My shit life ends here and now: tomorrow is a new start! ***Title edited by MNHQ***

[GetAGrip4FucksSake]

I'm drawing a line. Tomorrow is a new start for me. I'm putting myself first for the first time ever.

Things starting from tomorrow:
I'm completely avoiding the news.
No more doom scrolling.
Deleting all social media.
Get back into running.
Stop eating processed crap.
Completely declutter the house.
Start volunteering.
Read more.
Spend more time walking and gardening.
Try and find a solution for my crippling anxiety.
Stop trying to please everyone.

Anxiety is the pits, isn't it?
Mine came on in lockdown and it's been with me at varying levels since.
Even doing simple stuff, you realise your confidence in yourself and your abilities is in the toilet, and combine that with a sort of fear of the outside world generally, not a recipe for living a full life!
I'm so appreciative of the good days when they come - just need to find the magic recipe for them to come more often 🙂
Reckon your list is a pretty solid start OP, & inspiring thread, thank you 🙌

I’m a few months into deciding similar. I replaced doom- scrolling with motivating Audible books and podcasts (Mel Robbins is fabulous). I now read daily- I have 2-3 books on the go to match whatever mood I am
in (same as when watching TV- you’re not in the mood for the same genre all the time). Journaling is great. I also recommend Tara Swart “The Source”- basically to change your life you change the way you think (neuroplasticity etc). My life is infinitely better and I feel so much more in control. My anxiety is not the forefront of my mind constantly anymore

Good luck OP, if you want some motivation on the food I recommend reading Ultra Processed People, it's been life changing for me.

No it's a anonymous forum like Reddit.

😁😁😁@MeMyCatsAndI

try you tube hypnosis for anxiety.wont cure it-but offers relief,try michael sealy...

Agree with your OP, cutting the news out of our lives can only benefit us. There's never anything positive on at all anymore. At least when I was a kid, the News always had a 'and finally' ending, with a funny, uplifting story.

One of the most positive/uplifting ideas I came across recently was a therapist who set her clients homework, to do a good deed each day and journal it, to be a kind of recorded testament of their lives. Simply putting the date, and the good deed they did that day. Can be anything - helping an elderly person cross the road, a compliment to co-worker or someone in a shop. You get the idea. Very much the 'be the change you want to see in the world' type of activity.

Good luck with your changes OP, it will undoubtedly lead you to a better life.

Good for you - but to take some of the pressure of yourself - set one goal at a time.

I've had generalized anxiety since childhood. Nothing has worked....Prozac, Sertraline etc.I had dysfunctional parents which I think caused it.

Possibly, but I was thinking more Facebook/Instagram

I have done that although instead of running I cycle. The house is so much nicer with all the crap gone, and it stays far cleaner for far longer. This is my only social media and it's not on my phone. I have no news apps anywhere and as much as I occasionally feel I should be more interested in what's happening, when I do watch the news I feel terrible and spend far too long thinking about the awful events in the world. Life is a much, much happier place for me without the doom and gloom, but with the exercise, fun and laughter.

Yes. I started at the gym today and really enjoyed it. Was sat in my bed this morning scrolling and I just realised that I was spending hours of my day staring at my phone. So at 7am I got up and went to the gym ( signed up and had not been yet ) made me feel better.

have not got rid of Instagram or Facebook but went though and only kept what I really look at. I ate and entire bag of share crisps the other day and was disgusted with myself. My mum and dad are very overweight and now they are older it has started to take its toll. Now everytime I look at the crisps I will remember them and not be like them.

im starting perimenopause and starting to feel crap. So I need to really get my arse in gear. Take care of myself as I don’t want to be overweight and dependent on a cane to get around in ten years because i couldn’t stop shoving crap food in my mouth and was staring at my phone for eight hours a day.

Joining you! Great thread. X

Nice.
I relate!
👏

Good to see, make sure you go for a walk every so often as well, maybe stop off for a quick drink at the local pub. A nice walk with an audio book and then a chat with the pub goers will help you get over the SM withdrawl symptoms and build up an offline network.

Sounds like a great plan OP

Some of those are on my list too. Good luck.

Sounds like an excellent plan, OP.

I would amend it a little by making your changes more gradual, otherwise you end up using a lot of willpower every day and that will burn you out quickly. Make just one or two changes at the time till they become an unconcious habit.

Definitely make deleting social media a priority, because it's a proven drain on your happiness, time and energy.

I have had a pretty shit year. Athough I am usually pretty good at self-care and healthy habits some things have slipped and on top of it all I'm getting over a nasty cold. So, some things I'm doing at the moment are:

Getting back to daily weights/yoga after being ill
Weaning myself off emergency sleeping tablets, which I have managed to this week - sorting out sleep generally
Mindful eating
Daily Headspace and journalling daily/weekly goals and thoughts

I need this. I was trying to think earlier if there has ever been a whole year in my adult life when I have been truly happy for the majority of the year, and I am struggling to find a year where I was.
Yes, I know I am infinitely lucky to not be in a war zone, and not everyone is truly happy all the time, but I can’t control what happens to others, I can control what happens to me if I take certain actions to be happier and healthier. I need a kick up the arse to get going.

Love your user name. And good luck with it all. I'd like to see some updates too.

I’m joining you!

This all sounds amazing but do you think it’s too much at once? You’re more likely to habit build and make things stick with small changes at a time

Joining 👋

im going to work on slim-lining stuff at home and freecycle all i dont need
Meal planning nutritious meals (hate cooking but really need to get into it)
get out and exercise daily 30 minute walks on my lunch break

unfortunately i cannot give up social media as its my job!

@GetGetAGrip4FucksSake I'm with you! In June I lost my gorgeous, beloved mum after a very short, unexpected illness, and a few weeks ago both DSs left for university, so decided it was time to invest in me again after a rough few months and a lot of change and emotional upheaval.
So after years working out at home I joined the gym again, started eating healthily again (no teen snacks in the house!) decorating rooms in the house and sorting the garden. Still working WFH full time so need to have reasons to get out more.
I feel like me again. Wishing you luck with your changes!

Your goals are similar to mine. I will start with you! Thanks