Were you attracted to your partner or husband at first sight?

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I was taking to a friend the other day who was saying how when she met her partner she was taken a back by how handsome he was (can’t say I see if I’m honest but I kept that to myself). It got me thinking - when I first saw my partner I didn’t think he was that attractive. He had and still does have a great face but he had this fucking awful haircut. He had a mullet with a rat tail I shit you not. My original plan was to leave after one drink, but about half way through the first pint I knew he was the one for me, rat tail and all. Now the haircut is a distant memory and we both laugh about it. But I want to know:

Were you attracted to your DP or DH at first sight?

If not, how long before you were physically attracted to them and what changed?

I felt that after I got over the haircut if I’m honest once I’d actually spoken to him and I think even if my partner was less good looking I would still have fallen for him because he has a very fun personality

We met in High-school, so it can't have been love at first sight as we would have been 11 at the time.

I don't remember noticing him till year 9. I think when we started having art class together

We met in a public place which gave me a few minutes to check him out and my first impression was ok but not wow. Enjoyed his company a lot. By second date he had transformed into Adonis and twenty years later I still find him indescribably attractive. He probably struck a pact with the devil, or something, between the two dates, and he’ll reveal all on his deathbed.

I stared at him like a serial killer. I fancied the pants off him, still do.

Yes.
I don't usually find people attractive until I know them and never had a reaction to someone just walking into the room before I met DH.
But awful clothes - bit Worzel Gummidge meets Pat Sharp.
Stonewashed denim jeans that were way too short and clung where they touched, nylony greying white short sleeved work shirt, chewing-gum-white sports socks hoiked right up and properly stinky grubby trainers.
This was his worktime persona.
Swap the shirt for a t-shirt for out-of-hours persona.
Did think he was gorgeous though. Such kind eyes.
And gloriously perky buttocks, so I forgive the tight stonewash jeans for their fashion sins...

Yes! The moment I set eyes on him. Still do. I'm insanely attracted to him.

Yes! Which is really unusual for me.

And he turned out to be the funniest, kindest person I've ever met. I was convinced there was a catch somewhere as he seemed too good to be true, but here we are, over 10 years later, married with a child and I still haven't found a catch yet!

Never been attracted go anyone physically even like celebs. Eventually found the term demi sexual which explains it, I have to be mentally attracted to someone to start finding them physically attractive (which back fires as if something causes loss of attraction can never get it back

What kind of thing makes you lose attraction if you don’t mind explaining? Like them being rude or a dick or? Never heard that term before so sorry just being nosey.

Was definitely attracted at first sight. Shorter than I used to date, but he’s handsom. Roman nose, blue eyes, thick curly hair

Same here.

I was actually thinking the other day, isn't it funny how attraction works?? Because to me, DP is the most gorgeous man in the whole world (he still gives me butterflies when he looks at me and when I see him across the room!) yet I'm aware that to anyone else, he's probably just a normal looking bloke in his 40s😂

I love how it all works and how we're chemically and magnetically drawn to people! (And yes I know those probably aren't the right terms but science was never my strong subject 😂)

Yes. I only saw the back of him but it was a visceral attraction at once. When he turned around I knew I'd seen the father of my child.
I dumped my abusive bf two days later.
I couldn't sit in the staffroom if he was in there I was so drawn to him.
It took a very astute and wise older colleague to gently encourage us to chat.
Married for 15 years now.
Never believed in love at first sight but it was a total and complete physical reaction the reverse of recoiling from something you know you shouldn't touch.
So when he's snoring like a dinosaur I remember my first look and don't smother him with a pillow.

No, but probably only because we met as children. I do remember liking his hair and thinking he looked like the illustration of a boy in one of my favourite books so maybe that is a 7 year old version of attraction.

Gosh yes! When I saw him I was like wow, he made my tummy go all funny! Absolutely obsessed with him!

No, the opposite. He was best friends with my closest friend's brother. I was only around 17. I bumped into him on an unexpected night out five years later (it was a Monday. We'd been to a gig and booked annual leave the next day so decided to go out afterwards).
We were married within a year and celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary next month.

No. I thought he was a bit annoying😳 I'd known him years before I started to fancy him - and that was a good while after he'd made it clear he liked me. And now I've never fancied anyone more.

I was instantly attracted to DH. Met at 18, he had the bluest eyes and a wicked grin with a dark humour that matched mine. I knew there and then I'd marry him. I did and we have just passed 30 years together with several DC. He might not be to everyone's taste but he still makes my stomach flip.

100% yes, I was going for an interview and he was standing outside the building and I really couldn't keep my eyes off him as I walked across the carpark, got the job and the man 🤣

Yes. Saw hi across the room at a party. We were both with other people but the following week we were both single and that was that. a very long time ago.

Yes, we met in a nightclub on holiday and we had a long distance relationship for 3 years. It was a complete physical attraction as we had nothing in common but it changed as I got to know him and let me guard down. We still don't have lots in common apart from 18 years of shared history and 3 children. His likes are very different to mine but we just work.

I on the other hand absolutely did not find my husband attractive when I first met him. But 25 years on I do and fancy him like mad! TBF he has got better looking and has gorgeous laughter lines but I think I love him so much that I fancy him even more.
I on the other hand has always fancied despite me definitely not improving the age still calls me beautiful most days.

Yes but I'd had a few drinks 😂 l

Same for me, I didn't want someone else to snap him up so I made a very swift move ! Still together nearly 20 years later

Not really. Was meant to be a ONS but he grew on me and now been married 26 years x

Yes, definitely. I spent a year at university hounding him to go out with me, but he’d been to an all boys boarding school and was terrified of women 😅 Took a while for him to get the message. But I definitely fancied him. He had great legs too.