Does anyone have a nice MiL?

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I've seen loads of threads recently where people are having an awful time with their Mother in laws, so I thought Id ask...

I have a lovely MiL, some of the things she has done/does

• Said she wouldn't come and visit after DD was born until I was ready for guests even though she was beside herself with excitement.
• Always brought round a cottage pie when DD was small to save me cooking.
• Asks SiL to help her chose (and order online) when she buys DD clothes so she gets something she knows I'll like.
• Snuck a bag of ironing out of the house and text me afterwards as she knew Id never agree to her taking it.
• Never interferes between me and DH or comments on how we parent.
• When DD went through a phase of playing shops she saved all her food packaging & receipts, put together a till with real money and set up a life size shop in her living room and played shops for hours. 😅

Thought I'd share something nice - most of my posts are moans 😂

Thays nice, isn't it . Im a MiL x3 - I have 5 DSs and 1DSS, so I came on to be defensive but then saw your positive comments! Your MiL should advise new MiLs I think ! Set up a blog or something ! Keep up the good work !

my MIL was lovely. she did lots of lovely things, but it was the little things like posting runner beans from her garden to me. making my favourite pudding(just for me.that made her extra special.

Yes, I have a lovely MIL. She is very easy to talk to and even at times puts up with me moaning about her son to her. In a way sometimes this also makes me sad as although I have a good relationship with my own Mum I probably spend more time with my MIL and I feel we have more shared interests.

Your MIL sounds absolutely amazing! I suppose we only read about ‘awful’ ones on here because posters want feedback about negative behaviours.
Isn’t it lovely to have someone who is so kind and is such a positive influence? I loved reading your post!

I love mine, she reminds me of Miriam Margolyes, but without the swearing 😅
She is lovely, we talk on the phone often as she's about 400 miles away, and she always asks how my family are doing as she know they have their health problems. In fact all of my wider in-laws are lovely, shame about the member of the family I got married to......

Mine is lovely. Warm, supportive, fun, adores my kids. Love her loads.

Yes, I do.
She can always tell when we need a break, so she'll take the kids for a night.
She brings treats.
She paid for my wedding dress alterations.
She never interferes unless we ask for her opinion.
She loves my children so much.
She's great.

Mine was lovely. Unfortunately the Alzheimer’s version of her is not so nice. I hope that when she dies, DH will be able to remember her as she was.

I do! She's in her final days now so that's understandably different, but she was always bubbly, friendly, always produced mountains of food, was helpful, fair, not intrusive but willing to listen, had a great sense of humour, helped to create a really loving, safe place to be, was so welcoming of me that I immediately felt I belonged... ah, she's a treasure.

No one is perfect. My MIL annoyed me several times and I’m sure I got up her nose on occasion too. But I never forgot my mum reminding me that MIL was another human being who would take a bullet for my children / her grandchildren- and that made her a good pal.

My MIL died quite a few years ago, but she was lovely and we got on fine. In fact, she was much, much, much nicer than my awful mother.

Mine was lovely. I was gutted when she died.

I do, I love mine loads. She’s brilliant

Yes, my MIL is amazing 🙂
She is DH's step mum and has been an absolute blessing to us all. We all love her and would do anything for her.

Mine is awesome!

I do think most people get on with their extended family don’t they? The concentration of bad experiences here can make it seem like the world must be full of horrible MILs, but I don’t know anyone in real life who’s had major MIL problems.

Some of the stories I read on here are worthy of being scenes in a soap!

I'm lovely! 😂

Mine is amazing! I see her more than my own mother (only due to geography). She’s raised a fantastic, thoughtful, respectful and caring, man (who shares all housework and childcare duties as he should), so I had no doubt she’d be a great mother in law and positive influence for our children.

My MIL is really quite daft and quite self obsessed but on the whole she means well - she doesn’t do anything to help us but did a lot for SIL which seems to be a common theme ! My DM was worse . I’ve spent my time as a mother trying to do a better job than my mother and imagine I will do the same when I’m a MIL .

Mine was lovely, I stayed in close touch with her after I split up from exH.

Yes, lovely, helps us loads with childcare and is just all round a caring person.

I loved my MIL to the end of the earth but the moment my marriage to her "precious" son broke down I was totally cut from her life 😭

Yes mine is lovely! And I hope that, as a mum of two boys, I will one day have a good relationship with any future daughter in laws.

Yes my son in law does 😆

Yes, my MIL is lovely and kind, I appreciate her very much.