Were you attracted to your partner or husband at first sight?

[ChipsCheeseAndGravey]

I was taking to a friend the other day who was saying how when she met her partner she was taken a back by how handsome he was (can’t say I see if I’m honest but I kept that to myself). It got me thinking - when I first saw my partner I didn’t think he was that attractive. He had and still does have a great face but he had this fucking awful haircut. He had a mullet with a rat tail I shit you not. My original plan was to leave after one drink, but about half way through the first pint I knew he was the one for me, rat tail and all. Now the haircut is a distant memory and we both laugh about it. But I want to know:

Were you attracted to your DP or DH at first sight?

If not, how long before you were physically attracted to them and what changed?

I have a rather specific taste in men and he ticked all the boxes.

Yes

Yes, straight away, in my teens. Not just looks but also voice, humour and so forth.
(We didn't get together permanently for ages afterwards)

Not at all.

(can’t say I see if I’m honest but I kept that to myself)
That was big of you!

Nope, but fell head over heels for his personality and then he became more and more attractive to me over time!

Yes immediately, he walked through my workplace four years ago and that was that.

Yes, I went to say hello on our first date and my knees went weak. He has the most gorgeous eyes to look into. First date was amazing. Married 2 years now. We were 55&59 when we met.

Nope , I literally felt nothing 😂

I first met my dp when I was 18, he had a real boyband look about him and I thought he was gorgeous, then fell for his personality.

We met again 20 years later, and I may not have been attracted to him by looks alone if that had been our first meeting. I'm not sure he would have fancied me just by looks either.

5 years in and I do think he's gorgeous, and he feels the same about me too, I think.

Yes. I'd seen him around at work and thought he was gorgeous. I couldn't believe my luck when he returned the feeling.

He felt like a strong magnet, pulling me towards him. Still does.

I was attracted to him at first sight and still am over 10 years later and that is the main reason why we are still together. May I add, he wasnt the biggest 'catch' financially. I keep hearing about marriages where the wife is mostly preocupied with the husbands financial status and sees sex as a chore / stops having sex altogether after kids are born because she has never been physically into her husband... that often progresses into the husband or the wife caught having an affair and finally a divorce. So yea, I reckon physical attraction is a top factor in a marriage.

Yes. But I turned him down when he asked me out!🤣

No, not at all. I was in a relationship anyway and he wasn’t even remotely my type at that point. We didn’t get together until years later.

I was attracted to him before I first met him, he was a friend of a friend I saw on social media and dropped into his inbox.

40 yrs ago this happened to me .Still together and still think he is lovely.

No not at all as we didn't get off on the right foot (he was my manager) but a few months down the line after I'd moved teams, he helped me through a vulnerable situation and we began speaking more and I realised he wasn't too bad. My opinion of him totally changed and so did my eye-sight 🤣 still going strong almost 8 years in and still find him super attractive.

Yes I was attracted to him straight away, just my type!

I actually read something about women who make the first move are more likely to marry that person so there’s something to be said for sliding in the DMs

Yes, I found him attractive the first time I met him. Years later he asked me out and we're still together now. And he's still the most attractive man in the world to me now

He proposed 9 months later and we are indeed married now so that theory holds true for us at least.

Yes

That’s interesting…I made the first move and we’ve been together 10 years now.