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Tonight’s the night

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Shmambles · 28/09/2024 12:59

DD has to gone off for a sleepover and now I have five hours to wait for my nice new man to come for dinner and a sleepover of our own. First time we’ll have DTD (assuming we do) after three dates over the course of six weeks. I’m excited and a bit nervous!

What shall I do to pass the time? I’m thinking… a bit of meal prep, nice bath, maybe a preparatory glass of wine in a couple of hours. I have the dress chosen and out of the wardrobe. It’s a long time to wait!

OP posts:
Elsewhere123 · 29/09/2024 07:44

Bump

CharliesAngles · 29/09/2024 07:44

Never mind your valuables @Shmambles , did you get your hands on his family jewels?

BreastClinic · 29/09/2024 08:06

Grim. Get checked for stds

harriethoyle · 29/09/2024 08:13

Are you at the cop shop @Shmambles reporting theft of your valuables and virtue?

Buildingthefuture · 29/09/2024 08:16

@BreastClinic eh? Why? OP already said she bought condoms…..

FerienInLipizza · 29/09/2024 08:21

Buildingthefuture · 29/09/2024 06:21

Morning op. I hope both your dinner and your new man went down well 😉

😆

LightSpeeds · 29/09/2024 08:28

Can't wait for the update...

LunaNorth · 29/09/2024 08:30

Not me reaching for me phone the minute my eyes open 👀

Shmambles · 29/09/2024 08:31

So, the morning after!

Well, since last we spoke, I have:

  • Taken my knickers off and flung them with abandon on the floor!
  • Spent hours naked in bed!
  • Had an orgasm!!
  • Lived to tell the tale!!!

But sadly, he wasn’t involved in any of it! He went home at half nine and we did not DTD. My total number of shags in 2024 remains at zero.

And whilst I’m disappointed not to have a better tale to tell, I think it was for the best. And at least he didn’t steal anything. Although i haven’t been downstairs yet so maybe he returned in the night with his swag bag

The spark just wasn’t there! It was such a damp squib really and I think we both knew it by the end. I’m not sure exactly what was missing but something was. The easy chat and laughter that was there before just wasn’t this time. He brought lovely flowers and a nice bottle, and the food seemed to be well received (I loved it if nothing else!). But we sort of ran out of stuff to say and it seemed slightly awkward.

We both sort of ended up yawning and we agreed to call it a night. Poor bloke just left - didn’t even call a taxi! And I went to bed alone. Any thoughts of endless passion were dashed.

He has texted since to say he had fun, and to be fair I did too - he was pleasant company and it was a nice way to spend an evening. But just not an evening of wild shagging.

I did sleep like a log though!

Shame really. He’d make a good friend, I think. Maybe I should see about that.

Anyway, sorry ladies. I wish I could report back on things like whether he had a tattoo of Mr Tumble on his arse, whether he cried when he came and whether it’s feasible to have sex for eleven straight hours whilst remaining conscious. But I can’t.

It was fun yesterday afternoon getting ready with you though. Thank you x

OP posts:
LunaNorth · 29/09/2024 08:35

Do you know what, OP?

I’m glad I read that, rather than ‘We had a crap shag.’

You sound like nice people, and you’ve made a friend.

Bet you’re glad I reminded you to charge your vibe

BunnyLake · 29/09/2024 08:36

Could it be a ‘grower’ type of relationship or do you think it’s absolutely not got the potential? Or was it just going to be a physical thing and nothing more either way?

MaggieBsBoat · 29/09/2024 08:45

That is much better than a crap shag! (One where he’d text you it was the best night of his life and you’d -in true mumsnet style - be too embarrassed to dump him over, you’d get married and post about the bad shags weekly).

I’m glad you had a lovely tagine and sleep. In my book that’s a win! Roll on the next one!

EatsQuorn · 29/09/2024 08:46

When I read your update , I gave an inward woohoo about the knickers and orgasm but then read it was self administered , that's a shame but never mind at least you had a happy ending to your night !
Wishing you better luck for the next time you have a man in the house . Keep looking !

skippy67 · 29/09/2024 09:05

BreastClinic · 29/09/2024 08:06

Grim. Get checked for stds

What little ray of sunshine you are😊😊

Aussieland · 29/09/2024 09:07

Well I think that’s not a terrible outcome! Glad you still gave it a crack and hopefully had a nice night despite the lack of mad shagging 😁

skippy67 · 29/09/2024 09:08

OP, you sound fantastic! If does turn into a friendship, he'll be lucky to have met you.

Mamabobogo · 29/09/2024 09:15

BreastClinic · 29/09/2024 08:06

Grim. Get checked for stds

I bet you don’t get invited to many parties!

oh well OP, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Keep going, there is a good shag out there waiting for you somewhere!

Dibbydoos · 29/09/2024 09:23

Make sure you have plenty of condoms, it won't be just once.... keep breath spray next to the bed 😉

Read a few chapters in a sex book....

Shmambles · 29/09/2024 09:23

Thanks everyone. Right. I am up, showered, dressed, come downstairs and haven’t found the house ransacked.

Off to pick up DD but obviously will get an STI test en route just in case. After all, we did peck on the lips when he arrived. And the other day when I snogged him goodbye I (shock) let my hand wander to the crotch of his trousers for a second. You can never be too careful 🙄

OP posts:
BreastClinic · 29/09/2024 09:27

Shmambles · 29/09/2024 09:23

Thanks everyone. Right. I am up, showered, dressed, come downstairs and haven’t found the house ransacked.

Off to pick up DD but obviously will get an STI test en route just in case. After all, we did peck on the lips when he arrived. And the other day when I snogged him goodbye I (shock) let my hand wander to the crotch of his trousers for a second. You can never be too careful 🙄

I think it's great you didn't dtd. Far too many people jump into bed with virtual strangers and immediately regret it.

AngelinaFibres · 29/09/2024 09:31

You sound lovely. I wish you many, many shags with a man who does give you the absolute fanny gallops. Onwards and upwards Op.

Blondeshavemorefun · 29/09/2024 09:33

Sorry it didn't turn out as you hoped and not the best (only) shag of the year

But hey you proved you don't need a man to come 😂

Maybe it was too much pressure for you both - if you got on well before

Worth another date or not - only you can tell

Mamabobogo · 29/09/2024 09:33

Shmambles · 29/09/2024 09:23

Thanks everyone. Right. I am up, showered, dressed, come downstairs and haven’t found the house ransacked.

Off to pick up DD but obviously will get an STI test en route just in case. After all, we did peck on the lips when he arrived. And the other day when I snogged him goodbye I (shock) let my hand wander to the crotch of his trousers for a second. You can never be too careful 🙄

And the morning after pill! Just to be safe.

Mamabobogo · 29/09/2024 09:35

Shmambles · 29/09/2024 09:23

Thanks everyone. Right. I am up, showered, dressed, come downstairs and haven’t found the house ransacked.

Off to pick up DD but obviously will get an STI test en route just in case. After all, we did peck on the lips when he arrived. And the other day when I snogged him goodbye I (shock) let my hand wander to the crotch of his trousers for a second. You can never be too careful 🙄

You’re bringing your child back to house that a man had dinner in? I hope you’ve anti backed everywhere and I mean everywhere!!

”clutches pearls”

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 29/09/2024 09:47

BreastClinic · 29/09/2024 08:06

Grim. Get checked for stds

🙄 you may prefer to wait longer, which is fine, but there is nothing grim about a woman thinking that if it feels right, she'd quite like to have sex on the fourth date.

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