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Please.

Ex h has met someone else. Don't care.

What I care about is he has told her really really personal stuff about me. Stuff she didn't need to know. Stuff he didn't need to tell her. He could have said something fairly benign about why we split without telling her something so painful. They've been dating a week. Seven fucking days.

I'm not saying what but trust me when I say it is gobsmackingly bad.

I have been tearful for hours but I need to sleep, have two difficult and busy days coming and need to deal with it.

I hope she has the sense to not be blinded by him.

Anyway I hope all @Soubriquet 's maggots went to infest his underwear.

As someone who's been on the receiving end of a new boyfriend being verbally incontinent about their (not-even-divorced) ex's personal life, I can only hope she sees this for the massive red flag it is about his lack of emotional intelligence and maturity. It certainly didn't make me think poorly of her.

Might I suggest doing something calming and mindful? I find colouring can be extremely therapeutic

Maybe this book, for example?

https://amzn.eu/d/fKVzJSm

Good point.

He is going to be very wealthy when his last parent dies. That's a tough one. Don't care for me as I've had years of little money....but my kids should be getting it. Not a five minute relationship.

My son just messaged. Says she looks a bit like him. I can't believe he's shown her a photo!

Still claiming one week in?!!!

Edited to add - ds asked what she looked like.

i want to cry even more now.

Even my son is saying why did he have to tell her. I said I told him everything and it would have been nice if he'd been open and honest with me. I feel he's used me for a home and a family and then dumped me. Son said yep

Please report this to the police 😳 Can’t be too careful these days, you never know what people are capable of anymore

When I used to get really stressed I went out in the garden and hacked all the bushes back and trimmed the trees. Then I chopped it all into small pieces so I could dispose of it easily. The good thing was my garden looked tidy!

I think he sounds like a right manipulative cunt and that he has told his new bit that because of what you went through as a child you have been difficult to live with and he is the poor victim in this ME ME ME, I agree with you and I would also worry about the poor woman who by the sounds of it is gonna be lumped with this very precious man who doesn't deserve to be hurt again so is unlikely to tell him to fuck off. I am sat here while my ex husband is in court next week for doing something I will never forgive him for but guess what? He is the poor victim in this despite ruining lives (don't want to be too outing) anyway he has shacked up with someone who I know is quite vulnerable and she has no bloody idea what he has done and I know it's not my problem but I feel sick that I'm sat here knowing she needs protecting from him but it's not my place to tell her. (I am in touch with the detective in this case and she is trying to see if she can make a disclosure to her) He makes me sick and your ex sounds like he is trying to make sure this new woman doesn't leave him by using your trauma as an excuse. Keep your head held high and try not to let the anger over take you (I haven't figured out how to let go of a lot of stuff yet but I'm trying) what a pair of pathetic whining cunts (them not us lol) urgh I hope their cocks fall off

Exactly @Ihopeithinkiknow , it's been so hard for the poor lamb. I fucking know it has! I've had depression as well as an abusive childhood. But I've also been an incredible wife, saved his life more than once, an amazing mum to our children who are all doing really well and a really good housewife. He's conned me well and truly.

I am so sorry you have had a shit time as well.

Apparently his mum supports the relationship. Having told me I'd always be family she hasn't messaged or rung to see if I'm okay.

DS asked ex if he was getting married again. Ex said, it's been a week. That's not a no then.. apparently they have been friends for a while 🙄

Pay off all bills from joint account, book a massage, bottle of very good wine then withdraw half of what's left. Perfectly legal, serves him bloody right.

When I took ds2 back to uni I used the joint account for the petrol. Small bit of rebellion since he's never once taken or picked up. All finances are sorted but I'm taking the wins where I can. Not paid him back for half a 500 bill or shared a similar amount refund. I asked for one extra months money and obviously won't get it now as it's been months since I asked and he has her to impress now.

@Ormally I have just ordered the book,thank you. Little act of rebellion, I have used the joint account.

You should order a big dildo from sextoys.co.uk or some extra large condoms from durex. Let him see that on the joint account !

🤣 when I opened my drawer where I had hidden my iPad he may have some some very new very red underwear😂😂

U go girl ! So proud of you xx

🤣 when I opened my drawer where I had hidden my iPad he may have some some very new very red underwear😂😂

Forgive my naivety but I don't get what this means?!?

😄 Or send a dildo and vibrator to him as a gift. The note should say; "Your girlfriend is going to need these, little fella."

OP, I know somebody who put dog turds in the pockets of all her soon to be ex's jackets. She put itching powder in all his undies. She cleaned the toilet with his toothbrush, then packed the whole lot up and sent it to him.
I hope that thought gives you a smile.
Sorry about what the asshole did to you.

I had a workman coming so hid my iPad in my drawer after the last one was not a nice man. Ex was stood there when I opened the drawer to get it out.

Edited to add - I have bought new underwear and it is a lovely bright red colour.

God I nearly choked. I enjoy the thought but I have to keep my dignity and not sink to his level. But fuck I hate him.

Sadly I have already packed most of his crap and made him take it but I have already made him take one box and there is another today. All filled with sentimental honeymoon items, letters and cards he wrote me. Make him think. Shame he can't. But on the top I've left the card open which he wrote after he cheated on me. If he feels shit for a moment then I'll take that.

@Mummyoflittledragon you okay?