My shit life ends here and now: tomorrow is a new start! ***Title edited by MNHQ***

[GetAGrip4FucksSake]

I'm drawing a line. Tomorrow is a new start for me. I'm putting myself first for the first time ever.

Things starting from tomorrow:
I'm completely avoiding the news.
No more doom scrolling.
Deleting all social media.
Get back into running.
Stop eating processed crap.
Completely declutter the house.
Start volunteering.
Read more.
Spend more time walking and gardening.
Try and find a solution for my crippling anxiety.
Stop trying to please everyone.

Yes! Such a waste of a life isn’t it otherwise.

Yes. You're right. I'm going to start with stopping the scrolling and also getting healthier. I've already started on the decluttering. A few things on eBay finish tonight so I'll post this off tomorrow.

Sounds like you've made great progress 👍. So sorry about your mum. I lost my mum last year and my dad a few years ago.

Oh I'll join you please. I am going to yoga one evening this week and will try and get on my spin bike too.

Can I join you. I have big meeting on Tuesday with my head. I'm going ask for hours to be extended from half term of two people n my dept freeing me up to actually do my job properly instead of being so overwhelmed that it is killing me mentally and physically and then I'm going to drop the bombshell of wanting to drop to three days a week from September. I think it will be a no but I shall rattle spears. Now I've written this down I won't wimp out!

Welcome and good for you. No job is worth ruining your health for. Good luck 🍀🍀🍀🍀

Me too please! Starting couch to 5k with Ds3 this week, have been meal planning to get control of what I’m spending on eating but now need to switch this up to include better nutrition.
And less doom scrolling too!

I’m a single parent with 3 dc. 1 at primary 1 at college 1 at uni, full time job and have just been lurching through the weeks recently. Need to gain some control!

Great idea OP, thank you.

I think you should start smaller, a couple of things at a time, which are more manageable from your list, that will help you move on to the others.

Good luck xx

Joining you OP.

Life has been v. stressful with not much laughter of late.
I have begun to sort out my diet and lost 7.5 kg so far.
Cut down on the political podcasts.
Deleted X and limiting FB to once a day.
I’ve started volunteering one morning a week doing something outdoors.
Got an appointment with the nurse to discuss referral to the National Exercise scheme.
Reading more books.
Started classes in a couple of hobbies.
My relationship with DP is not great at the moment so I need to sort that out too.
I have anxiety meds from the GP and am going to complete the CBT he recommended.

That’s a lot.

I’ve started on the house stuff. Got rid of a lot of clothes the DC have grown out of either by charity, vinted or passing on and sold a couple of old toys today.

I desperately need to get my diet sorted. I eat as my coping mechanism and it’s getting out of hand!

Definitely need to put my phone down more too, I have a pile of books to read but never get to them!

I’ve a lot more to work on but these probably need to be the priority!

I will be starting tomorrow. How are you finding it? I did it years ago and then built my way up to running 10k regularly. But I was so ill during pregnancy that I was pretty much bed bound the whole time. Running with your DC sounds lovely, I want to eventually get a running buggy and take my baby out for park runs.

I can confirm that not engaging on FB or any apps where you view people's lives that you know - is a huge leap forward in mentality well being. I do like to scroll through crap online but the above element is utterely soul destroying and people don't even realise it. I don't feel any more lonely. I feel less lonely. People who I know and who care will communicate through WhatsApp. I love this. I never have to worry about not liking some bullshit post about someone's baby. You tell me direct and I will give you a genuine authentic response of love and appreciation more so than anyone liking these endless posts.

I also avoid the news as much as possible. That's a huge one. It is absolutely designed to instil fear and almost terror tbh. I do see bits on YouTube but it now causes such anxiety because my brains not used to it that it shows me how bad it really is for us

Not exactly the same, both dds have either left or are about to leave. I have been a parent and carer for dd with SEND, who is now moving into a Residential Placement (her behaviour is so challenging, she's at risk of being sectioned). Other dd is at university, but the effect on the wider family has been catastrophic. We are currently sorting and decluttering dd2's stuff for her move. It's becoming an adult household again. I need to find myself again.

Don't overwhelm yourself with too much change all at once. Break it down into the 3 or 4 most important changes for you and start slowly, building up more changes as you go. It increases the likelihood of you succeeding long term and not feeling like a failure if you don't manage it all all at once.

@Babbahabba yes, baby steps is the answer to lasting change.

Please count me in. I’ve managed to achieve most of my New Year’s resolutions this year except, eating better (lose weight), exercise and playing music.

So true!

I'm going to come up with a shortlist and longlist

I'm in.

I've managed to lose a bit of weight this last few months, but have taken my eye off the ball and stalled a bit. So fasting and nutrition are at the top of my list.

Also:
Drink water
Bed by 11pm
6000 steps a day (to increase when I can reliably achieve this)
No spend days
No weekday wine

Would love to join too

OP - hope you don't mind - we've edited your title as the original had a few people worried! We just wanted to make clear this was a positive, forward-thinking thread. Lots of luck with the new start to you and everyone else on the thread!

Ok thanks 👍

Ah, I can see why it's been edited!

Love this thread! Can I ask, how many of you drink too much on a daily basis? I ask because I feel this is what's holding me back on a massive scale and I need to stop..... But I don't want to! 😅

I will Join you OP - very similar goals to mine! It starts tonight where I leave my phone on charge downstairs and not bring it to bedroom for doom scrolling!

I deleted Facebook 3 months ago and it is the best thing I've done in ages. Have started reading a lot more books because of it. I still have tiktok and have the odd scroll on it as my ds likes a couple of creators on there one who has huskies and a famous chocolate maker