Ever met someone you later learned had done something really bad? **Content warning: thread contains mentions of child abuse**

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Just asking because a few months ago someone I worked with suddenly stopped coming to work... then we found out he had been found guilty of possessing child porn 😬
He hadn't been working with us for long so didn't know him that well but he just seemed like a nice, slightly boring middle aged man! I know you can't ever tell by looking at someone but it just made me think anyone I know could be doing anything behind closed doors.....

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Hi there, did this girl stab them to death? Sorry just wondering... Good she is now teetotal

What 'P' word?

Child porn - implied it’s consensual. Should be child abuse. Because it is abuse.

I used to live opposite that Surrey school! Why is it always the music teacher??

Living, if it's ok to ask this, did you know from the outset that he abused the 13yo and killed her father? Or did you only find out partway? I get he has clearly turned his life around, & criminals who can be rehabilitated should be.
But was it not a bit uncomfortable?

A normal, decent-seeming family man, I didn't know him well, he was a long-term neighbour of a relative. He was charged with several counts of historic sexual abuse of children and is now in prison and his family rightly want nothing to do with him.

@Dontlletmedownbruce

As far as I'm aware the crime is called possession of child pornography, so these words are used in order to describe a conviction correctly

The charge would be possession of indecent images of children.

Yes.

"guilty of possessing images of child assault/abuse/rape"

Don't think so, to be honest, she said brief details, and as her life is completely different now, I didn't pry.

His victims were not all prostitutes.

From looking online after seeing this thread, I think he may have been younger when the incident happened — I’ve seen one reference to him being 17. So like, 18/19 when convicted but I guess that process took time.

And there was one link where the Google preview said he was 15, but when I clicked through that info was no longer on the page — I’m guessing that was a mistake but again, adds to a sense there was uncertainty around his age at the time of the incident

I thought paedophile s were never ever allowed in the vicinity of children, even after serving a sentence 🤔

Well, no, surely the point about pornography is that it’s some sort of image? Not the act itself

This isn’t that terrible.

The thread title didn’t say terrible. ‘Someone that you later learned had done something really bad’. I’d say money laundering for drug dealers was up there.

That’s how i understood it. You possess pornography (ie picture) not enact porn.

I knew a couple while living in the US who were very ordinary, husband quite boring, both doctors, good income, nice house. Went on holiday with them and their kids. Later he shot her while she was leaving him (literally leaving the house with her stuff to move out) and then shot himself.

I mean, they’re synonyms. I don’t agree - I think working in advertising is morally worse than money laundering for drug dealers. Just the former is legal.

Ok but who says he was an SS officer in the first place? I’m Napoleon btw

I very much doubt the neighbours don't know, giving interviews to the local paper about how you didn't do it tends to give you away... www.google.com/amp/s/www.lincolnshirelive.co.uk/news/local-news/paperboy-carl-bridgewaters-murder-nothing-2018761.amp
...even if they don't watch the documentary you take part in www.channel4.com/programmes/interview-with-a-murderer. (We have telly and newspapers in south Lincolnshire).

I always remember my great aunt and uncle. I used to go over and see them quite often. My uncle was always nice and even worked at the local hospital as a porter. I found out after he died he was done for armed robbery and actually shot someone.

Really? The advertising industry is responsible for worse than the atrocities perpetrated all over the world by organised crime gangs producing and smuggling illegal drugs?

Apart from anything else, the advertising industry and all other legal businesses contribute something to the tax system of their home countries, which goes towards public services. Criminald don't.

Yes, I think the advertising industry is responsible for worse atrocities than drug dealers. In some countries criminals contribute a lot of philanthropy to local communities. In no country is the presence of e.g. Coca Cola enhancing anything except the enrichment of already rich people.

The man said it himself. But apparently because he had dementia it was deemed by several MN contributors as unlikely to be true. Which is nonsense. And you’re mocking someone suffering from a terrible and cruel disease which is quite offensive to those of us caring for relatives suffering from similar.