or as a comforter if I wake in the early hours.

Just buy the teddy (teddies). You’re never too old. Me and my husband each sleep with our childhood teddy

Fleece duvet cover and a Cocker Spaniel 😀

This is such a lovely wholesome thread. I definitely expected someone to turn up and declare that surely anyone over the age of 4 shouldn't require any form of comfort, like some kind of vindictive Matron from a Victorian boarding school.

Flat out bears! 🐻 they are soooo soft. I have one for my daughters - I used to have one aswell (pre kids) but then gave it to my eldest who is 7. They come in different sizes and colours too. They are quite pricey but worth it, I loved snuggling with mine!

https://www.baababy.co.uk/collections/flatout-sheepskin-bears

I am 52 and have three teddies, two Steiff ones I got for my 40th and 50th and one I bought myself.

DD also gave me a small fluffy cushion last year, heart shaped from Primark.

I also have one fleece blanket I often find rolled into a sausage shape next to me.

I find the feel of something soft and cuddly reassuring when awake at night or having trouble falling asleep.

I have a long narrow hot water bottle that I can wrap around myself - it's great! A sort of hot sausage!!

Something like this would be great! Comfy like a pregnancy pillow but much cuter.

A v-neck pillow!

This! One of the best threads I have read in ages.

I totally get you OP. I have had a significant bereavement and have since noticed how tuned in I am to senses (particularly sound at first and touch). I live feeling the weight of a heavy duvet too, and now it’s winter am sleeping much better with a hot water bottle.

Aside from the sleeping thing, I uncovered in my bereavement group how common it is for people who have had a loss or trauma to crave touch (not intimacy necessarily) even if they hadn’t before (explains your desire to want to hold onto something). I am not a particularly physically affectionate person but I remember being very upset once and was so wound up, and my friend didn’t hug me immediately but rubbed me on the back like you would with an unwell baby. I calmed right down, it was such a wonderful feeling. Weird how these things are…

This.

Warmies are lovely. You warm them in the microwave and they smell of lavender to help you sleep. 😴

I just came in here to say, get a squishmallow, hell, get two.
I would say one of the smoother ones are nicer, mine is more fluffy & now not as soft. They are the comfiest things. Get a big one.

I'm a bit disturbed by all the grown adults on this thread referring to their "teddy bear", are you real? How the hell do you have a single bear? I've got 120 approx! My current bedfellow is an orange cat from Kenji. Her name is Mrs Sloughcombe. I love my squishmallow (Gwen de la Cameltoe) but her rotundness is somewhat of an obstruction to the cuddle.

I’d get a Squishmallow! Or an adorable small dog you let sleep on the bed.

Since you mentioned a weighted blanket, you could try a reborn doll. They're weighted to feel like a real baby.

These are good

https://warmies.co.uk/collections/warmies%C2%AE-large-13?gadsource=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwyfe4BhAWEiwAkIL8sKjd82JyziwyUMrUq8lkqoSynAN-uBwWkdZ2Mfr59UE-2YPUGVUYuRoCl7oQAvDD_BwE

Added bonus is you can heat them.

There's also many custom makers on Etsy who will make them to your chosen weight and size plus if applicable can use materials significant to you eg my cousin in law used clothing from late grandparents to make keepsakes for the whole family which was lovely.

I've got a squishmallow (well the Tesco equivalent as it was £12) dinosaur which is comforting.
I also have a V pillow. I put it sideways so my head is on one arm of it and the other arm goes infront of me and I cuddle it.

I like to cuddle something in bed and my DH says I'm a human radiator, so he is out of the question once it gets warm.

Haha I'm the opposite. No hugs until winter. I sure love my husband in winter....

I'm 46 and wouldn't be without my dear old bear. I sleep with him every night.
Go to a toy shop and buy the one that seems like the right one for you, OP. You'll know when you see it.

At a time of high stress in my life, I made sure my bedroom was always clean and tidy so it was a safe haven. I would burn a nice lavender candle for 10 minutes before I went to bed. I had nice lighting - a warm, soft yellow lamp. Also it's nice to have a bath before bed and nice pyjamas. All contributes to a feeling of safety and self worth. I looked forward to going to bed.