Tonight’s the night

[Shmambles]

DD has to gone off for a sleepover and now I have five hours to wait for my nice new man to come for dinner and a sleepover of our own. First time we’ll have DTD (assuming we do) after three dates over the course of six weeks. I’m excited and a bit nervous!

What shall I do to pass the time? I’m thinking… a bit of meal prep, nice bath, maybe a preparatory glass of wine in a couple of hours. I have the dress chosen and out of the wardrobe. It’s a long time to wait!

We both sort of ended up yawning and we agreed to call it a night.

This is actually quite nice to read. Had you DTD it would clearly have been because you both really wanted to. He sounds like a decent bloke.

Also, OP, you have a terrific sense of humour!

I think nerves got the better of him and he’s kicking himself up and down the stairs as we type.

Your writing is brilliant OP! Very entertaining. Sorry your night didn’t go as hoped x

Grim? It's grim to date someone is it? How does one start a relationship in your eyes then?

A ROLLERCOASTER of "yeeeeess!!" and "noooooooo" and "aaaaargh" on your update @Shmambles but actually ending with a massive YAY because none of us wanted a crap shag for you and hooray for knowing when to make excuses and leave it.

I don't think I agree with those who've said it might be stage fright/a slow burner of a relationship. In my opinion, in the early days if you don't want to jump him the minute he walks over your (security alarmed, obvs) threshold then that's that. The chemistry needs to be there.

I def don't agree with the absolute mood hoovers on the thread who make my bloody mother look reasonable

Have a wonderful Sunday! Left over tagine for breakfast???

The early days passion is what leads to many of the shambolic situations one reads about here, too. It's not always the start of a healthy relationship.

What’s grim about sex on a fourth date? Or do you just find sex in general grim? What a life you must lead!

OP, sounds like you made the right choice! I wonder if he was just really nervous. There can be a lot of pressure on these sort of evenings…maybe if he’s keen, go on one more date, out for drinks and see if he naturally ends up back at yours!

No shag is better than a crap shag.

Hopefully a decent shag is out there for you.

And I agree with other posters you sound genuinely warm, your writing and sense of humour are brilliant and that perfect fella for you is out there somewhere.

When the perfect murdering burglar who should never grace the home of a child whilst they are absent comes along - you'll be first in line 😆

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Oh, how disappointing! But you'd have been even more disappointed if you'd done it just for the sake of it, and it was shit. Definitely the best decision.

@itsgettingweird When the perfect murdering burglar who should never grace the home of a child whilst they are absent comes along - you'll be first in line

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Oh yes, nothing more grim than two adult humans having consensual sex! What if the OP gets cooties?

(I'm sorry it didn't quite go over according to all us little Jilly Coopers OP! At least you had a pleasant evening that wasn't ruined by a bad shag!)

The only thing grim about it, is not having sex on the second or third date.

Good luck for the future OP, l’m sure it’ll happen soon.

Ha! Can you imagine the howls of anger had I shagged him on date 2? How dare I?!

To be fair it was at a coffee shop so it actually would’ve been a fairly bold endeavour.

I get people’s concerns about safety and STIs, but we’re all grown ups so I honestly don’t understand why people assume that we can’t assess risk ourselves.

All the STI stuff presumes that I don’t have every single STI already. I must be getting close, what with my bacchanalian lifestyle of having one shag in three years.

STIs? Completed it mate!

God knows what they think about me sorting myself out last night. And within three hours of it being The Lord’s Day!

I get people’s concerns about safety and STIs, but we’re all grown ups so I honestly don’t understand why people assume that we can’t assess risk ourselves.

I agree so much with this, why do people just assume you’re some idiot who has never heard of contraception or STIs? I find it so condescending! That sort of “advice” seemed very unnecessary when reading the content of your post!

OP I was following your day yesterday and I just read your update of last night.
Just to say I really really enjoyed each of your posts, you have great sense of humor.
Sorry last night was disappointing but you are great craic !!

You are such a great writer OP. Your posts have had me sniggering throughout this whole thread 😂

Well at least your squib got dampened!

I hope you dipped yourself in Dettol before you sorted yourself out, OP. God knows what you might have given yourself.

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Aww it was the juicy morning after story I was hoping for but it seemed like an ok ending I suppose. Sometimes it just doesn't click before the moment. You just know and fairplay to him it doesn't sound like he forced it either. I'm sure he had similar high hopes too. Dating is so difficult these days but keep fishing for the one.

Not sure why everyone on here commenting expects instant fantastic sex on the first go anyway. It's not films or TV soaps. It usually doesn't happen like that. You usually have to communicate what eachother like and work at it to get great sex.

Everybody knows that for instant fantastic sex, you have to sit on the kitchen worktop with a tap sticking in your back. 😀

Did you even get to the nice flan from M & S? Or are you going to have to eat that all yourself? Hope it's some consolation. Onwards and upwards.

Who am l to advise though 🤔

I come from a no good family you must understand. I’ve laid someone not on but arguably before the first date. How dare l?

My sister bedded someone at a mutual friend’s wedding when they met in an hotel lobby, checking in before the wedding. And despite the attitudes of some on MN, they have now been married for years!

Are you sure it wasn't a case of the tagline repurcussions OP?

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