Daughter going on holiday with bf's family

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DD is 15 and she's been invited to a week's holiday during half term by her BF and family. They say they are more than happy to cover the costs but we would be paying if we let her go.

Question is - would you allow your 15 year old to go on holiday with their partner? If yes what would the sleeping arrangements be like? Are you quite open to your kids about relationships?

Any advice very grateful. We've never had this experience and she is an only child (not that it makes any difference). What would you do?

No I wouldn't allow that. Plenty of time for all that palaver.

How long have they been together ? Where would she be sleeping ?

I would have to entirely trust the other parents and them policing their sleeping arrangements.

15 is quite young imo. Not sure I would be very happy with that. Mine went away with a bf's family for the first time at 17.

Absolutely not. As above, there’s time for all that at it is certainly not time at just fifteen.

No, that’s too much, too young imo.

I think it's a bit soon for that caper.

Depends. Are they already sleeping together?

Is she just turned 15 or about to be 16? How old is the BF?

Too young for that but I'd probably not let her go with a friend's family but that's probably more to do with I know what I was like that age lol I would worry other parents might underestimate sneaky teens. If I was very very close friends with the parents then maybe

Partner! 😂

I would be happy depending on the arrangements, for example in a large cottage or other self catering place an own bedroom would be available no doubt.

I would not use the word partner.

Is it a UK holiday or one abroad? How long have they been together? Do you know the parents/have met them and if so do you trust them?

My DD went on holiday with her boyfriend when she was 15 and he also came on holiday with us. Both UK breaks and in holiday cottages with multiple bedrooms. They had been together for some time and we had met his parents and got on with them and we trusted them and them us. We had ground rules agreed on and policed their sleeping arrangements, all discussed beforehand with his parents and we trusted they would adhere to them, as we did.

Before she had a boyfriend she would bring a friend on holiday with her so we agreed she could bring her boyfriend/go with him.

To us it was just a normal holiday and we all had a good time.

At 15 he is definitely not a partner!!

Is she on contraception?
That would be important to sort out before they disappeared into the blue yonder.

And surely he's a boyfriend, not a partner!

No, I wouldn't allow this. It sounds like too serious an arrangement for their age.

Thanks all for your replies. To answer to some of the questions, they've been together for around 6 months. She's been to his house a few times and he's been to ours too. We've met his parents briefly but don't know them well.

Only used the word partner as can be gf or bf but maybe should have kept it as gf/bf😂

Note taken re partner!

It's a holiday in Italy, not a cottage but a hotel. I wonder even if they say there will be strict arrangements how much can you police them? Eg if one sneaks into the other's room in the middle of the night, would the parents notice?

Regardless of if you let her go or not, please tell me she is on some form of birth control..

I would say no, but allow it if they are still together next year.

No! Too much, too soon. How much continuous time have they spent together to date without other friends around? How much continuous time has she spent with his family?
If something goes wrong - even if it's as something as simple as her being homesick or getting bored - you are entirely dependent on his family to deal with it and, if necessary, to take her to the airport, see her through security and put her on a plane home. Or you have to fly out.

I allowed this when my dd 17yo (and on birth control!)

I met with the parents first to check they seemed okay.

At 15 I would have said no.

No way, six months is nothing and she is only 15.

Not on any pills at the mo, didn't want to suggest being intimate at this age is a good thing to be honest.. in which case I guess the answer to the holiday invite would be a no..

No. And I say this as a person who went on holiday with my boyfriend at 16. He shared a room with his Dad and brother and I shared with his mum, but it was a bad idea in retrospect.