What are the worst social faux pas that new parents make?

[ThinkingUpsideDown]

I've seen some pretty heated threads over the last week, from bringing children to 'adult only' events to parents letting their children run wild in cafes. As a rookie mum of a 6-month-old, I am keen NOT to lose friends and piss off strangers.

What would you consider the worst social faux pas that (new) parents make? Is there an unwritten code of etiquette? Have you been in any situations recently that made you think 'how obnoxious!', 'Are they serious?' or '"What were they thinking?'

Genuinely curious to hear the responses!

Sending hundreds of pictures/videos of your child to friends on WhatsApp. They are not interested.

Telling everyone that your child is an absolute genius. My child really isn't, and whilst I'm pleased for you, you are making me feel shite.

Boasting about how your child has always slept through the night due to your marvellous parenting skills and being a genius (see above).

Treating everything as a teachable moment someone else has to be responsible for. Do not send your child up to a wheelchair user or someone with a scar to ask all their questions.

Being self absorbed,
change in personality
Telling people what your baby is saying like tiny babies, not a toddler you can't quite understand
Behaving like they are the first person to ever had a baby and they have saved humanity
To name a few

Thinking the whole world loves their child just the way they do and just go on and on about them, verbally or with photos and so on.

Making every conversation about your child. Boasting about every milestone as if your child is more advanced than anyone else’s - my brother and his wife were convinced that they had the next Einstein on their hands as he could say a few words… Spoiler alert - he was just like any other normal 1 year old!

@WingSluts Agree with that so much! I really don't mind if a child asks a question, but prompted by a parent just no, if you want to explain don't use me as an example

Something to be wary of is talking about your baby all the time and losing interest in the lives of others. I’m sure I was guilty of this!

Oh God, nothing really. If you’re a thoughtful person pre-kids I’m sure you’ll be one afterwards as well. It’s more just about thinking of others, same as for anyone else, there aren’t a whole load of special rules to worry about. I definitely wouldn’t worry about everything anyone grumbles about on MN or you’ll never leave the house!

Don't worry OP. Most people give new parents a pass because most of us have been there and know how stressful and overwhelming it is. We all do daft things in the early days.

Defintely don't brag about milestones unless it is to baby's other parent or grandparents. Nobody else cares!

Discussing your baby's poo/wee/vomit/ snot situations
I've never once needed to know.

Understand to everyone else not directly related to your baby, they are boring 🥱😴😴😴.
A brief update will do but honestly nobody wants to chat/see your baby constantly.

Performance parenting - fucking tedious - again your child is boring more so to strangers.

Changing nappy in a cafe (rather than cafe's toilet) - saw that on here recently
Performing to an audience - eg. Pointing out every dog, plane etc to a 6 month old in a loud voice. Later this could be counting all the donuts in Costa. The point is that everyone can tell it's not for the child's benefit but so the parent looks good.
Believing that your particular parenting style is superior to other people's (my kids are now late teens and I'm seeing a lot of mistakes I made though at the time I thought I was absolutely right! Most styles have pros and cons but I would now go much stricter than I did).

Your child is not a comedy genius, no one at work wants to hear about the “funny” things your 4 year old said. Every day.

please get some headphones!! It’s not ok to blast others with Peppa Pig on a plane or restaurant.

don’t change nappies in a restaurant, go to
the bathroom

Don't send a photo of the first pee (or worse poo) your DC does in the potty.

Agree performance parenting
"Duh duh duh doggy"
"Can you say doggy?"
"Can you spell doggy?
Repeated loudly

Don’t do this: take a child w chicken pox to a cafe, change their nappy there and then run to the national press if the manager asks you to use the toilet.

metro.co.uk/2017/08/22/cafe-manager-shouted-at-mum-who-changed-childs-nappy-at-seat-6870768/

WeakAsIAm · Today 14:19

Understand to everyone else not directly related to your baby, they are boring 🥱😴😴😴.

Omg not to me. I love hearing about babies!

Mine are grown up and I am now at the 'dappy old bat' stage of life when I can get away with coo-ing at other people's babies wherever I encounter them. It's great!

Being overly smug about how healthy your child's diet is. Includes virtual signalling behaviour like asking FB for recommendations about the best sugar-free birthday cake. By age 5, 1/3 of kids are obese anyway so absolutely nobody cares about how much sugar a random baby is allowed to eat.

Slightly unpopular one but not giving your child medicine when they are ill. There is a shocking number of parents who still think a fever is a good sign and don't give their babies anything to bring it down. Then they panic when the kid gets seriously unwell and go clog up A&E without even attempting to medicate the child themselves.

thinking its ok to whip a travel potty out and let your child 'go' wherever because 'what else are you meant to do?' during potty training. if they can't hold it long enough to go somewhere private/reach the toillets, they're not ready to be in public.

expecting the entire family to arrange their meals out around your childs nap time.

Having nothing else to talk about but their child.
Not removing their child if they start playing up or start screaming in public.
Dressing their child up as a mini me.
Refusing to go anywhere without their child.
Overly fussing around their child.
Posting endless photos and social media updates
Expecting everything to revolve around their child.
Performance parenting.

@ThinkingUpsideDown allowing your child to treat other people's houses like their own. Turning up uninvited.

going to cafe/restaurant and allowing your child to run around and expecting everyone else to interact/watch your kid while you eat.

Letting your children disrupt other people eg running around a restaurant.

Don't change the baby's nappy anywhere where food is being eaten- not in the middle of a restaurant/cafe and definitely not on a table surrounded by other people trying to have a nice meal. Also not on picnic blankets. Hygienically it's disgusting, but also no one wants to see or smell your baby's poo whilst they're munching on their porkpie. I haven't seen any of these things happen often tbh but when I have I have been utterly repulsed at the lack of common sense and consideration.