I need all your swear words, stuff to smash and best cures for a headache, fury and downright devastation

[BirthdayRainbow]

Please.

Ex h has met someone else. Don't care.

What I care about is he has told her really really personal stuff about me. Stuff she didn't need to know. Stuff he didn't need to tell her. He could have said something fairly benign about why we split without telling her something so painful. They've been dating a week. Seven fucking days.

I'm not saying what but trust me when I say it is gobsmackingly bad.

I have been tearful for hours but I need to sleep, have two difficult and busy days coming and need to deal with it.

Well he has already given her a window into his true self hasn't he? They won't last long....

How do you know what he's told her?

Sorry you're going through this

He's an absolute fucking dickhead obviously. I would love to punch him for you. Hope this helps 🫂

Are you taking his word for this? I wouldn’t. It sounds like he’s decided to tell you this to cause you maximum pain and upset.

I’d call someone you trust, have a good old rant, then do what usually calms you. Bath, run, punch a pillow. Hope it eases soon.

Channel your rage into calm acceptance (if possible) that this demonstrates once and for all, finally and truly, what an utter piece of loser shit he is.

How lucky you are that he is an Ex. How fabulous that you never have to tolerate this scumbag having any input into your future happiness.

Tell yourself how pathetic he is that he would tell intimate details of someone's personal life to a woman he has just met - whether that's to gain her sympathy, her admiration or just a pity fuck. It shows he has no moral standards or respect for either himself or you.

He's probably too thick to realise that it's not acceptable.

He's obviously an utter fuckwit and you are much better off without him.

She may well not believe him and regardless, it doesn't paint him in a good light if he's verbally incontinent.

I think he wants a gold star for confessing to his affair and taking responsibility though. At least he did that with her instead of blaming me as he did when speaking to the kids. Then he should have stopped talking. Twat.

He told me today.

That's does help. Please punch him then I'll be your alibi.

Oh no, it will be the truth. When he had his affair he also told her very personal stuff about me. Minus the one extra thing he's told his new girlfriend what with it not happening yet.

What an utter knob

I can't compute why he thinks it was the right call. It shows him in a terrible light but it also has the potential to make it sound like he's had a terrible time with me. So bad it was just the 27 years together and he didn't want the marriage over..

He is all those things. She will believe him as no way could anyone make this up.

Exactly. Thank you.

If you believe he really did tell her then the act of telling you about it is a form of emotional and psychological abuse maximised to hurt you the most. After 27 years he knows your triggers.

I suspect he's been abusive throughout your marriage, is there any way you can access some counselling via the GP (some offer a basic 6 week course).

Hi BirthdayRainbow.
I have just read your post and I’m sorry to hear your having a bad time of things but wanted let you know I’m thinking of you x
Your support that you have given me the last few days with my own struggles I will never forget . You sound like an absolute amazing human being .
I think my ex may have gone to the same ‘school of twats’ that yours went to.
What he says to the ‘new partner’ is more about them and less about you . We really don’t know a person until it is over .
I hope you ok xx

Luckily I am having therapy which I started in May 2023 and then we split in the July, divorced two months ago. I actually don't think he told me to hurt me, I just don't think he thought whether it would or not. He won't remember that I was devastated when he told me he'd told his other woman. I'm not defending him at all but I am a fair person. But fuck this hurts.

Why are you having conversations with this idiot? Only discuss the kids, and do that via text or email. I don't understand why you're even entertaining this fuckwit.

I hope his genitals turn carnivorous and eat his face off in his sleep, leaving him looking like Freddie Krueger was the 'after' photo in a channel 4 2000s style makeover.

I hope that his every night time footfall meets a carpet of Lego.

I wish a plague of mites infest his hair follicles and he itches himself to the bare blooded bones of his shrunken scalp in the futile search of relief, and that he then rests his head on a pillow impregnated with aftershave.

I wish him the never ending urge to piss and long queues at every public toilet, ending in access to a cubicle that makes the bog in Trainspotting look like Kim and Aggie's dream home.

We got you, sister. Bring the shovels, we ride at dawn.

Cricket bat and the mattress is a good safe way to feel your anger and let it flood through you so that you can release it.

dont bottle up anger, it has a way of making your life miserable if you do.

Thank you so much for taking time to post to me when I know you are going through hell at the moment. I'm glad I have been able to help you and I'm sorry I've not said much these last couple of days. I had to take ds back to uni and organise the animals as clearly ex wouldn't help and I've had other stuff on, even so no excuse. I'm not really okay but I expect the pain will ease eventually. Thank you.

I hope his genitals turn carnivorous and eat his face off in his sleep, leaving him looking like Freddie Krueger was the 'after' photo in a channel 4 2000s style makeover.

Jesus 😮😱

Remind me never to upset you!

That made me laugh. Thank you.

I have no family apart from the kids who I can't tell and I really need people to have my back so thank you. I'm actually quite scared at the thought of if you knew what he said now!

As soon as I get chance I will exercise my way out of this feeling. I have a medical appointment tomorrow - he's left me with cognitive deficit due to his actions prior to this so it will have to be after that.

He came to supervise a tradesman who was fixing his cock up and told me. Believe me there's no communication apart from vital.