Does anyone have a nice MiL?

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I've seen loads of threads recently where people are having an awful time with their Mother in laws, so I thought Id ask...

I have a lovely MiL, some of the things she has done/does

• Said she wouldn't come and visit after DD was born until I was ready for guests even though she was beside herself with excitement.
• Always brought round a cottage pie when DD was small to save me cooking.
• Asks SiL to help her chose (and order online) when she buys DD clothes so she gets something she knows I'll like.
• Snuck a bag of ironing out of the house and text me afterwards as she knew Id never agree to her taking it.
• Never interferes between me and DH or comments on how we parent.
• When DD went through a phase of playing shops she saved all her food packaging & receipts, put together a till with real money and set up a life size shop in her living room and played shops for hours. 😅

Thought I'd share something nice - most of my posts are moans 😂

That’s a lovely comment!

We don't live in same country but I respect her and think well of her. I'm not going to list every thing because I'm ill but this is my little nod to her. We aren't in any way similar personalities but I learn a lot from her. She's great with keeping the kids in check and she is intelligent.

My MIL was lovely. Annoying sometimes but aren't we all. She always told me I was doing a good job. She was funny and, when in good health, helpful. Bastard dementia got her, sadly.

I have a lovely MIL. It hasn't always been plain sailing as not only are we from completely different cultures but we also have very different personalities too! There were a few bumps in the road but then we started to understand each other. She's always been there for us and helped us in so many different ways. She very fair and not the type of person who'd ever bitch about you behind your back. She's the most wonderful grandma and she children adore her. She always puts others before herself

I love my mil. She is so kind and really thoughtful.

My lovely Mother in law is no longer here, sadly, She was just the best, always helpful, never interfered, she absolutely adored my kids and would do any thing for them, I miss her so much.

My MIL has always been lovely but was very mean to me last Xmas. She carried on blanking me in WhatsApp calls (asking my DH how our DD and dog were) when she knew I could hear her! Didn't sign my bday card, didn't ask me how I was when sick with concussion etc. Went on for 6 months - and only changed when my DH confronted her. Needless to say - haven't seen her since Xmas 2023. We live in different countries so makes it pretty easy to avoid her.

My MIL passed away in April but she was a lovely lady. I still see FIL most days and he's lovely too.

I have nothing at all in common with my DMIL, and our relationship is nothing like that which I had with my actual much loved and recently deceased DM.

But that hasn't got in the way of me appreciating that she's a lovely woman, always delighted to help us out by babysitting when the DC were young, always really appreciative of things we do for them, cheerful, sociable and active in her mid eighties after cancer treatment ten years ago. She's a model for what I hope to be in later life.

My MIL is epic. She's one of my favourite people.

We spend time together outside of DP and kids. She's also been on holiday with us several times.

She's just good stuff. Smart, funny, industrious, tenacious, gets stuff done but never over steps or interferes. She is kind, fair, honest and capable. She's exactly the type of person I want to be when I grow up.

I lost my wonderful mum very suddenly a few years ago and when (God forbid) we lose MIL which hopefully won't be for many years yet I'll be equally as crushed. If not more so.

I've known her for 18 years now and I'm so glad to have her in my life.

My MIL was quite eccentric but a kind woman who welcomed me into her family even though she disapproved of my DH divorcing his first wife (before I met him). She never bossed or interfered.

My MIL is so lovely, we have a bit of a language barrier so we don't have a lot of conversation but she's always cooking for me, bringing me fruit she knows I love, or she'll give me a cuddle when I'm tired or unwell and tells everyone how proud and happy she is to have me as a DIL

I like mine. She’s very generous, quite chic, funny.

She's like a second mum. Very caring and loving. Loves to pop round for a cup of tea or glass of wine and catch up.
What I would say is we had a few clashes at the start but we've always put our differences aside and worked on our relationship and it's paid off so much because we are in such a good place and she's always treated me like one of her own. She doesn't have daughters so she loves having a close with relationship with SiL and I.

My MIL drove for nearly 2 hours to be with me and my family at my dad’s funeral. She always asks after me and my family when we get together.

We don’t always agree but despite that we get along well. She’s very intelligent, very kind, and everything she does for us has thought and love behind it.

We've holidayed with her for weeks at a time and just drink wine and had fun.

I see her as my family.

My MIL would drop anything to help us out. She loves her grandchildren so much and is always there when we need help with an unwell child. She has really facilitated my return to work. She’s a great cook. She’s very generous with her time and money.

I have one of those that makes you fat :)

I'm adding mine to the nice list. We get on very well now that we know each other better and she loves my baby boy so much.. long may it continue!

My mil was lovely. She passed away, which is a shame because she was just so nice.

Your MIL sounds like an absolute gem. You’re lucky but I’m sure she knows you appreciate her and that goes a long way. Not everyone is as lucky and mine laments never having had daughters ‘because it’s not the same’ insinuating she gets pushed out - she doesn’t - although now our children are grown I leave them to their ship with their GM and I’m fairly aloof from any personal rship because I’ve been there, got the T-shirt and life is simply too short to get caught up in her web.

I'm really enjoying the posts from the DILs who are long term divorced from their MILs' sons, but are still good friends and very connected to their MIL.

I remember my MIL, completely out of the blue and looking worried, saying to me "if you and P ever split up, we would still see each other, wouldn't we?"
It turned out that she had recently visited a friend whose DIL had disappeared from her life after a divorce.

MIL is a very strong character, strident in her views and can be really quite rude. She is definitely not a knitting in her favourite armchair sort of a MIL. She's more at home in a leather skirt, at a radical new exhibition opening.

As my kids say, 'one of these grannies is not like the others'

But she is so intellectually and creatively alive, hugely intelligent and believes our pretty normal kids to be unnaturally gifted (on account of their remarkable parentage.) She won't hear a word of criticism about me by anyone (other than herself!) No occasion is ever boring when she's there, she's taught our children so much about art, music and culture, taken them to amazing places to meet amazing people, and (not least for gaining a PhD at 75), she's a pretty amazing role model to us all.

They love visiting her studio for the afternoon and coming out covered in oil paint having met some crazy new up and coming artist she's befriended.

Don't tell her, but I've learned to love my crazy MIL 😉

Mine flew 200 miles to visit me (and look after her adult son! ) when I was in hospital after an ectopic. The hospital food was dreadful so she arrived bearing homemade smoked salmon sandwiches with the crusts cut off.

I adore my MIL. I am apparently the DD she never had. She now has dementia and is a shadow of her old self, but she still thinks I'm the best, and I do her

I love my MIL! She and FIL have welcomed me and DD with completely open arms, and try to include my family (DM, DSis and family) too - wouldn't change her for the world x