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If you get up for the loo in the night, do you turn the light on?

140 replies

BiscuitlyBoyle · 04/10/2024 20:49

I saw a thing the other day about how mums will go to the loo in the night without turning the lights on either in the hallway or in the bathroom. I realised that I never turn any lights on, no babies to wake up or small children, I just don’t need it.

So is that a female thing? And adult thing? Or a parent thing?

What about you?

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 04/10/2024 21:24

BiscuitlyBoyle · 04/10/2024 20:49

I saw a thing the other day about how mums will go to the loo in the night without turning the lights on either in the hallway or in the bathroom. I realised that I never turn any lights on, no babies to wake up or small children, I just don’t need it.

So is that a female thing? And adult thing? Or a parent thing?

What about you?

No I don't

There is enough light from my landing window but even in pitch black I don't need it.

I know where all the furniture is

And if I put the light on it wakes me up too much

Nanny0gg · 04/10/2024 21:25

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 04/10/2024 21:08

No, never, and nor do I put my glasses on. I can pretty much go for a wee without waking up.

I yearn for those nights.

Unlike last night when it was 3 times in an hour.

Proper wees too.

Underlig · 04/10/2024 21:25

Yes, I’d turn the light on in the bathroom. I’m very short sighted, though, and without my glasses in the middle of the night, it’s almost dangerous.

Everlore · 04/10/2024 21:26

No, but I'm blind so having the light on wouldn't be of any use to me! I'm always getting up to go to the toilet in the night but my husband rarely does. However, I don't think he does turn on the light on the occasions he does go in the night as, while I wouldn't notice the l ight as I have no light perception, I reckon I'd hear the lightswitch as I'm a very light sleeper!

ToBeDetermined · 04/10/2024 21:26

I always turn the light on in the bathroom.

Kw1234hhggf · 04/10/2024 21:27

No because I try to do it without opening my eyes properly so as not to break the sleep I’m semi still in.

JLS101020 · 04/10/2024 21:28

I don’t turn any lights on. I’m still semi asleep, I even sit on the toilet with my eyes closed 🤣

bringslight · 04/10/2024 21:28

Manage so far without it but unfortunately I sweat a lot and drench my tshirts in it , so turn the light on to pick up a tshirt and as I wear them inside out, to not beel labels, need to see what I am doing

yeesh · 04/10/2024 21:30

We always leave the landing light on, but our bathroom is downstairs. I rarely get up for a wee in the night CBA

Kw1234hhggf · 04/10/2024 21:32

JLS101020 · 04/10/2024 21:28

I don’t turn any lights on. I’m still semi asleep, I even sit on the toilet with my eyes closed 🤣

😂😂 me too!

ItsVeryHyacinthBucket · 04/10/2024 21:33

No I leave the lights off, I open and shut the door soundlessly and I don't flush, either.

scalt · 04/10/2024 21:34

If I need the loo in the night, I don't even bother to take my sleep mask off. 😞

FatBuccaneer · 04/10/2024 21:35

I'm horribly near-sighted in full daylight with specs on, so at night with no glasses I need some light or I just blunder into things. We have a PIR light in the hallway to the main bathroom and another in my tiny ensuite (usually so I can see if DH has put the seat down before I lower my arse into toilet water).

Bluevelvetsofa · 04/10/2024 21:36

We have sensor lights that are under the basin, activated by movement. Just enough light to avoid tripping over something.

Justcallmebebes · 04/10/2024 21:36

No light on here either. Plus, if it's early hours, I keep my eyes closed as much as possible so I can go straight back to sleep

No young DC in my house unless it's the weekend in which case I may have 1 or several DGC

starlitsnow · 04/10/2024 21:37

What if there is a spider waiting for you on the seat?

Justcallmebebes · 04/10/2024 21:39

starlitsnow · 04/10/2024 21:37

What if there is a spider waiting for you on the seat?

Spiders don't scare me. Rats and snakes do but pretty confident there are neither in my loo in the middle of the night

ToBeDetermined · 04/10/2024 21:40

starlitsnow · 04/10/2024 21:37

What if there is a spider waiting for you on the seat?

Or pee drips on the seat from the males in the house?
Or the seat has not been put down so you fall into the loo?

Latenightreader · 04/10/2024 21:40

Every single time. I cannot go to the loo without a light on just in case there is something lurking within. I sometimes use my phone torch or the light from my iPad, but I prefer a proper light.

I have (accidentally) seen photos of creatures in toilets. Mostly in Australia, but some in the UK. I have a phobia of snakes, and although it is incredibly unlikely to happen (although there have been at least two instances of escaped large pet snakes within a very short distance of two different houses in which I have lived) I just feel too vulnerable and cannot pee unless I can see. Once I was staying in a hotel room with my mother, and the toilet had a frosted glass door. I woke up in the night and it took me a very, very long while to manage to go to the loo despite being desperate. When I got back into bed my mother started laughing because she had been awake and heard me creeping in the dark. I was really upset because I had been utterly terrified, which I know is silly, but it was true. She now knows that I need a light on…

NeverDropYourMooncup · 04/10/2024 21:40

Nowadays when there's just me, DP and the cats, no light, no glasses. I know where I live, I know where I sleep, I know where the toilet is.

When I had small children, though - get up and go to the toilet? You must be joking. The eldest would hear my eyelids flicker and the signal from my bladder as it reached my brain saying 'you need to go to the toilet' and snap awake for the next 22 hours. Assuming she'd had her full 75 minutes' sleep by 2.07am, that is. If she hadn't, she might have agreed to go to sleep a bit earlier the next night. From maybe quarter to one for a change.

Purposefullyporous · 04/10/2024 21:42

If I'm wide awake I do. But if I'm all asleep I just go in the dark coz I don't want to wake myself back up.
The lights don't wake anyone in the house up.
I never turn the bedroom light on or use a torch.. I know my way round the room.
My husband drives me demented if he ever wakes up to go to the loo ciz he'll turn his frigging phone torch on and it's like the police helicopter light in my face, it always wakes me up

TheIncredibleBookEatingManchot · 04/10/2024 21:45

I turn the light on because there might be wolves and monsters lurking in the dark waiting to grab me.

Also I need to see that it's still DH in the bed before I get back in, and not a crazed murderer who killed him and disposed of his body in the couple of minutes I was gone and is now waiting for me to get back in so he can murder me too.

Newyearnewnameagain20 · 04/10/2024 21:46

wildthingsinthenight · 04/10/2024 20:50

Never. It would wake me up

This

MisfitMagpie · 04/10/2024 21:47

I turn all the lights on but there's not anyone else to disturb, I can go back to sleep no problem though.

justasking111 · 04/10/2024 21:49

Tulip8 · 04/10/2024 20:51

No not unless I'm on my period. However I'd prefer DH to as he needs to aim!

So would I!! Get fed up cleaning the floor.

No we can't because the dogs would decide that it was morning, breakfast and walking time 🙄